It's a bit early for you to be around other men.
My ex molested our daughters. It has been 10 years since I found out. Last year I saw something online about the 7 stages of grief. I was still in stage 6. It all gets better over time, but you cannot have a relationship with anybody until you are through the entire process of grief.
I hate when people tell me or my kids, just get over it. It doesn't happen that fast, we all have our own hurt to work through. You do need to work through it with the Lord, you cannot stay in the same place for years, however.