Mum doesnt like me being a Christian

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I only have a mum my real dad sexually assaulted me as did my stepdad and she has moved in with me. I put up my religious drawings in the kitchen and told her im reading the bible and she dislikes this very much being non religious herself she cant quite get her head around it all.... plus everytime i say anything she thinks im preaching.... im lost and she believes its a phase im going through because ive only just turned to the amazing God and the bible about a month ago if that!
 
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Stick with it. Lead by example. Invite her to share in your new found love of God's word but don't push. Give her time to see how it changes your life for the better. I am very glad that you have turned to the Lord. Are you attending a Christian church? If not, I would recommend that you do. If so, take comfort from the other Christians there.
 
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IsabellaRose

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thank you, no i dont go to church yet, i plan on going to church though
 
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Isabelle I am so happy you've made the great choice to follow God's leading in your life. Keep showing your mom the love, patience and respect that God has shown you. You'll be planting seeds, and God can use those seeds to grow His love in her.
Peace
 
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IsabellaRose said:
plus everytime i say anything she thinks im preaching.... im lost and she believes its a phase im going through
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Your found, not lost :) Its a wonderful thing to finally find your real purpose in life. Your Mum has married 2 men who molested her daughter and she thinks your lost? I think she' living with you because she's lost? In any case, I wouldn't overload your mum with what she construes as preaching, overly religiousness can turn nonbelievers off, especially in today's fanatical environment. I'm guessing its not you being a Christian that she doesn't like, but your being consumed with all the religious drawings and all? Otherwise, ask her specifically what she doesn't like about Christ, and when she can't come up with a reasonable answer, tell her there's no reason she should have a problem with you following his example. jmo
 
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Give it time. Time will tell your mother, that it is not a phase and then it will get better or worse :)
But give it time. she will need time to understand, what you have found.
 
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thanks everyone :)
 
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Hello IsabellaRose

I'm very sorry to hear what u have endured - but am happy that you have Christ in your life now.

As for your Mom, others have listed some pretty good advice but one thing i find in life is to follow Christ is to refute/negate the 'worldview' of many - and they can resent u for it or react by digging in their heels. It can be seen as a challenge to them.

One of my closest lifelong friends is like this. He is a 'progressive' and rejects Christianity and looks for any way to demean or dismiss it and will clutch any argument that supports him. We use to debate but i see now it just becomes a futile contest. I have concluded that the only way I can help him is not by debate but to just be the best friend to him i can be - to lead by example. I think often this is the best way to show Christ's love - by example in how u live day to day.

And welcome to CC!
 
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You don't say how old you are, but obviously old enough to live on your own. If it is your home, you have the right to put up the pictures you like and read the Bible and pray, and hopefully go to church.

You need to set some boundaries for you mom. It is your place, and she needs to be respectful of you. You can't demand this, but you can point out that she is living in your house, and she needs to allow you to do the things that are right for you.

And welcome to the family of God. I'm so glad you found Christ. Don't let people like your mom discourage you, but continue to pray for her salvation, and witness to the work Christ has done in your life.

God bless!
 
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thanks everyone :)
 
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Welcome, IsabellaRose! Thank you for sharing with us. I am still learning, after 30+ years of walking with Christ Jesus to "let go and let God." The Lord is in control and can take care of everything. We can safely trust in Him. You know, actions speak louder than words and your mother can be led to Jesus just by your life of peace and grace. You don't have to wrestle with her about Jesus. The Lord will reach her through you and will provide the opportunity. In the meantime, pray, trust the Lord and treat your mom the way you want to be treated.

Also, I am so sorry to hear about the abuse of your past. I totally can empathize with you as I've been through it myself, as were most of my siblings. I pray in Jesus' holy name the Lord restore you in abundant grace and miraculous joy in the Holy Spirit. Please feel free to drop me a line if you ever want to fellowship with me. :)

I do agree with those who said that it is your home and that you have boundaries. There is a way to lay those boundaries out in a respectful way that your mother can understand. For instance, you can say kindly but assertively, "Mom, let's talk about ways we can keep each other's boundaries so we can both enjoy freedom and peace in this home." And get a notebook and write the boundaries down so you can resort to it in the future if she needs to be reminded.
 
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Hey IsabellaRose ~ we have a Miscellaneous Forum where you can post your Christian drawings. I'm sure there are many who would be blessed by your artistic gift. I certainly would enjoy seeing your work. :)
 
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God bless you sister

Stay strong & share your love of The Lord.

