i have the worst canser in the world

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seekingg

seekingg

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the cancer i have is so ugly that half your family will abandon you.
this cancer even makes you children hate you.
this cancer first kills you but you never die.
this cancer does not inspire people to have a barbecue fund raiser.
this cancer kills your heart first.
this cancer is contagious.
this cancer will leave you wishing you had lung cancer or prostate cancer or any other kind of cancer.
this cancer makes you spouse mad at you.
this cancer does not bring people together in parer for you.
this cancer is divorce.
i have this cancer, please pray for me and my girls and my wife.
 
blue_ladybug

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seekingg said:
the cancer i have is so ugly that half your family will abandon you.
this cancer even makes you children hate you.
this cancer first kills you but you never die.
this cancer does not inspire people to have a barbecue fund raiser.
this cancer kills your heart first.
this cancer is contagious.
this cancer will leave you wishing you had lung cancer or prostate cancer or any other kind of cancer.
this cancer makes you spouse mad at you.
this cancer does not bring people together in parer for you.
this cancer is divorce.
i have this cancer, please pray for me and my girls and my wife.
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seekingg, umm, about the sentence I highlighted in red, WHY would you even say that?!! As a person who has actually HAD cancer in the past, and knows of some people who DO have cancer now, I find that sentence a bit insulting to say the least!!
Secondly, there is no comparison between a deadly disease and divorce, which is tragic but not deadly. I would not wish any type of cancer even upon my worst enemy, yet here you say that you basically wish you had cancer instead of going through a divorce? What the???


I will pray that God be with you during this difficult time. I know it must be terribly stressful for you. In the meantime, please stop likening divorce to cancer..

​Lord, please be with seekingg right now as he and his family go through this tough time. Lay your healing hand upon this family and draw them closer to you. Give him a better outlook on this whole situation. In Jesus' name, amen.
 
SoulWeaver

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Wow I was so shaken reading for a moment I thought you had some terrible form of cancer!
I thank Jesus that you are alive and without cancer! Everything still can get good, please do not put faith into the negative, when we do that, that gives demons foothold.
I pray He will send you the Comforter and hold His hand over the whole house and that He will heal and uplift you all, and bring peace. His will be done in your house and for His glory. amen in Jesus' name
 
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Divorce is like a cancer eating away at the fabric of the family and the Church. I understand your point and it is in a great context. The similarities are equally as devastating. I have dealt with many people with cancer even some have stated divorce was just as bad.

I beg to differ divorce is deadly it is a deadly thing to the family and the spirit it is deadly to relationships, it has killed many people who commit suicide as a result, oh yeah divorce is as bad as cancer and any other terminal disease.
The point you made will anger some and that is ok.

I don't believe in wishes that is to close to witchcraft and genies and such but I get what you mean.
It was your point to make and a valid one. Sin eats away at the fabric of families let folks scream about that. They pick and choose what they want to respond to and then start from there. It was a good point and I agree with it.
 
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Fenner

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I understand what you're saying but be glad you don't have cancer. You can still be a great Dad to your kids. I watched my Dad's body wither away from prostrate cancer when I was 16. You can still live after a divorce. Your children still have their father. Cherish the time with them and pray you never actually get cancer.
 
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oldthennew

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Yes, there are many kinds of cancer in this evil world,
both spiritual, emotional, and physical.

may God have mercy upon us, and may we cling
to the only One Who has the mercy to heal.
 
SoulWeaver

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This statement is not cool, when we are just relieved that he was spared a terminal illness Pastac.
They pick and choose what they want to respond to and then start from there.
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It didnt get me angry at all, just very crushed to see his hurt and thinking his whole family would hate him because he is ill.
 
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pastac

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Truth is hard.Folks on cc pick and choose what to respond to.Didnt you? Its ok to have an opinion on whatever just be advised its not the only one! So cool or not cool its still true.And I'm good with that.
 
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pastac

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SoulWeaver said:
This statement is not cool, when we are just relieved that he was spared a terminal illness Pastac.


It didnt get me angry at all, just very crushed to see his hurt and thinking his whole family would hate him because he is ill.[/QUOT

Natural or spiritual im concerned either way
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SoulWeaver

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I agreed with the rest of your post, did I not? :) And I nowhere condemn him for expressing his pain. Be blessed
 
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VioletReigns

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Don't divorce. Separate and wait on the Lord to heal you both. Isn't that a better option?
 
Angela53510

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Is your divorce over, are you in the middle of it? One way or another, you are obviously hurting.

I will say, that divorce is a two way street. Have you acknowledged to God your part in this terrible event? Were you the loving husband you could have been, or obsessed with work or other things?

In the end, you need to repent of what went wrong, forgive your ex-wife for her part in the divorce, and try and find hope and healing. And do stay in contact with your children. And do not give up!

Praying for you to find the peace of God, in the midst of this tragic situation.
 
Percepi

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Sorry, but the opening post greatly underestimates the severity of cancer. Divorce is pretty bad, but cancer is far worse.

But, divorce can lead people into severe depression - I just think you created a fairly poor analogy. Anyway, sounds like you're going through some tough things right now. Want to talk about it?
 
seekingg

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blue_ladybug said:
seekingg, umm, about the sentence I highlighted in red, WHY would you even say that?!! As a person who has actually HAD cancer in the past, and knows of some people who DO have cancer now, I find that sentence a bit insulting to say the least!!
Secondly, there is no comparison between a deadly disease and divorce, which is tragic but not deadly. I would not wish any type of cancer even upon my worst enemy, yet here you say that you basically wish you had cancer instead of going through a divorce? What the???


