Divorce imminent. Single mother, nowhere to go.

[Mahoney]

My husband has kicked me out. He says he hates me, doesn't love me, doesn't like me, doesn't miss me, doesn't want me, doesn't want to be married to me. Refuses marriage/couples' counseling. All because I struggle with addiction and we had a really bad week or two, last month. He has catastrophized his whole life, thinking it's all a horrible abusive mess, when in reality, things have been good until November. Suddenly things are in crisis. He won't listen to me, he is horribly cruel and angry to me, he considers himself single and free to do as he pleases (even though we are still fully married and only 6 weeks "temporarily separated"). He may be cheating on me.

We have two young daughters. I do not want to separate. I do not want this to be the end.

I struggle with disease, addiction, depression, abandonment issues...and he has left me. I have no home.

I have no idea what to ask for, what you can pray for. But please pray anyway. I am lost. Please pray for me and my husband, that he will open his heart to me once again, that he will remember his vows to me, that I will overcome my own struggles, that we can once again be united.

 

[santuzza]

I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. I am praying that God will give you wisdom and discernment at this time.

The very first thing you need to do is get right with God. I see in your profile that you were "born and raised" a Christian. No one is "born" a Christian. We each need to individually give our lives to Christ. If you haven't fully done this, then now is the time. If you have questions about this, please seek out resources on how to be saved.

Secondly, I strongly urge you to get professional Christian counseling. You admit that you have many, many issues. You MUST work through those so that you can be a good mom. Additionally, your husband is never going want to come back to you if you're still dealing with the same issues. Now is the time to make positive changes.

Finally, seek out a good Bible-believing church. Get involved and get your kids involved. You need to turn your life around 180 degrees. Only Christ can do that for you. Please rely on Him.

 

[tourist]

My husband has kicked me out. He says he hates me, doesn't love me, doesn't like me, doesn't miss me, doesn't want me, doesn't want to be married to me. Refuses marriage/couples' counseling. All because I struggle with addiction and we had a really bad week or two, last month. He has catastrophized his whole life, thinking it's all a horrible abusive mess, when in reality, things have been good until November. Suddenly things are in crisis. He won't listen to me, he is horribly cruel and angry to me, he considers himself single and free to do as he pleases (even though we are still fully married and only 6 weeks "temporarily separated"). He may be cheating on me.

We have two young daughters. I do not want to separate. I do not want this to be the end.

I struggle with disease, addiction, depression, abandonment issues...and he has left me. I have no home.

I have no idea what to ask for, what you can pray for. But please pray anyway. I am lost. Please pray for me and my husband, that he will open his heart to me once again, that he will remember his vows to me, that I will overcome my own struggles, that we can once again be united.

I believe that your husband is taking out his frustrations out on you. He has no right to kick you out. Where are you staying right now? I will pray for your situation.

 

[tenderhearted]

Father God I pray for Mahoney-- I pray that you would comfort and guide her. I pray that she would know your love. Your word says that you promise to never leave her nor forsake her. I pray that you would set her free from addiction... that you would surround her with people that would help her. I pray that you would heal this family and marriage. Only you know what is in the hearts of man and I ask that you would do a work in each of their hearts. In Jesus name, Amen

Mahoney, this sounds like a turning point in your life-- a fork in the road. I don't know what your addiction is, but maybe you could choose rehab. They can give you a place to stay and you can get the help you need. If your addiction is drug or alcohol, you are going to need the help of a rehab center. You can't do this on your own--you need professional help. It would be nice to have the support of your husband, but if he doesn't come around, your priority should be to get clean. Your kids need a healthy mom. Pray and trust God with your marriage. I can promise that God will meet you where you are. He loves you. God wants to touch your broken heart. He see everything that has happened to you in your past and his heart breaks for you. He wants to be your friend if you let him in. I will continue to pray for you.

 

[secularhermit]

I´m sorry for that... I hope you feel motivated for a complete change that helps you to be cured from any addiction, to overcome that sense of abandonement, to be healed yourself completelly 1st and find your home.

 

[VioletReigns]

Abba Father, You are in control of everything, the earth and the universe is in Your hands... we pray Sister Mahoney puts her life in Your hands and focuses only on You... She doesn't know what to pray and neither do I, Lord... but You know what she needs and You will take care of it. I pray she trusts You and follows You from this day forward that her life may be restored in Jesus Christ our Lord... thank You for Your faithful love, Father!

 

[VioletReigns]

Precious sister Mahoney, I do want to add that addiction affects not only the addict but every one close to them. It is an extremely frightening thing when the home life keeps getting sabotaged with alcoholism or drug addiction. I'm sure your husband is afraid the children or he may one day find you unconscious or worse! He's probably out of resources and has no other way to show you that you need help ASAP. I hope you do get help, there are so many groups and organizations which can help you. I pray for a miracle of God that your life would turn around and be healthy again, my dear lady.

 

[Angela53510]

Your husband sounds very frustrated and fed up! You say that you have a lot of issues, including an addiction to (?). Maybe this is the time for you to get medical and spiritual help.