I would love to see your drawings as well, I have put some of my "art" up & enjoyed that others appreciated them

take care

God bless
 
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IsabellaRose

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thanks you :)
 
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Jesus came to help you open up and let the love in your heart out. People often think religion is about condemning sin, holding punishment over people, causing fear. They do not see our loving God, saw sin as our problem and our fear of being discovered in darkness and exposed to be ridiculed. He came to put his arms around us and say, "it is not your fault." The Lord says "Hurt has made you hard, it makes you lash out, but I will love and forgive you."
The story in John 8 of the woman caught in the act of adultery, is forgiven.
John 10:10 "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full."
It is through love we find life. Your mother must be very hurt and lost.
My family never understood the power of Jesus love, but over the years slowly they have begun to experience and open up to this love. It is by our example of loving and caring for them that they see Jesus at work.

I am deeply sorry that you have been abused, by people who should have loved and protected you.
The hardest thing is to let the Lord rebuild you into a glorious new person, but many can testify this can be done.
So let the Lord help you, and pray for your mother and reach out to other christian women who can help you with their experiences and victories. It is important to know we are not alone.
 
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Wonderful comments have been made to you. I can only add that now you have Christ living in you and you carry your own atmosphere where ever you are. Your will affect your environment. Without a word about God to your mother, her spirit will sense the presence of Christ. And He will work His way into her life in His timing and way.

I pray that you will fully experience how the Lord restores souls that have been wounded. You are in the best hands now. And welcome to the adventure of getting to know Him more and more everyday.
 
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so many lovely comments thanks to you all :) xoxoxoxo
 
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IsabellaRose said:
I only have a mum my real dad sexually assaulted me as did my stepdad and she has moved in with me. I put up my religious drawings in the kitchen and told her im reading the bible and she dislikes this very much being non religious herself she cant quite get her head around it all.... plus everytime i say anything she thinks im preaching.... im lost and she believes its a phase im going through because ive only just turned to the amazing God and the bible about a month ago if that!
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Hey IsabellaRose, it can get very discouraging, ive tried witnessing to my family for years and gave up on it because they dont want to hear it. If they wanna know how to get saved I will tell them, but Im pretty much convinced theyve made the descision to reject Christ. Over the years I have learned a lot on witnessing I will share my wisdom and expertise that will help you get through to her with out loosing her.1. Lost people dont want the gospel shoved down their throat.From a lost persons perspective if your always talking about Christ they take the position that you are simply shoving it down their throat.The way around this is stop talking about it. What I mean is unless she comes to you and ask questions about Christ and the Bible don't bring it up. Let her come to you on her terms. Just worry about living your life for Christ and living your life in general. When she sees this isnt a phase and that you are serious about your walk with God it will open oppertunities to witness to her.2. Live by example. Lost people have this idea that Christians are only out to shove the gospel down their throat to get them in church to get their money.I have tried giving my family the gospel and door knocking and all that. I have found that by getting away from the litterature and going to a different tactic it is much more effective. What I do is every christmas, I try and think of gifts they would like and enjoy that not also is fun but would bring people closer together. By investing in thoughtful gifts every Christmas and not just handing them the gospel tracts from church is softening their hearts and opening the door to witness to them. Because what they are seeing is kindness and compassion and thoughtfulness you know those traits that Jesus said we should have.3. It takes timeSome people may accept christ right away but often more times than not, it may take years of witnessing, Keep praying for your mother the Spirit of God can work in her heart ways you and I can't Jesus said if ye have the faith of a grain of a mustard seed you could move mountains,He also said you recieve not because you ask not. Simply asking and and truely wholeheartly trusting him will do wonders not just in building your faith but in opening oppertunities to witness to your mom.4. Let her know you care.This is not assimple as you think, you would have to persavere at it. By simply doing small things for her every day you can show her you really do care for her. Could be breakfast in bed, could be writting a letter for her and leaving it on her door, even just giving her a little mother daughter time. Simple little things like this will not only show her you care but will help build and strengthen your relationship with her.Hope this helpsMichael
 
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Remember that Jesus said repeatedly, "He that hath ears to hear, let him hear". Many people don't, but the point is "Let them". Jesus didn't speak to captive audiences, those who listened came of their own accord.

If Mum still doesn't like your choice, tell her your switching to Islam because you can better relate to the violent jihadist.. I suspect she'll then inspire you to stick with Christ :)
 
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