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Hey there guys. I need to vent a little. I'm soliciting your prayers to help me to continue to remain strong during this. I was able to realize who his "fiance" is. I remember her from Facebook. Based on a description that I received about her, I know exactly who it is. He had commented on how nice she looked and he said something to let me know that he had spent time around her young daughter - which I didn't think much of it.
She is VERY beautiful. She seemed to have a nice good paying job, a lovely sized house and fancy cars. She was/is able to just take a vacation at the drop of a dime. She is a nice upgrade from me
It is like he hit the jackpot with her. I don't even know why he kept me around for so long. He had everything in her.
She is VERY beautiful. She seemed to have a nice good paying job, a lovely sized house and fancy cars. She was/is able to just take a vacation at the drop of a dime. She is a nice upgrade from me
It is like he hit the jackpot with her. I don't even know why he kept me around for so long. He had everything in her.
E
some people really need to stay off facebook
sounds you like you are drinking a big cup of dog vomit
that is what scripture calls this....dog vomit...you are returning to the vomit
I know...I've done that...put it down and walk away
As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly. Proverbs 26:11
sounds you like you are drinking a big cup of dog vomit
that is what scripture calls this....dog vomit...you are returning to the vomit
I know...I've done that...put it down and walk away
As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly. Proverbs 26:11
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My husband had a long term affair with a woman who worked with him. The Affair has since ended, but I had a very hard time letting it go. I would get on Facebook constantly to see what she was up to and to see what she had that I didn't. It was debilitating, to say the least. I turned into someone that I didn't know. I didn't like the person that I was becoming. I took my eyes off of the Lord and set them on her. I knew that I needed to put my focus back on Christ. Once I did that, I decided to delete my Facebook account. It helped me keep my focus on Christ. I will pray for you. Hugs.
My husband had a long term affair with a woman who worked with him. The Affair has since ended, but I had a very hard time letting it go. I would get on Facebook constantly to see what she was up to and to see what she had that I didn't. It was debilitating, to say the least. I turned into someone that I didn't know. I didn't like the person that I was becoming. I took my eyes off of the Lord and set them on her. I knew that I needed to put my focus back on Christ. Once I did that, I decided to delete my Facebook account. It helped me keep my focus on Christ. I will pray for you. Hugs.
Hey there guys. I need to vent a little. I'm soliciting your prayers to help me to continue to remain strong during this. I was able to realize who his "fiance" is. I remember her from Facebook. Based on a description that I received about her, I know exactly who it is. He had commented on how nice she looked and he said something to let me know that he had spent time around her young daughter - which I didn't think much of it.
She is VERY beautiful. She seemed to have a nice good paying job, a lovely sized house and fancy cars. She was/is able to just take a vacation at the drop of a dime. She is a nice upgrade from me It is like he hit the jackpot with her. I don't even know why he kept me around for so long. He had everything in her.
She is VERY beautiful. She seemed to have a nice good paying job, a lovely sized house and fancy cars. She was/is able to just take a vacation at the drop of a dime. She is a nice upgrade from me
It is like he hit the jackpot with her. I don't even know why he kept me around for so long. He had everything in her.
S
I am so glad you are getting some help.
I looked up my husband's other women on facebook and googled them so I know how you feel. I just wanted to know who they were. I was also curious as to what they had that I didnt. Then I decided that if I didn't know about them then they probably didn't know about me either. So, I contacted all of them that I could and let them know that he is married. I didn't do this to cause problems for him, I just believe in honesty and I would want someone to tell me if the shoe were on the other foot.
But, then I realized that I was showing him that it bothered me, that I still cared what he did. It was giving him power over me. Once I realized that, I quit. It wasn't easy, it still isn't easy. However, if I stumble across a woman I didn't know about, I will still feel obligated to tell her that he is married.
Don't give him any power! Don't let him see that you still care or that you are hurting. It will make him think that he still has a chance with you. And you need a clean break from him.
I am continuing to pray for you. God Bless!
I looked up my husband's other women on facebook and googled them so I know how you feel. I just wanted to know who they were. I was also curious as to what they had that I didnt. Then I decided that if I didn't know about them then they probably didn't know about me either. So, I contacted all of them that I could and let them know that he is married. I didn't do this to cause problems for him, I just believe in honesty and I would want someone to tell me if the shoe were on the other foot.
But, then I realized that I was showing him that it bothered me, that I still cared what he did. It was giving him power over me. Once I realized that, I quit. It wasn't easy, it still isn't easy. However, if I stumble across a woman I didn't know about, I will still feel obligated to tell her that he is married.
Don't give him any power! Don't let him see that you still care or that you are hurting. It will make him think that he still has a chance with you. And you need a clean break from him.
I am continuing to pray for you. God Bless!
Quest,
Ask God to help you let it go and see what the Father has next for you.
Remember He has said:
Jn 10:10
10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
KJV
Jn 15:11
11 These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
KJV
Let the hurt go and let God fulfill His desire in your life.
Ask God to help you let it go and see what the Father has next for you.
Remember He has said:
Jn 10:10
10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
KJV
Jn 15:11
11 These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
KJV
Let the hurt go and let God fulfill His desire in your life.
Fidellity & the hareem
There is a simple biological problem, there are many people we meet who we could be a partner to. Life and circumstance link us to someone with a level of intimacy that makes us one with another individual. Like all relationships they can go up and down.
