What to do when God seems invisible?

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confusion1986

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Recently, I have gotten divorced and remarried. My ex husband was very abusive emotionally and mentally. Throughout our entire marriage he was unfaithful. I only stayed cuz my parents said God would be unpleased if I left but after praying and several attempts at counselling, I left. My parents always promised they would not help me with my children if i did and id be on my own. Since then I met and remarried someone who excepted me and my children but now all my parents do is bash him really for no reason. i actually hate even talking to or seeing them. I have been praying begging God to show me some kinda truce or to Help strengthen me like Moses with the children of Isarel but it feels like He is no where around. Am I missing something?
 
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Matt1626

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Recently, I have gotten divorced and remarried. My ex husband was very abusive emotionally and mentally. Throughout our entire marriage he was unfaithful. I only stayed cuz my parents said God would be unpleased if I left but after praying and several attempts at counselling, I left. My parents always promised they would not help me with my children if i did and id be on my own. Since then I met and remarried someone who excepted me and my children but now all my parents do is bash him really for no reason. i actually hate even talking to or seeing them. I have been praying begging God to show me some kinda truce or to Help strengthen me like Moses with the children of Isarel but it feels like He is no where around. Am I missing something?
In today's world in the United States we are typically distracted by the sounds of the worldly, dedicate time in silent prayer away from all distractions. A great thing my church has done is have 24 hours of prayer for an entire week every minute and people sign up for times. We have seen miracles in my church
 
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confusion1986

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In today's world in the United States we are typically distracted by the sounds of the worldly, dedicate time in silent
prayer away from all distractions. A great thing my church has done is have 24 hours of prayer for an entire week every minute and people sign up for times. We have seen miracles in my church
Thanks. I will try that approach.
 
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psychomom

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Recently, I have gotten divorced and remarried. My ex husband was very abusive emotionally and mentally. Throughout our entire marriage he was unfaithful. I only stayed cuz my parents said God would be unpleased if I left but after praying and several attempts at counselling, I left. My parents always promised they would not help me with my children if i did and id be on my own. Since then I met and remarried someone who excepted me and my children but now all my parents do is bash him really for no reason. i actually hate even talking to or seeing them. I have been praying begging God to show me some kinda truce or to Help strengthen me like Moses with the children of Isarel but it feels like He is no where around. Am I missing something?
not missing something, but maybe forgetting?
we all have spiritual amnesia at times. :)

when it seems God is absent, remember His promise in Heb. 13:5
that He will never, no never, no
never leave you or forsake you.
(it's what's known as a triple citation in the Greek)


when we feel weak (and that's great, because it shows you recognize this)
remember Isaiah 41:10 where God says
Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand

sometimes we must simply trust the great and precious promises of God.
just r-e-s-t in Jesus. ♥
 

Dan58

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No offense, but your parents sound like idiots. If they encouraged you to stay with an abusive husband who was cheating on you, then they're probably biblically illiterate. Point out Matthew 19:9 to them; "Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery". Jesus himself gave an exception for divorce, infidelity within a marriage. So I'd explain the biblical grounds for your divorce to your parents, they should also know that the bible doesn't condone spousal abuse "Husbands, love your wives" (Ephesians 5:25). God is around, but He doesn't straighten-out parents just to make our lives easier. Perhaps He expects you to communicate with your parents. Start by asking them why they encouraged you to stay married to an abusive cheater, but now condemn a man who does neither. jmo
 
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Nicee

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Genesis 2:24 ESV / 549 helpful votes Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

I don't have to say anything else, but fine, I will. Your parents had gotten married, and they are happy. It time for you to be happy. Parents are in our life to teach, guide, and direct us in the way we should walk

(.(Proverbs 22:6 ESV / 88 helpful votes
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it)).

When it comes to love/dating/marriage etc. They are only allowed to guide us and give us advice about marriage, love etc. They do not have no right to tell us who we should marry or not, but they have every right to make sure that we marriage a good, respectful, loving partner.

You are not missing anything. Like Mr.Dan58, you need to talk to them face them and ask them why they are doing this to you. Also don't forget to say this "You are marry and happy, all I want from you is for you to allow me to be happy too." I could continue the quote, but I guess you already know where I'm going with it.;)
 
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bikerchaz

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It is a scriptural fact that to divorce and re-marry causes a state of sin through adultery, but there is also more to it than that. Jesus Himself said that an unfaithful partner is a cause of annulment, and as for being in an abusive relationship, well there are those who would quote living in a corner of your roof space is how you cope.
Being in a state of fear and distress is not what God wants for you. I am so glad you are out and away from it. I am so pleased that you have found someone who shares your love and respect for your children. When you meet Jesus one day He will know the whys and the wherefores and the snide comments and actions of others that made life so difficult. He will be glad you looked after your children, and on your crown will be a new name showing and pronouncing your strength as a mother.
You did the right thing, rest in this, the wrangling of family matters blocks the inner ear of the Spirit, It allows satan to bring distention and miss-direction. You would be correct to remove all this stuff of nonsense from your life and get down to what you are supposed to be doing, and look sister, you are!!
God bless.
(Bold Italics are mine)
 
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sassylady

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Your first obligation is to your husband and children, and if it is bringing you down to be around your parents or talk to them, then tell them why you cannot be around them and give them over to God. It is more important that you have peace than the constant strife the situation creates.
 

blue_ladybug

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Your first obligation is to your husband and children, and if it is bringing you down to be around your parents or talk to them, then tell them why you cannot be around them and give them over to God. It is more important that you have peace than the constant strife the situation creates.
​Yup, I agree with sassylady's reply completely. :)