My husband is addicted to meth

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desi83

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We have been married for almost 7 years and have 5 beautiful children. He is the sweetest man i have ever met and wonderful father.
I have know he had an addiction prior to us getting married but it was never an issue till now he was clean for years. Now he has been gone all the time our money has been missing. When he would get paid he would lie and say he had to spend it on something else he has stole from me, lied to me. I have found the drug several times in our home with our children finally, I put him out because I couldn't risk something happening to our children. However now he seems to be doing worse he has no children or no wife No responsibilities. He hasnt been home or seen his children. He keeps saying he wants to work on our marriage and loves me he also tells me he wants to come over to see me and the kids but NEVER comes. I have been praying and praying for him.
But also using this time to get closer to God and my children. I know he and I are supposed to be together. I have left him alone so God can work on him. any advise and prayers r welcome!!!
 
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Livingnow

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It's a horrible situation to find yourself in. Even worse, your husband is battling a serious addiction which is quite detrimental spiritually, mentally, and financially. I can understand the danger your husband pose to your children, but I think that as his wife you should find a way to be involved in his rehabilitation process if possible. Dealing with addiction is not that easy due to its impulsive and controlling power on the addicted person. The good news is that there's no sinful habit that's beyond God's power to break them, so I would admonish you to continue pray for him. Not only that you should also talk with him about taking necessary steps in dealing with such a destructive sinful habit.
 
AngelFrog

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Good for you that you thought more of yourself and your children than to stay in that environment.
Meth is a horrible drug. It will take everything your husband has. His health, his teeth, his money, his future and his life if he doesn't stop.

Do the research online to find out just how evil this poison is.

Stay gone. No matter what, even if he tells you he's changed and he's clean, stay gone until you know for a fact it is true. Because Meth devours not only a persons health but their soul. They'll become something not even they imagined prior to finding this drug. All is expendable to that urge to get high again.

Prayers to you and your family.
Also, checking out a support group like Narconon is a good idea too. It helps those who are related to drug addicts to know what they're dealing with and how to cope.
 
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petehope

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If hes sick of it he could try to stop talking to freinds that do it, take leave from work and sleep all the time. It will be just as hard for the wife.
i had minamal contact to family and sleped almost constantly for 3 weeks now its ben 20 or more years clean. God be with you in your strugle and dont give up
 
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Your husband is obviously drug addicted, and you need to learn how to live without him and protect yourself and your children. I agree with AngelFrog you need to go to NarcAnon and learn how to cope with him, and to get support to keep him out of your life until he gets clean and under a contract.

I'm sorry you are having to go through this. Please take care of yourself, and cling to God. Praying for you.
 
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petehope said:
If hes sick of it he could try to stop talking to freinds that do it, take leave from work and sleep all the time. It will be just as hard for the wife.
i had minamal contact to family and sleped almost constantly for 3 weeks now its ben 20 or more years clean. God be with you in your strugle and dont give up
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Good for you, sir.
 
JesusLives

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Welcome to CC - I am sorry you are having to go through this situation. My cousin's daughter was also addicted to meth and lost her children because of this addiction. Her mother prayed and prayed for her and she after several years has finally the last year has rededicated her life to the Lord and seems to be on the road to recovery. There is hope for your husband keep praying and try and get him to seek help. A friend request has been sent your way.
 
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mystikmind

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A person who is addicted to drugs has chosen to hand over their free will. They may want to save their marriage, they may want to see their children and they certainly do not want to lie and steal and betray, but what they want is now irrelevant, what goes against their morals and character is now irrelevant, even love is irrelevant, for they must serve their new master, at the expense of all else if necessary.

When you try to help a drug addicted person, you have to understand that they are a slave and they are in chains, and breaking those chains will not be easy.
 
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Eva1218

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Continue to pray for him. Do not allow him access to the money, change any and all accounts pin numbers etc. change locks at home so he can not enter while your away. When you do speak with him be gentle ask if he is willing to go to a program that has a success rate with in-house as well as out-house programs. Always offer him something to eat and a change of clothes. Discuss with children that dad is not well but do not go into deep things to scare them but let them know that he loves them.

Your husband has to fight for his life by prayer, dealing with his addictive behavior and owning up to his responsibilities. You allow GOD to lead and guide you to help your family.

Blessings!!!!!!!
 
blue_ladybug

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what your husband needs is to go to rehab and get clean. He CANNOT do it on his own, he needs professional help. When a person is addicted to drugs, alot of times the drugs mean more than anything or anyone else. More than their family, wife/husband or children. Nothing matters to them but getting that next fix. An ever-widening solution to an out of control problem. Keep praying for him and set him up to enter rehab. God will take care of the rest. If need be, you CAN involuntarily commit him to rehab, meaning he'll have to stay the entire allotted time, and won't be able to sign himself out whenever he gets tired of rehab..
 
SoulWeaver

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Praying that he will finally be sickened with it and desire to break free... so Jesus can step in... amen...
 
AngelFrog

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And yet, until her husband knows he needs rehab it won't work. Only God can intercede. In lieu of that unless an addict, those addicted to anything, be it candy, food, alcohol or drugs, that addict will not take the steps to heal and release their addiction.
That's the thing about addiction. That which the addict craves is more important than their own life. And that is why they have to realize their own life must take precedent or they shall perish.

The tragedy is multi-fold. Thank God this dear lady has gotten her children and herself away so that the little impressionable ones don't have to suffer watching daddy die by his own choice.

blue_ladybug said:
what your husband needs is to go to rehab and get clean. He CANNOT do it on his own, he needs professional help. When a person is addicted to drugs, alot of times the drugs mean more than anything or anyone else. More than their family, wife/husband or children. Nothing matters to them but getting that next fix. An ever-widening solution to an out of control problem. Keep praying for him and set him up to enter rehab. God will take care of the rest. If need be, you CAN involuntarily commit him to rehab, meaning he'll have to stay the entire allotted time, and won't be able to sign himself out whenever he gets tired of rehab..
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