I need someone with sound, new testament advice on an important issue.

[notuptome]

Thanks Roger, i am doing all i can to be patient and to avoid temptation. Had I been a christian at the beginning of my marriage i never would have made those choices. I was caught up in what the world says about love and happiness. I haven't talked to the x since before my hisbamd even found out about it and even though my husband slept with someone else i haven't resorted to getting even. I know that the person I am today and my strength against temptation is because of God living within me.

I just don't know what to do at this point. Two years of trying to make up for mistakes I made by simply typing on a computer, and lets remmber the wrong mindset too. I thought that if i wasn't DOING things literally or sharing photos/developing a relationship that it could be taken back or hidden forever.
Now I realise how thoughts can manifest.

God is faithful and when God says He forgave you all your sins He forgave all of them. God forgives and forgets placing your sins behind His back and remembering them no more.

You however are not God so you will remember them and you will be grieved over them. Others will use them against you so be prepared and stay close to the Lord. Only God can do what seems impossible.

You must forgive others as you would have them forgive you. An old evangelist once said do right do right until the stars fall.

No matter the temptation God will make a way for you to endure it. God will not permit you to be tempted above that which you are able to endure.

For the cause of Christ
Roger

 

[purpose]

I am blessed and happy to be envied because my iniquities are forgiven and my sins are covered up and completely buried. The lord will take no account nor reckon it against me. Romans 4:7-8.

I condemn not, and I shall not be condemned. I Forgive, and I will be Forgiven. Luke 6:37

 

[sassylady]

I would say you are not obligated to stay as long as he is living in this sin. If you can find a place to go with the baby then go. Not necessarily divorce, but get away from him and take a stand. And continue in prayer. God will continue to show you what to do.

 

[jjtj22]

Disclaimer: if you are reading this and your spouse is unfaithful do not take my advice to justamanda as staying with someone unfaithful as the best christian response, I truly believe that is a case by case answer.


Justamanda,

My first knee jerk reaction is to leave an unfaithful spouse, however after having thought about your unique situation my advice to you specifically would be slightly different.

You are a "baby" christian, just starting your christian walk with God and you are seeing sin as the destructive rot that it is. That is The Holy Spirit working in your heart guiding you to the path of righteousness. However, I see you falling in a deadfall that I struggled through when I was younger in my faith and still occasionally struggle with - fixing your husband's sins.

Is he being sinful? Extremely. It is natural for you to crave the spiritual leadership of your husband, to have him lead the family in love. The beautiful thing about God is that He makes salvation possible and not dependent on your husband's belief. What I am saying to you is that even though you asking for what is good and right your focus is wrong.

Being a baby christian focus completely on cleaning up your sins, read your bible, go to church find a mature christian lady that will speak biblical truth to you, either on this site or in your life. Focus on cleaning the rot of sin out of your life, you will never be able to clean anyone else., that is The Holy Spirit's place not yours. By your conduct you will either win your husband over or once you have focused on cleaning yourself out will know what to do without your sin and selfishness blinding you.

You are in a very vunerable position, young in your faith, with the pressures of a family, a new baby coming, an unbelieving husband, history of unfaithfulness in your marriage and the devil roaring like a lion wanting to devour you. You will have a tough uphill walk ahead but keep the faith, Jesus will walk every step with you.

 

[RachieLou]

My heart goes out to you. You must feel so alone and also to have these young children looking up to you, it is desperately hard to know what the right thing to do is. I praise God that you have found salvation in Jesus in the middle of it all.

Jesus does say that you can divorce because of adultery in Matthew 19 although some Christians can manage to rescue their marriages despite this, it would normally require both people to comity to rebuilding the relationship. I have an incredibly difficult marriage and the verse below is a great comfort to me.

Isaiah 54:6-7 The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit—a wife who young, only to be rejected,” says your God. “For a brief moment I abandoned you,but with deep compassion I will bring you back.

Every blessing xx