Asked friend couple to come to church , but they say Christians are not so good.

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Michelleks

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The family is in chaos, not happy, quarrel all the time, even fights. I think what can really help them, is they become believer, and The Lord will save them, save the family.
But, in spring, the wife told me about her misery, I was in germany, so I asked church member to go see if she is really hurt, and ask them to believe in god, she got mad at me, said it spread gossip of hers.
On Monday, she needs to go visit sick father,and I called her to say good bye, and the husband started telling me their problems, I said I can not help, but if they come to church, The Lord will, and he said, even Christians , do not behave well, have family issues. I said, Christians are not saints, need time, for our life to be changed.
And the wife got mad, and emailed me to leave me alone.
I need help here, what should I do?
 
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bee88

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I would keep praying for them daily and every time you think of them. We don't know the personal struggle they might be going through. You might have lost that friendship for know BUT you have planted a seed that will be forever there. God will use that maybe someone else will reach out as you did and suggest Church...Have you replied to the e-mail. You could reply and tell the family that you will respect that they don't wish to be your friend but you care for them and will always be open to talking when they are. The power of prayer will amaze you...you might not get to see first hand what the outcome is but praying for them you will be giving them up to God!
 
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Nicee

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when u r trying to help a nonbeliever dont just say something like "go to church etc or God will make things better." There are ways u should approach them. She may feel u want to throw God down their throats. God is Love. The fact that u love her n her family is the first sign of God she see. People believe in Love but not in(agape love) God. So reply to her message and say sorry. Try to not solve her problems but be there for her. The love u give to her might be her way to God. We cant change a nonbeliever heart but we can let God talk to them through us.
 
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Ugly

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Sounds like they made it clear they weren't interested and you pushed it anyways. My advice, leave them alone, just liked they asked you. Hammering your point on them won't help them, or you. Sometimes the best way to witness is in your actions, not pushing God in their face every time they come to you with a problem.
Really, a lot of Christians even hate hearing an excess of God or scripture thrown at them. Usually they already know it all, and what they really need is a friend to listen, encourage and maybe offer advice. And sprinkling God and scripture into that is part of it. But if a person can't talk to you without you shrugging your shoulders and pushing them to church or God, then people will want nothing to do with you.
God gives us wisdom, and with some people, He gives the ability to empathize, encourage, listen, advice, etc... Because that's part of helping. Not just saying 'God' 'church', but listening and encouraging. That's part of what fellowship is. We all have learned lessons and have experiences we've been through. We are not always the only ones meant to benefit from the outcome. Sometimes the benefit will come to another when we share our experience, or use it to help relate to what they're going through.
I think you would do more good with non-Christians if there was less 'i don't know, go to church' and more being a friend and connecting with them. Let your actions reflect God.

But if these people are saying 'leave us alone' then leave them alone. The way it seems you've been dealing with them seems more impersonal, detached and pushy. So give them space. Maybe they'll change their minds and contact you again when they calm down.
 
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gb9

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yes, sometimes folks just are not interested. and I say this gently going to Church will not solve all their problems. they are going to have to decide to change and open their hearts to God. my neighbors are a good example : alcohol and pill abuse are daily normal for them. I pray for them, have invited them to my church, but I do not throw it in their face all the time.
just going to church will not stop the stuff, they have to be willing to change.
 
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OzDavo34

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All you can do friend is continue to be you & show through your actions & words the love of our Lord & how it makes you who you are. Continue to offer them the word but maybe when they tell you there troubles say something like "you all know who I am & what I believe & that I fully believe that, that is what has made me the person I am, so if you are ready to talk about God I am here for you always "

God bless

OzDavo34
 
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Michelleks

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Thank all the sisters and brothers . I will read them carefully , and try to remember .
God loves us all, I will have courage, and love, and show it to other people.
 
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