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StarlitLife

StarlitLife

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Good day to you. I had a question that have been on my mind for some time now. I have been dating the same woman for over 6 years now, but we have not been able to "tie the knot" so to speak, just yet. (although, we were planning to do it soon). However, I have a growing concern that she might be sleeping with other men, and I feel guilty that I am not able to "deliver the goods", because of my belief that I should not have sex before marriage (as was instructed by Our GOD! EROV KIRD HORE!). Also, the problem is that my girlfriend is a Christian, and I know that she is committing sins, but I don't know what to do! Please, give advice and pray for our relationship.

Sorry for my English, it is not that good. Thank you, and blessings!
 
cozy

cozy

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I pray that God gives you direction on this issue. Pray for your girlfriend.

I think it's amazing that you are waiting.

God Bless You!
 
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Paipai

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It sounds like a very sad situation. You need to talk to her and be clear. If i were in your place, i would not continue to be with her unless she stopped her actions. Pray.. a lot. Stay strong. Think about it, is this who you want to marry and commit your life to for the rest of your life? Something needs to change. You will know what to do.. be brave to do it.
 
cookie39

cookie39

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what does Erov Kird Hore maen?
 
MahogonySnail

MahogonySnail

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You're not a Christian are you?

Oh well regardless, I wouldn't marry or even consider marrying anyone who is behaving like that.

But 6 years is a long time, perhaps you missed your chance. Then again be thankful you aren't married to her now.

But first I think you have to make sure your suspicions are correct.
 
joint-heir

joint-heir

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StarlitLife said:
Good day to you. I had a question that have been on my mind for some time now. I have been dating the same woman for over 6 years now, but we have not been able to "tie the knot" so to speak, just yet. (although, we were planning to do it soon). However, I have a growing concern that she might be sleeping with other men, and I feel guilty that I am not able to "deliver the goods", because of my belief that I should not have sex before marriage (as was instructed by Our GOD! EROV KIRD HORE!). Also, the problem is that my girlfriend is a Christian, and I know that she is committing sins, but I don't know what to do! Please, give advice and pray for our relationship.

Sorry for my English, it is not that good. Thank you, and blessings!
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Odd as it may be, but many who claim to be Christian do in fact
sit week in and out living in sins they themselves may feel is not wrong
according to their opinion.
I have seen time and again where after a sermon an individual would come up
afterwards and say, What you just preached about and called a sin
I had no clue that was really a sin.
I am not saying by any means that your lady friend believes if in fact she is cheating
that to her it is not a sin. But, I have seen couples that thought
this only became a concern or a sin when it concerned
ONLY DURING MARRIAGE which I found hard to believe, but that is how they felt.

I have people many times come to me and say, Can you talk to them for me?
As awkward as it would be for me a stranger to go to your lady friend
and sit down with her.
Then begin a conversation in hopes of finding a way to ask a personal question
that could go from 2 grown adults communicating up to the possible escalating
barrage of insults and slanders being thrown in my face for even daring to go
in that direction.
My best advice to you my young brother in CHRIST.
Would be to not force the issue if your in hopes of keeping this relationship.
BUT, I would ask her how she felt about you and her in the next 5 years.
IF she seemed content about including you in the picture
you might have nothing to worry about.
IF she seemed hesitent, then tell her either how you feel or what your concerns are.
BUT, do it in a manner that way she will understand you are not accusing her
but that you care for her and your looking at the picture from tomorrows perspective
and not from yesterdays.


MAY THE BEST OF DAYS TO COME TO YOU
AND
MAY GOD KEEP AND BLESS YOU
MY YOUNG BROTHER
 
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Dosie

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I would question if your girlfriend is really a Christian. Being a Christian means to be a follower of Christ. Anyone can call themselves a Christian but the walk & not the talk is what counts. If anyone claims to follow in Christ but continues in practiced is a liar. Why would you want to commit your life to someone who cannot control her sexual desires? Are you believing the lie that after you two are married she will change? Please don't fall for that one. Here you are being obedient to what The Word of God commands us to do & you're willing to throw your pearls to the swine.
 
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Dosie

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I forgot to put the word sin in my message. sin was supposed to come after practiced.
 
StarlitLife

StarlitLife

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Thank you for your replies. EROV KIRD HORE are Sacred Words I received from the Higher Power. I am not a christian, but i want to find god! These words I heard when I was in a come after an accident. It is the mantra that I live with, they saved my life.

I know I have to be strong, I will talk to her, and give you update. Also, another thing, she is really beautiful, and she is a devout christian.

EROV KIRD HORE!
 
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Cako53

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Those words didn't save your life. God saved your life.
 
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wayne2328

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MahogonySnail

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Mate if she really is sleeping around she certainly isn't a devout Christian.
 
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Dread_Zeppelin

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Honestly you can't expect to marry a woman that you're afraid to question about serious issues. Marriage will have bigger hardships than that.
 
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HumbleSaint

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wow my single life is looking pretty good right now.... no seriously if she's committing whordom right now after six years. How can you trust her to be faithful as a wife?
 
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praise_love

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A TRUE CHRISTIAN SHOULD NOT HAVE A ANY RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MARRIAGE
 
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Greyhound

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I always believed true love waits, however no one is perfect. If sin is uncovered it should be dealt with through confessing, repenting and forgiving. If you love her and she loves you and marriage is in the future all sin must be uncovered and dealt with before and during a marriage. Believe me there are many sins that will derail a marriage. To name a few; greed, selfishness, disrespect, you can see the list is indefinite. Don't make the mistake thinking fornication is the worst sin in the world. The worst sin is not accepting Jesus Christ as your personal savior.
The answer is; love God and love your neighbor as yourself. Fulfill these commandments and give your life to serving Jesus. He will guide your steps and lead you to the place that brings you the most fulfillment. Don’t make a mistake of seeking fulfillment through another person, we should seek to fulfill other with the love of Christ and expect nothing in return. Life on this earth is too short to get entangled in bad relationships. Love others with all your heart and pray for your enemies. Keep true to the one that will stay true to you, Jesus is the truth!
 
StarlitLife

StarlitLife

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Jan 22, 2010
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Cako53 said:
Those words didn't save your life. God saved your life.
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I receive them from a higher power. I saw strange visions, really terrifying and beautiful. There was deep water, and stars, then those words. Yes, it was not god who save me, it was that higher power. I thought I died, and I saw big buildings underwater and among stars at same times. Then voice, loud said EROV KIRD HORE. It was god?

But she goes to church a lot, every sunday, prays. She also daughter of a minister, I will talk to her about our relationship.

Thanks you for help!!! I will stay strong.
 
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