What is the Bible's council in this area? How did and does Jesus treat people. The Gospels hold the key for your marriage. All the earthly counseling in the world can't fix this. Only Jesus and following His instruction with much prayer will help you and Him. The next time you are seething made, remember how Christ forgave you when you did not deserve it. Remember. That for better. Or worse, you made a commitment to God. He wants your marriage.to succeed. Here's something that helps me tremendously, read Matthew 27:24veto the end of the book, and then read at least one story from the Gospels while Asking God how what you read applied to your marriage. Praying for you both!
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Hello Anonyme,
Welcome to the forums. I can say that if he is struggling with sexual sin (a large majority of guys do, thankfully to the Lord though while I may have I fight it everyday with Christ on my side
) perhaps the perspective at which you bring up the issue can show that while you are upset with it you want to talk/be there for him, in my personal opinion sometimes the best way to have him see where you're coming from is to put him there. Talk to him and suggest you know if there's anything you want to talk to me about, I am here I just want you to know how I feel. Ask him how he would feel if you were looking at other men in a sexual way, how it would make him feel towards you or his masculinity and such. Sometimes it takes looking at the perspective from another view to really have empathy for it. Have you ever seen the movie Fireproof? Its on Netflix, and if you have Netflix I highly recommend you watching it together! If he doesn't have time to see a counselor perhaps you could start going alone, and if he sees the positive change it is having on you, he will want to go with you. I believe that no marriage is hopeless or impossible to fix if both parties are willing to work on it together...however sometimes it takes a gentle push or nudge for them to realize what they have and what they will miss when its gone...everyone is here for you though with words of encouragement and prayer! I shall do the same...do seek the counsel of a pastor or a christian marriage counselor it will help you organize where you are! Do not give up!
Side Note: Do you two do things together? You mentioned that he has time for a marathon...have you attempted to suggest that you help him train or you two run it together? Perhaps doing these things together will allow you to get closer to him and he may consider the counseling or just talking about these things. I may not be married but I do know that a relationship without any communication and transparency will start to wither at the roots...if there is no trust how can there be a relationship?
In Christ,
Moses
Welcome to the forums. I can say that if he is struggling with sexual sin (a large majority of guys do, thankfully to the Lord though while I may have I fight it everyday with Christ on my side
) perhaps the perspective at which you bring up the issue can show that while you are upset with it you want to talk/be there for him, in my personal opinion sometimes the best way to have him see where you're coming from is to put him there. Talk to him and suggest you know if there's anything you want to talk to me about, I am here I just want you to know how I feel. Ask him how he would feel if you were looking at other men in a sexual way, how it would make him feel towards you or his masculinity and such. Sometimes it takes looking at the perspective from another view to really have empathy for it. Have you ever seen the movie Fireproof? Its on Netflix, and if you have Netflix I highly recommend you watching it together! If he doesn't have time to see a counselor perhaps you could start going alone, and if he sees the positive change it is having on you, he will want to go with you. I believe that no marriage is hopeless or impossible to fix if both parties are willing to work on it together...however sometimes it takes a gentle push or nudge for them to realize what they have and what they will miss when its gone...everyone is here for you though with words of encouragement and prayer! I shall do the same...do seek the counsel of a pastor or a christian marriage counselor it will help you organize where you are! Do not give up! Side Note: Do you two do things together? You mentioned that he has time for a marathon...have you attempted to suggest that you help him train or you two run it together? Perhaps doing these things together will allow you to get closer to him and he may consider the counseling or just talking about these things. I may not be married but I do know that a relationship without any communication and transparency will start to wither at the roots...if there is no trust how can there be a relationship?
In Christ,
Moses