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I just found out my wife has been talking to someone (again). I don't think there's been any physical activity.
Also understand that I feel very low doing this on here but I'm so upset i have to talk and get advice because she doesn't know that i know what's going on and I've already snapped at her a couple times. Thing is I don't want to talk to friends about it because I will hate for anyone I know to view her any differently or to look down on her. I actually scheduled marriage counseling for us 2 weeks ago but it isn't until the end of the month and I can't stay in the same home with her at this point.
First let me say that I am not an insecure man at all nor am I a snooper. However I happen to use her phone last night because mine was dead as I was on it I notice a text that didn't look too appropriate soooo the rest was history.
I haven't brought it up to her yet because I am burning inside! Like I'm so hot (pissed) right now it wouldn't be smart on my part. This isn't the first time she's contacted other men the other times I was aware and I didn't care though because I trusted it was as she said a 'friend' thing. Here's the big reason I'm so upset, 1 she's my wife 2 I've sacrificed so much for her and feel that this eventually will only get worse 3 I have put up with constant accusations and even negative rumors she's started about me I've put up with her talking about me behind my back to my own family and friends the folks I've put her around. I've been accused of cheating sooooooo much that you probably wouldn't believe that I actually did NOT cheat! I never have btw. I've been hit on by women or women send messages to me but she knows it all and the difference is I don't respond, and if I ever have (being it was an old friend etc) i keep it respectful and short, we're not discussing how good looking or cute she is, I'm not receiving or sending pictures and she in my opinion has crossed the line.
How should I handle this without blowing up on my wife. At this point I want to move on from her, this is becoming very trashy and I just won't deal...
Also understand that I feel very low doing this on here but I'm so upset i have to talk and get advice because she doesn't know that i know what's going on and I've already snapped at her a couple times. Thing is I don't want to talk to friends about it because I will hate for anyone I know to view her any differently or to look down on her. I actually scheduled marriage counseling for us 2 weeks ago but it isn't until the end of the month and I can't stay in the same home with her at this point.
First let me say that I am not an insecure man at all nor am I a snooper. However I happen to use her phone last night because mine was dead as I was on it I notice a text that didn't look too appropriate soooo the rest was history.
I haven't brought it up to her yet because I am burning inside! Like I'm so hot (pissed) right now it wouldn't be smart on my part. This isn't the first time she's contacted other men the other times I was aware and I didn't care though because I trusted it was as she said a 'friend' thing. Here's the big reason I'm so upset, 1 she's my wife 2 I've sacrificed so much for her and feel that this eventually will only get worse 3 I have put up with constant accusations and even negative rumors she's started about me I've put up with her talking about me behind my back to my own family and friends the folks I've put her around. I've been accused of cheating sooooooo much that you probably wouldn't believe that I actually did NOT cheat! I never have btw. I've been hit on by women or women send messages to me but she knows it all and the difference is I don't respond, and if I ever have (being it was an old friend etc) i keep it respectful and short, we're not discussing how good looking or cute she is, I'm not receiving or sending pictures and she in my opinion has crossed the line.
How should I handle this without blowing up on my wife. At this point I want to move on from her, this is becoming very trashy and I just won't deal...