It is very hard to live with someone who is very depressed and does not try to change. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?

God can change the worst marriage into the best, and he can change you! God can help you break free of your addiction, and change you into a wife that any man would be proud of, including your husband.

Please PM me and we can talk about some practical ways you can make changes, but also how to know Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour. As someone else pointed out, no one is "born" a Christian. But we can be "born-again". I think this is the only way to change things and bring God into your family and your life.

 

[Jackson123]

I hope you bring this problem to the Lord with pray and fasting. I pray the Lord will open the way for you.

I know people with addiction problem. It is not easy to overcome. You really need fasting and pray seriously.

 

[Joidevivre]

Let this Psalm comfort you

 

[Joidevivre]

Lord, We pray for your anointing to pour over her for healing - body, soul and spirit. May she be given the wisdom to do the next right thing. Surround her with people who will turn her in the right direction and be her support as she is receiving help for her addictions and emotional state.

We pray for her children who need to have a peaceful, happy environment. May you bring them comfort and remove any guilt they might be feeling. Provide a place for them where they can feel safe and loved.

Help their father and mother to become the parents these children need - ones who will nurture them. Enable them to die to their own desires and needs, and to live wholly unto you.

By faith we see you glorified in this marriage.

Amen

 

[Reborn]

I'm so sorry to hear all of that.
At one time I felt lost too.... which eventually led me to finding Him.
All things work out with trust in God.
I promise He will lead you, all you to have to do, is be willing to follow.
God Bless.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

You've probably, by now, figured out that family lawyers do not take contingency cases. However, there is an enormous number of pro bono organizations that help women divorce and sue their husbands in the U.S. which is presently organized around a feminist maternal child support model. Find a good pro bono divorce attorney and he won't believe what happens next.

I've seen women get the house, alimony, and child support from soon-to-be-ex-husbands and move in new boyfriends while he is reduced to working as hard as he can to pay for it living in rented rooms on a Spartan budget seeing their children only two weekends a month.

The reality is that you're only one pro bono divorce lawyer away from all of that and getting to stick it to him in ways he has never before experienced using the feminist "family" legal system and the good news is that it really doesn't matter to the court if you caused it with your out-of-control drug and alcohol fueled behavior as long as you don't represent a danger to the children or society and are involved in a drug and alcohol program. Enjoy, he certainly isn't going to once you figure it out.

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[ladylynn]

You've probably, by now, figured out that family lawyers do not take contingency cases. However, there is an enormous number of pro bono organizations that help women divorce and sue their husbands in the U.S. which is presently organized around a feminist maternal child support model. Find a good pro bono divorce attorney and he won't believe what happens next.

I've seen women get the house, alimony, and child support from soon-to-be-ex-husbands and move in new boyfriends while he is reduced to working as hard as he can to pay for it living in rented rooms on a Spartan budget seeing their children only two weekends a month.

The reality is that you're only one pro bono divorce lawyer away from all of that and getting to stick it to him in ways he has never before experienced using the feminist "family" legal system and the good news is that it really doesn't matter to the court if you caused it with your out-of-control drug and alcohol fueled behavior as long as you don't represent a danger to the children or society and are involved in a drug and alcohol program. Enjoy, he certainly isn't going to once you figure it out.

[video=youtube_share;c5BL4RNFr58]http://youtu.be/c5BL4RNFr58[/video]

Nothing like pouring your own bitterness issues out on this poor lady in sarcasm and ill-will.!
I would think she has enough to deal with right now and doesn't need some strangers added baggage to carry also.

Everyone has a story.., do we use ours to help or to heal????

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

I've never been married nor divorced and don't have any personal good or bad life experiences from being married or divorced... which means that I don't carry this personal bitterness around you falsely accused me of harboring ladylynn.

I don't have a dog in her fight. My interaction is analytical. I am focused on the macro not the micro and in the macro; it's just one more tree in a raging forest fire.

Perhaps I would take more of a personal interest in her individual situation if you wouldn't hypocritically engage in the very behavior that you condemned me for. When you practice what you preach... Until then, au revoir.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

On second thought, I retrieved my bible and it's telling me to be empathetic because God loves everyone involved. Here's what I found:

"Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." -Romans 12:15.

"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience." -Colossians 3:12.

 

[ladylynn]

On second thought, I retrieved my bible and it's telling me to be empathetic because God loves everyone involved. Here's what I found:

"Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." -Romans 12:15.

"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience." -Colossians 3:12.

Well Praise God for second thoughts and the Bible!

 

[AnneSaxton12]

You need to be strong in this situation and pray to god that all the things get better.Only god can guide you through this hard time and get you out of trouble.You need to leave that man and get divorce if you want to.But its not a great decision as its going to hurt you more but he had already thrown you out.You have to get the counseling from some good divorce lawyer gardena who have been great at counseling people in matter of divorce.And pray to god to get you peace and happiness.God will get you through this.you need to make a step and get out of this situation.

 

[dave_in_KWC]

Whatever happened, Mahoney?