The sad reality is there are other partners and needs that we could meet and get involved with, and many who given a choice would jump ship. It is never a thing of comparisons but circumstance and giving in to temptation.
Many do not see the pain, the damage they do to their partner by this bad behaviour. It is like killing someone, taking the most vulnerable part of them and ripping it up. I have read testimony after testimony men who regret the pain they caused and did not realise it, and would never have got involved to that degree if they had known.
The most difficult thing is to realise everyone is unique and deserves love, and is not valued more or less because of the attributes or abilities they have. You do not love your children because of what they can do, but because they are your children. A wife or husband is equally valuable, just as your children are, and moreso, because you chose to share with them and share the most valuable parts of your life.
What is hard is when someone betrays the trust and love, and how this hurts. But Jesus was equally betrayed, and he knew of the damage that does to the soul of the betrayer, because it is they that loose the intimacy and love that was freely given but is now withdrawn.
It is hard though to define yourself as a whole, when such a thing is ripped from you, but that is the reality, but it does not devalue you or your love, in fact it devalues the respect and love the other party failed to have.
But think on this. Did Jesus become less because we are sinners, or did his example show us His love and forgiveness, his very soul conquers and goes beyond our understanding of need, pain, loss, betrayal, into the love God is in His nature.
I can never say how you should react to a betrayal by a partner, but I do know it is Jesus and His love that defines life and healing, and how that changes you, will show you what you need to do next.
There is a simple biological problem, there are many people we meet who we could be a partner to. Life and circumstance link us to someone with a level of intimacy that makes us one with another individual. Like all relationships they can go up and down.
The sad reality is there are other partners and needs that we could meet and get involved with, and many who given a choice would jump ship. It is never a thing of comparisons but circumstance and giving in to temptation.
Many do not see the pain, the damage they do to their partner by this bad behaviour. It is like killing someone, taking the most vulnerable part of them and ripping it up. I have read testimony after testimony men who regret the pain they caused and did not realise it, and would never have got involved to that degree if they had known.
The most difficult thing is to realise everyone is unique and deserves love, and is not valued more or less because of the attributes or abilities they have. You do not love your children because of what they can do, but because they are your children. A wife or husband is equally valuable, just as your children are, and moreso, because you chose to share with them and share the most valuable parts of your life.
What is hard is when someone betrays the trust and love, and how this hurts. But Jesus was equally betrayed, and he knew of the damage that does to the soul of the betrayer, because it is they that loose the intimacy and love that was freely given but is now withdrawn.
It is hard though to define yourself as a whole, when such a thing is ripped from you, but that is the reality, but it does not devalue you or your love, in fact it devalues the respect and love the other party failed to have.
But think on this. Did Jesus become less because we are sinners, or did his example show us His love and forgiveness, his very soul conquers and goes beyond our understanding of need, pain, loss, betrayal, into the love God is in His nature.
I can never say how you should react to a betrayal by a partner, but I do know it is Jesus and His love that defines life and healing, and how that changes you, will show you what you need to do next.
Q
The other day I couldnt help but to re visit the fact that this man I loved was engaged to someone else. Around the same time he began seeing her, he also started with his ex wife. It felt like i was the bench warmer, the "she will do until i get something better". I felt very insignificant, thrown away and so forth. I even had to slam on brakes to stop from running a stop sign into traffic on purpose. My family loves me so and I must improve.
I have started back praying again. I said that I needed healing and cant do this alone. The last couple of days have been better. I have been social with friends, going out etc and when it nags in the back of my mind that I bore them to death, i repeat positive things. It has been helping and i keep praying.
Thanks for the scriptures
I have started back praying again. I said that I needed healing and cant do this alone. The last couple of days have been better. I have been social with friends, going out etc and when it nags in the back of my mind that I bore them to death, i repeat positive things. It has been helping and i keep praying.
Thanks for the scriptures
This is not love. Whatever you are falling for in these men, is something that you are projecting and allowing them into your life which they do not deserve. I had a girl fall for me once who held out this emotional feeling for a year. But we did not know each other, and it was not because I understood how she felt or why. Now I could have exploited her, and used this relationship, but I did not.
Self knowledge is an important thing. Knowing someone gives you attention is not love, it is you devalue yourself so much, that just getting attention is better than none. You need to work on what you value in yourself, what you do well, or enjoy.
To get love from another, they have to earn that love, and it has to be with a focus that deserves intimacy. It is easy to break the rules and just get involved, but that is just a mess, and not special, it is like selling yourself to anyone who comes along, which devalues them as well as yourself. The issue with intimacy is the rules by which you deliver it, is also the value your partner will consider it also. So if you devalue yourself, then that is what they also do in return.
The lie is when you say, but no one will give me attention then. That is never the case, it is just you do not yet value what you are and provide something for others to participate in which both of you value.
Self knowledge is an important thing. Knowing someone gives you attention is not love, it is you devalue yourself so much, that just getting attention is better than none. You need to work on what you value in yourself, what you do well, or enjoy.
To get love from another, they have to earn that love, and it has to be with a focus that deserves intimacy. It is easy to break the rules and just get involved, but that is just a mess, and not special, it is like selling yourself to anyone who comes along, which devalues them as well as yourself. The issue with intimacy is the rules by which you deliver it, is also the value your partner will consider it also. So if you devalue yourself, then that is what they also do in return.
The lie is when you say, but no one will give me attention then. That is never the case, it is just you do not yet value what you are and provide something for others to participate in which both of you value.
