Difference Between Adulterer and a Faithful Spouse
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Silly rules? I'm thinking of practical things like what Joseph did. He refused to be in the same room with Potiphar's wife, and even ran out of the room naked to avoid her advances. He may have ended up in prison, but he avoided adultery.
Paul said flee fornication.
Something practical a man can do is not go in the topless bar. He could go in saying, I'll go, but not look with lust. Is that wise? No. It's just looking for temptation. We are to pray, "lead us not into temptation.' If we pray that, we should act in accordance with our prayers and try to avoid temptation.
Some other practical things people can do is take care when working with co-workers of the opposite gender. You have to be careful with business lunches not to give off the wrong vibe or not get into situations that create more of a temptation when you could do safer activities. If you can work in a group of three, rather than long nights at the office with the secretary, that may be safer.
Let your spouse know if a co-worker is flirting with you (unless your spouse is the crazy jealous type, then let a Christian friend know for accountability and prayer.)
My wife gets friendly enquiries from men on facebook all the time. She doesn't accept men she doesn't know as friends. She even put me in her profile picture and still gets messages from single men being unusually friendly. She also lets me know about this stuff.
Paul said flee fornication.
Something practical a man can do is not go in the topless bar. He could go in saying, I'll go, but not look with lust. Is that wise? No. It's just looking for temptation. We are to pray, "lead us not into temptation.' If we pray that, we should act in accordance with our prayers and try to avoid temptation.
Some other practical things people can do is take care when working with co-workers of the opposite gender. You have to be careful with business lunches not to give off the wrong vibe or not get into situations that create more of a temptation when you could do safer activities. If you can work in a group of three, rather than long nights at the office with the secretary, that may be safer.
Let your spouse know if a co-worker is flirting with you (unless your spouse is the crazy jealous type, then let a Christian friend know for accountability and prayer.)
My wife gets friendly enquiries from men on facebook all the time. She doesn't accept men she doesn't know as friends. She even put me in her profile picture and still gets messages from single men being unusually friendly. She also lets me know about this stuff.
That's cool, whatever works for you. I just personally think that telling your wife that someone was flirting with you, drops a lot of unnecessary anxiety in her lap. I guess it all boils down to trust. I still think that if a married person can't trust themselves around someone of the opposite sex, one must question just how committed they are to their marriage.
I don't mean to pick on you specifically, but I have heard this viewpoint many times before so I hope you don't mind if I quote you in my response. 
The common view from those who oppose the "defend your marriage at all costs" camp, is "wow, if you need to do ______ to stay faithful, you must be weak/insecure/untrustworthy/etc"
Does a mighty fortress rely on its walls alone? No. It has additional guards patrolling the area, or additional security such as surveillance cameras to constantly scan the perimeter. Likewise, should we rely on the vows alone, or is it okay to promote practical measures to help ensure that those vows are kept?
Let's remember who the real enemy is here. The true enemy of any marriage is not the tempting co-worker trying to seduce your spouse. The enemy isn't even yourself (for those who state that protecting the marriage means they don't "trust themselves"). The enemy is SATAN. He seeks to destroy anything that brings glory to God. He HATES Christ-centered marriages that are faithful and loving and demonstrate the relationship between Christ and His church. He HATES when people keep their marriage vows. He hates it all because it all exalts and brings praise to the God who designed marriage to be a faithful Union between man and wife.
Satan will use whatever means necessary to destroy a marriage. Some of his methods are blatant, but some are far more subtle and hard to detect. How many men and women in this forum have posted heartbreaking accounts of their marriage falling apart because of something that started so small...as small as a text from a coworker, or lunch alone with a friend of the opposite sex. Every human is born of sinful nature, which gives Satan an awful lot of material to work with. Every marriage has weaknesses, simply because we are human. How could anyone fault someone else for adding additional security precautions to protect something so precious as a marriage?
Logically, it's simple. The more precious and valuable something is, the more security and protection it warrants. Think of the security detail of a local shopping center versus the security of an important government facility. Defending your marriage from does not mean you don't trust yourself. It means you hold your marriage in very high regard.
The common view from those who oppose the "defend your marriage at all costs" camp, is "wow, if you need to do ______ to stay faithful, you must be weak/insecure/untrustworthy/etc"
Does a mighty fortress rely on its walls alone? No. It has additional guards patrolling the area, or additional security such as surveillance cameras to constantly scan the perimeter. Likewise, should we rely on the vows alone, or is it okay to promote practical measures to help ensure that those vows are kept?
