Forgiveness from Adultery

  • Thread starter Beautiful_In_His_Sight
  • Start date
  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
B

Beautiful_In_His_Sight

Guest
#61
#61
sassylady said:
You need to be honest, sin is sin and it has a name and needs to be spoken. It's easy to say you forgive someone when you have not actually faced what was done. He may find he feels differently when he knows specifically what was done, and he can only fully forgive you one day when he faces it. He makes it easier for you to go back to what you did if it does not get out in the open and taken care of.

I had a family member that pretty much felt like if I don't know then it didn't happen. Her son, my ex, molested our daughters and he has yet to admit it (blames it on my dad) because she enables him to lie. So he has not repented or admitted because she doesn't want to hear it and she makes it easy for him. It's a vicious circle and I long for the day when it finally all comes out in the open from his side of it, but I don't hold my breath either. It's like we all have something hanging over our heads that is unfinished.
Click to expand...
If you read my post number 53 on this thread you can see I have now been specific with him.
 
Y

Ya

Guest
#62
#62
My personal thought is when Jesus was presented with the woman caught in adultery I hadn't read where he told her to talk about your sin in full detail. I thought He told her to go and sin no more. Now I do believe in reconciling and being straightforward and honest; not brushing things under the rug because if this situation is more recent then there is obviously a problem which needs to be dealt with spiritual and psychological. There's reasons you've what you've done, although Christ didn't ask that, you mustn't be set back but move forward and if digging up the past will be a trap to set you back don't even bother with it, that is if you don't think you're ready to really deal with the root of it all.
Just my own personal opinion, I have my own issues and flaws btw so we're in this together, growing together.
 
P

purpose

Guest
#63
#63
I would agree. Now Im Not perfect . When i first met my Husband which were yet not married, I was living with someone . I was in recovery and attending A.A . meetings . Now i have asked my live in at the time to come and no no no. so when i met my Husband ( which i was bartending under sobriety
 
P

purpose

Guest
#64
#64
this i Pad. anywho. Make a long story short . the ex boyfriend said hey once last time blah blah blah. i was then living with my new boyfriend whom is now my husband. so it happened. I felt terrible . sick inside. after awhile i just forgot about. Then the time came he asked me to marry him. Then all of sudden one day my heart just kept going back to that day. Then i had this feeling for God to bless this marriage i had to admit to him what i did and ask forgiveness. Now i was a wreak. thinking my god he will leave me then a feeling came over me and i knew not to underestimate my man. so i told him . crying and said if you want me to leave i will. The outcome. He said he already knew and yes he forgave me and when i heard those words it was a peace over me i never knew. We did get married and we are happy . We are also expecting a baby in may. so it does work out for the good. I had to obey god and i did. With God all things are Possible Mark10;27
 
Joidevivre

Joidevivre

Senior Member
#65
Jul 15, 2014
3,838
271
83
#65
Your pastor does not have authority over you. I was in a church once, and those very words led to a "controlling spirit" in the man. Many were hurt eventually. Your pastor is there to serve you, guide and direct. But not make personal decisions for you.

He only has the authority to bring the gospel to you - but you have the Holy Spirit IN YOU to guide you into making the right decisions for you. If anyone has authority over you, it would be your husband, not the pastor. If your husband feels it should now be forgotten and he has expressed forgiveness, good for him! Take it from his authority.

If you still discern that this is affecting your marriage, go to a Christian marriage counselor (both of you).
 
B

Brokenhearted28

Guest
#66
#66
Question: why do you keep cheating on your husband? Or do you even really know why. Let's start there
 
S

Sirk

Guest
#67
#67
Beautiful_In_His_Sight said:
I am a Christian but committed adultery several times. My pastor told me that unless I confess the full detail of everything to my husband God cannot forgive me. My husband is aware that I have "been bad" but has not yet said the words "adulteress" or "I understand you have had sex with other people during our marriage" but says he forgives me for my "being bad" and "today is a new day" and that he does not want to know what it is I have done as he forgives me anyway. Do you agree with my pastor in that you think I have to tell my husband the full detail of everything in order to be forgiven by God? My pastor says that unless my husband forgives me God will not forgive me.
Click to expand...
I think you need get to the heart of why you have the compulsion to cheat on your husband. What insecurity is within you that sends you down that path?
 
E

Elijah19

Guest
#68
#68
God can forgive you even if your husband doesn't. Your pastor is lying. You should repent and ask both Jesus and your husband's forgiveness though...

God bless,
Elijah19
 
L

LambieBear

Guest
#69
#69
Listen. Whatever you do, do not tell your husband what you did. Your pastor is a total jerk for telling you that. If you confess all of your sins to your husband, it will ruin your marriage. I think it is really sweet that your husband wants to forgive you. Most men wouldn't. I know if you are really sorry that God will forgive you. Aldutery is a terrible sin, but there ar worse things. I think you really need to spend some time in prayer, and ask God to help you find out why you did what you did. It can be really hard, but He can take you on a journey, and help you discover things about yourself that will make it possible for you to change.
 
M

MollyConnor

Guest
#70
#70
I don't think it's a good idea to tell him everything...unless he wants to know. If he says he has forgiven you, then you are forgiven. You don't need anyone else's forgiveness but the Lord's.

Yes, it's great that you told your husband, but even if he didn't want to forgive you and you asked the Lord for forgiveness, the Lord will forgive you. :)
Please lean on the Lord for strength and don't cheat on your husband again.
Have a blessed day and I hope your marriage is healed. :D
 
J

Jeff_56

Banned
#71
Dec 26, 2014
3,757
19
0
#71
LeeLoving said:
This doesn't make sense to me. Aren't we forgiven when we bring our sins to Christ, repent, and ask for forgiveness?
Click to expand...
ibid. (i didn't read nay other posts in this thread, not even the op)

seek in scripture the answer - it's different than you think (and others here). it is in scripture.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.