I will pray that God be with you during this difficult time. I know it must be terribly stressful for you. In the meantime, please stop likening divorce to cancer..

​Lord, please be with seekingg right now as he and his family go through this tough time. Lay your healing hand upon this family and draw them closer to you. Give him a better outlook on this whole situation. In Jesus' name, amen.
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thank you blue lady bug..... My divorce has gone on for 4 years. I have turned every thing over to god. I am not thinking about suicide.
my 18 year old tried to commit suicide 3 time now my 11 yr old is of that age now....
My good friend joe has lung cancer, for 2 yrs his family wife and children have surrounded him with love and it has drawn them closer to god, they have beat the cancer we hope. His in-laws are at his side also.
I lost half of my family meaning my in-laws who were very close to me, they sided with my wife and there is great bitterness.
we have had fund raisers for Joe because medical expenses are high.
we have not done any fund raisers for me.

I am not saying that i want to die but i am saying that keeping the family together with mom dad kids and God is worth dieing for.
If my friend joe had died his legacy would still be about glorifying god, being a good husband and dad.
 
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pastac

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Brother it is hard what you describe. The kids are affected differently it is like the cancer you described. The pain and feelings you have are real. Divorce affects men differently than women And I am not minimizing the fact that it affects both. I understand your thought process as a man. The kids are of great concern wrap them in love be strong for them cry in private if need be but don't be afraid to show emotions around them. Keep your head cool don't loose your temper in anger or your focus in hurt, bet God minded if you can.Think of it this way God did not bring you this far to abandon you or leave you keep seeking!, Keep trusting his will for you. I'll be praying.
 
seekingg

seekingg

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Percepi said:
Sorry, but the opening post greatly underestimates the severity of cancer. Divorce is pretty bad, but cancer is far worse.

But, divorce can lead people into severe depression - I just think you created a fairly poor analogy. Anyway, sounds like you're going through some tough things right now. Want to talk about it?
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thanks percepi ....... My divorce has gone on for 4 years. I have turned every thing over to god. I am not thinking about suicide.
my 18 year old tried to commit suicide 3 time now my 11 yr old is of that age now....
My good friend joe has lung cancer, for 2 yrs his family wife and children have surrounded him with love and it has drawn them closer to god, they have beat the cancer we hope. His in-laws are at his side also.
I lost half of my family meaning my in-laws who were very close to me, they sided with my wife and there is great bitterness.
we have had fund raisers for Joe because medical expenses are high.
we have not done any fund raisers for me.

I am not saying that i want to die but i am saying that keeping the family together with mom dad kids and God is worth dieing for.
If my friend joe had died his legacy would still be about glorifying god, being a good husband and dad.
 
seekingg

seekingg

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SoulWeaver said:
Wow I was so shaken reading for a moment I thought you had some terrible form of cancer!
I thank Jesus that you are alive and without cancer! Everything still can get good, please do not put faith into the negative, when we do that, that gives demons foothold.
I pray He will send you the Comforter and hold His hand over the whole house and that He will heal and uplift you all, and bring peace. His will be done in your house and for His glory. amen in Jesus' name
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what do you mean when you say dont

faith into the negative.... i dont want to do that...
 
blue_ladybug

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seekingg said:
the cancer i have is so ugly that half your family will abandon you.
this cancer even makes you children hate you.
this cancer first kills you but you never die.
this cancer does not inspire people to have a barbecue fund raiser.
this cancer kills your heart first.
this cancer is contagious.
this cancer will leave you wishing you had lung cancer or prostate cancer or any other kind of cancer.
this cancer makes you spouse mad at you.
this cancer does not bring people together in parer for you.
this cancer is divorce.
i have this cancer, please pray for me and my girls and my wife.
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seekingg said:
what do you mean when you say dont

faith into the negative.... i dont want to do that...
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seekingg, I re-posted your OP here for you to read and re-read. Every sentence of what you wrote is nothing but negative. That is what SoulWeaver meant by "dont put faith into negativity." If you feed negativity with a bad attitude, then that's all you're gonna see and feel. Try thinking about your divorce in a more positive light. What are some POSITIVE things that have come from it?

I can think of at least one good thing: it brought you here to CC, where you're meeting people like us who can try and give you a new perspective on all this!! lol :)
 
seekingg

seekingg

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blue_ladybug said:

seekingg, I re-posted your OP here for you to read and re-read. Every sentence of what you wrote is nothing but negative. That is what SoulWeaver meant by "dont put faith into negativity." If you feed negativity with a bad attitude, then that's all you're gonna see and feel. Try thinking about your divorce in a more positive light. What are some POSITIVE things that have come from it?

I can think of at least one good thing: it brought you here to CC, where you're meeting people like us who can try and give you a new perspective on all this!! lol :)
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my daughters now think i am a lier...
my daughters do not trust me..
my older daughter does not come to see me.
i have lost over life time of assets to lawyers.
I LOST EVERYTHING BUT I GAINED SALVATION... I DID GET A GOOD DEAL... the thing is it was not necessary for my daughters to suffer so much..
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