Let's remember who the real enemy is here. The true enemy of any marriage is not the tempting co-worker trying to seduce your spouse. The enemy isn't even yourself (for those who state that protecting the marriage means they don't "trust themselves"). The enemy is SATAN. He seeks to destroy anything that brings glory to God. He HATES Christ-centered marriages that are faithful and loving and demonstrate the relationship between Christ and His church. He HATES when people keep their marriage vows. He hates it all because it all exalts and brings praise to the God who designed marriage to be a faithful Union between man and wife.
Satan will use whatever means necessary to destroy a marriage. Some of his methods are blatant, but some are far more subtle and hard to detect. How many men and women in this forum have posted heartbreaking accounts of their marriage falling apart because of something that started so small...as small as a text from a coworker, or lunch alone with a friend of the opposite sex. Every human is born of sinful nature, which gives Satan an awful lot of material to work with. Every marriage has weaknesses, simply because we are human. How could anyone fault someone else for adding additional security precautions to protect something so precious as a marriage?
Logically, it's simple. The more precious and valuable something is, the more security and protection it warrants. Think of the security detail of a local shopping center versus the security of an important government facility. Defending your marriage from does not mean you don't trust yourself. It means you hold your marriage in very high regard.
It depends on the wife, I suppose. If she's the jealous, worrying type, that might not be a good idea. But if she interprets it as you being so concerned with being faithful that you tell her or your being open to her, that can be a good thing.
You can also say that if someone really loved Jesus, he wouldn't lose his temper and yell at his kids. If someone really loved Jesus, you could say, he wouldn't look at that magazine cover and have an inappropriate thought. You could say if a man really loved Jesus ,he could go into the strip club and look at the strippers without thinking a lustful thought or looking with lust.
Part of love is commitment. If we are committed to God, our spouse, our marriage, we can take some practical steps to help stay out of trouble. Paul said for he who thinks he stands to beware lest he fall.
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Does this go along with the thought of fleeing from temptation or along with praying "Lead us not into temptation"? Even Timothy in Bible was told to flee? So if the Timothy in the Bible was even told to flee from temptation, what makes you think that "Godly" person can go to in middle of temptation like that (Yes God can keep someone by His Holy Spirit from falling, but the choice 1 is to flee from even the possibility of situation like that.)? Godly person would flee from the temptation..
I would recommend you Presidente read the following article by Zac Poonen on sermonindex forums: Three Reasons for Falling Into Sin by Zac Poonen - Sermon Index
I would recommend you Presidente read the following article by Zac Poonen on sermonindex forums: Three Reasons for Falling Into Sin by Zac Poonen - Sermon Index
It's good that you mentioned that. I was talking about this topic today and made mention of that verse. If we pray for the Lord not to lead us into temptation, and we believe what we pray, then we need to do our part to stay out of temptation.
Joseph left the room to keep away from the temptation to adultery. He even ran out of the house naked one time to avoid temptation.
I Corinthians 10:12 tells the one who thinks he stands to take heed lest he fall.
Joseph left the room to keep away from the temptation to adultery. He even ran out of the house naked one time to avoid temptation.
I Corinthians 10:12 tells the one who thinks he stands to take heed lest he fall.
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Just my own opinion here but sometimes we get spiritually superior,we think we can never be tempted or fall.I've known many a pastor who fell not being wise and making sure there wife was by their side.Satan knows when and where to hit us.I use to have a friend who was flirtatious and use to email me.Once I started dating my now husband this guy still sent me flirtatious emails.I let him know I was serious about this person but he continued.Now he was a Christian.So when he emailed again I said my goodbyes and blocked him.My sister said there was no need for that and she and her husband trusted each other and he even had old girlfriends on his FB. But I didn't feel right about it.Five years have passed and suddenly in my junk mail this same guy shows up out of the blue.He asked how I was doing and if this was my email still.I deleted it and told my fiance.We were married a couple weeks ago and I was talking to my mother yesterday and she told me about this flirtatious former friend.His family is no longer speaking to him because he broke up the marriage of the pastor of his church and married his wife! So I think you should do things to protect your marriage.Billy Graham never found himself alone with a woman,it was a rule he had.A smart one at that.