honest time sensitive question . . need help

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pontiacj2

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Hello . . How does a genuine honest, loyal , loving, god fearing man . . find a truely honest, devoted, faithful Christian for a wife . . a lady who won't leave if times get tough or a lady who knows the word commitment ? . . I've searched in church and I've search online . . but all I could find are woman after money and richess . . the are quick to use the word LOVE . . but no lady I met knows how love a man with the same kind of love I have ( GODs LOVE ). Agoppie love? I don't have great reception to use this site offtian and it would be quicker to text me you responces . . I have many issues that I need to resolve with a fellow Christan . . but looking for a wife is top on that list . . thank you and please know there won't be any pressure . .
 
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pontiacj2 said:
Hello . . How does a genuine honest, loyal , loving, god fearing man . . find a truely honest, devoted, faithful Christian for a wife . . a lady who won't leave if times get tough or a lady who knows the word commitment ? . . I've searched in church and I've search online . . but all I could find are woman after money and richess . . the are quick to use the word LOVE . . but no lady I met knows how love a man with the same kind of love I have ( GODs LOVE ). Agoppie love? I don't have great reception to use this site offtian and it would be quicker to text me you responces. . I have many issues that I need to resolve with a fellow Christan . . but looking for a wife is top on that list . . thank you and please know there won't be any pressure . .
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You're not going to find anyone better than yourself. Make your list of must haves, like to haves, and really doesn't matter if you haves. Don't compromise on the must haves no matter what.

And obviously talk is cheap. You need to find out who the person really is and not the image they portray to you in the early stages of meeting. That takes time and communication. Eventually the mask will fall off if they are wearing one.

Also I would really caution meeting anyone on the internet. The internet is full of fake people, psychopaths, crazy people, desperate people and crooked people and scammers. They just want someone to hook up with and anyone will do.

There is no easy answer to this. Tell God what you want and ask for his help.

And if all else fails and you are not sure of the person then hire a private investigator for final reassurance. It is sad but there are just too many kooks around these days, especially on the internet.
 
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pontiac, I would warn against trying to meet people online, because you don't really know who they are or what they're like. I'm sure if you give this situation over to Jesus, he will allow you to find someone special who is right for you. :) Also, this site discourages giving out your personal info on here because this site is viewable to literally the entire world. I have asked a mod to remove your phone number from your initial reply. What people post on here CAN be seen by the entire online world.
 
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pontiacj2 said:
Hello . . How does a genuine honest, loyal , loving, god fearing man . . find a truely honest, devoted, faithful Christian for a wife . . a lady who won't leave if times get tough or a lady who knows the word commitment ? . . I've searched in church and I've search online . . but all I could find are woman after money and richess . . the are quick to use the word LOVE . . but no lady I met knows how love a man with the same kind of love I have ( GODs LOVE ). Agoppie love? I don't have great reception to use this site offtian and it would be quicker to text me you responces . . I have many issues that I need to resolve with a fellow Christan . . but looking for a wife is top on that list . . thank you and please know there won't be any pressure . .
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If the woman of your dreams is old fashioned, she may not want to make the first move by doing something so bold as to text a man.

There are women out there looking for godly men, wondering where to find them. You could try going to different churches on Wednesday night and getting into a conversation where you very casually slip in the fact that you are looking for a wife. What is the age bracket you are looking at? Some of those patriarchal homes school families that don't believe in dating must be looking for potential spouses for mates. You could go to a Christian home school conference. If you like home school, you can tell them you are single and looking for a wife but one day you would like to home school your kids.

I happened to be living overseas when I met my wife. Some of the women from certain Asian countries are very family oriented. Divorce rates are low among some of the Christian communities in this country.

If you do date, instead of just seeing if you like the same music, etc. and seeing if you have chemistry... as you probably know.. you can talk about values including beliefs about divorce. If she thinks a woman can divorce if she's not in love or wants to find herself, and can't be convinced otherwise, end it. Two thirds of no-fault divorces are initiated by women these days and it is important to find out these beliefs before either of you gets too emotionally involved.
 
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Nothing wrong with meeting people online to date.

But, for one, you are in the section for people already married, asking for a wife.
Second, this site isn't made to find a spouse.
Lastly, posting your phone number is discouraged as the Entire Internet can view it.
Oh, and usually the person that just joins the site and immediately tries to get people off the site to talk is viewed suspiciously. And it would be unwise of anyone to send a total stranger their phone number anyways.

And, really, this isn't a really time sensitive question. I'm 39 and single, yet i don't consider finding a woman through a single post on a site as time sensitive. If you think it's that important to get married so urgently perhaps that's the reason you can't find anyone. Placing too high a priority on marriage.
 
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We all want something from God, but we never stop to think and ask "Lord what do u want from me?" God has emotions and feelings too. No one want to see Jesus cry. I can't imagine how many times he have cried. Before anyone ask something from him. How about taking sometime to ask him what u can do to ease his pain.
 
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God must be first in your life; your spouse will never ever completely fulfill everything no matter how close they are to the Lord.

You sound too desperate to be married yet. A marriage will not work this way.
 
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it is not written that every man or woman will have it's partner, not everyone gets married, and so are many examples from Bible.
The love you speak, agappe, is only ment between God and us, us and God. The love between a man and woman can only be phileo, a lower kind of love, but still strong, because he who loves his man/woman more than loves God is not worthy of the Kingdom. ( sais the Bible)

I am married, I met my wife online, and after 2 years of chatting we met live and continued the relation. You can find love online, but not on dating webs.
 
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pontiacjc,

Have you got your wife yet? Any calls? I'm just curious to know if that worked for you.

I also wonder if someone posted someone else's phone number as a joke. :)
 
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Before you ask where are all the good women....figure out WHY you want a wife so badly? Loneliness is not the reason to want to marry, as it can make one overly pushy in trying to make someone into what they want instead of accepting a person for who they are. Focus on keeping yourself close to God, and let God work the rest out. But remember, even Godly women are human, as are Godly men, and as such will make mistakes, disappoint us and anger us....as we will do to them as well.
 
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I heard Voddie Baucham preach on marriage. I think he has a valid point. The New Testament says it is better to marry than to burn. If a young person wants to marry, church people nowadays will discourage it.

God said about Adam, "It is not good for a man to be alone."

What I see on this thread is people asking the man why he wants to get married so bad. Why don't we just encourage him to get married, and pray that he'll find someone good fast. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord.
 
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pontiacj2 said:
Hello . . How does a genuine honest, loyal , loving, god fearing man . . find a truely honest, devoted, faithful Christian for a wife . . a lady who won't leave if times get tough or a lady who knows the word commitment ? . . I've searched in church and I've search online . . but all I could find are woman after money and richess . . the are quick to use the word LOVE . . but no lady I met knows how love a man with the same kind of love I have ( GODs LOVE ). Agoppie love? I don't have great reception to use this site offtian and it would be quicker to text me you responces . . I have many issues that I need to resolve with a fellow Christan . . but looking for a wife is top on that list . . thank you and please know there won't be any pressure . .
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PLEASE DO NOT POST PERSONAL PHONE NUMBERS ONLINE AS ANYONE CAN SEE IT THROUGH A GOOGLE SEARCH
 
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