Is it wrong to want equality in a marriage?

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Us males are to love our wives as CHRIST loves HIS church! The problem is..husbands take on this puffed up personification that his soul mate is his slave, his maid, his prostitute everytime he calls, his live-in baby sitter, and much more. That is not how Jesus would have it. Yes, if the husband takes the lead in spiritual matters, devotes his life to CHRIST FIRST and then his family second, the wife has a role model. We see, especially in the MIddle East and African societies exactly how it ends when females are held sub-standard. It's time that we see that JESUS was a true MAN who held women up in high esteem in a world where they were mere property.
 
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Oh, haven't you heard? There is an extreme loss of Common Sense in this world today. It used to be automatically inserted in affairs, but now, it has been replaced with Google, Facebook, Twitter, and basically, the Internet. Gone are the days when decent Common Sense would be a bandaid for healing to occur.
 
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What if the question in the op was changed to....is it wrong to want health in marriage? Because that is what biblical submission will bring. Not one person overpowering the other in a one up one down relationship.
 
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Did God create woman inferior to man?
No. Genesis 1:27 states: “God proceeded to create the man in his image, in God’s image he created him; male and female he created them.” So from the very beginning, humans—both male and female—were created with the ability to reflect God’s qualities. Although Adam and Eve had their own unique emotional and physical makeup, they both received the same commission and enjoyed the same rights before their Maker.—Genesis 1:28-31.
Prior to Eve’s creation, God declared: “I am going to make a helper for him [Adam], as a complement of him.” (Genesis 2:18) Does the word “complement” imply that the woman was inferior to the man? No, because this Hebrew word can also be rendered “counterpart” or “a help corresponding to” man. Think of the complementary roles played by a surgeon and an anesthetist during surgery. Can one manage without the other? Hardly! Though the surgeon performs the actual operation, is he more important? It is hard to say. Likewise, God created the man and the woman to cooperate closely, not to compete with each other.—Genesis 2:24.
 
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As I stated, stories go in many different directions which is why you have to look at the studies (see my previous posts in this thread) as they aggregate the statistics to produce usable information and they state what I shared.

While I can appreciate that many people in toxic relationships play mind games with each other, I do not believe the "he made me assault" or "she made me assault" because of their words is a moral, legal, or legitimate defense for violently attacking someone. There are many alternatives to violently attacking someone because they said something you didn't like.

And, when a person does attack that doesn't equate to "it takes two to tango" in all instances. Sometimes, a person has serious behavior issues that have zero to do with the other person and that's why they become violent "in the blink of an eye" as you said. Healthy, balanced, normal people don't go around "snapping" in the "blink of an eye" and assaulting the people around them goaded or not.

My advice is if you begin dating someone and see that someone has a propensity for violence and abuse, regardless of the reason(s), break up with them and do it in a public place where cameras are present for your protection. Don't give them advice or try to fix them; just break up with them and tell them "it is over" and stay the course.

If you're a man, the last thing you need is a woman to begin screaming at you and then hammering on you with her fists. I've seen it and it's a no win for you brother. You either take the abuse, call the police and stand a good chance of being arrested and charged with a crime you never committed (especially if she starts lying), or if you come into contact with her any way in the course of defending yourself and bruise her or whatever, she'll run straight to the police and you'll go to jail and fight a criminal case. If you lose, it's a criminal record that follows you around possibly for the rest of your natural life.

It's not worth it. Even a whiff of an unbalanced female should be enough to send any man in this present uber-feminist legal environment to immediately break it off and do so in an intelligent manner to minimize risk. There are many fish in the sea and they aren't all keepers.


No offense but this sounds like the typical "I didn't do it" jailhouse mentality. The fact is that it takes two people to dance in a toxic relationship. I too know a man who accidentally knocked over his wife protecting himself......the difference between his and your scenario is that he recognized the role he was playing in that relationship and that he escalated the situations he found himself in with her...ie, He focused on her behavior instead of how her behavior made him feel....which only made her more angry and defensive. There is far more nuance at play in interpersonal conflict than statistics and pointing fingers. Emotions are a powerful force behind something going from bad to worse in the blink of an eye..... and peoples ignorance in dealing with their own, in assertive Godly ways, is why more than 50% of marriages end in divorce. I think saying that most people are emotionally disabled is a huge understatement.
 

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Us males are to love our wives as CHRIST loves HIS church! The problem is..husbands take on this puffed up personification that his soul mate is his slave, his maid, his prostitute everytime he calls, his live-in baby sitter, and much more.
The way you write that, it reads like you are saying that all men are puffed up, treat their wives as slaves, prostitutes, and baby sitters. Is that what you mean? Do you think all men are bad husbands?
 

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All I know is that it was not good at all for big strong Adam to be alone, so God made him one of us (who was weaker then him in physical strength) to be his helper, and I think thats just so cool

Its just not good for the man to be alone

Although the woman might be better off alone (I dont know) it just indicates it was not good for him to be so (for whom she was made) right?

or not?

lol

Im just playing