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If he is young, his attention span is short. So play with him for 10-15 minutes.
I'm finding it very hard to believe in 24 hours you cannot find the time to spend a few minutes investing in the most important task God has given you - to raise your son!
Oh yes, please do not come back here when he is a teenager, complaining about how he has gone astray and you don't know why, or what you have done wrong.
Play with the boy. You may find you actually enjoy yourself, and the rewards in his life will be eternal.
I'm finding it very hard to believe in 24 hours you cannot find the time to spend a few minutes investing in the most important task God has given you - to raise your son!
Oh yes, please do not come back here when he is a teenager, complaining about how he has gone astray and you don't know why, or what you have done wrong.
Play with the boy. You may find you actually enjoy yourself, and the rewards in his life will be eternal.
I've been learning this myself in this last year and a half since my regeneration. I now see my kids as the biggest responsibility God has charged me with personally. Since my eyes have been opened I’ve realized that all that other “world stuff” can wait, and I needed to stop letting the school system and TV to raise my boys, and I needed to MAKE the time to raise (raise as in more that house and feed them) them. All that other stuff is secondary to making sure my boys are raised with a good understanding of God and their own salvation. I guess it was just a priority thing, and raising our kids to know God is way higher (to me, and even then only through the powerof the Holy Spirit inside me) than anything this world try’s to distract me with. I would also just like to add that since I was saved by God and started following the Spirit in this way the results have been nothing short of a miraculous display of Gods power and glory. Not that everything is perfect by any means, but my family is only getting stronger when I submit to His will. It can be tough, but it’s so very worth it brother. Good luck.
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Believe me, other than God Himself, there's nothing more important to me in this life than my own children. We actually homeschool our children and although we have a large TV screen on the wall, we don't even have TV in our home, but we do watch godly videos and some shows on Hulu occasionally. Anyhow, I'm taking my family to the movies tonight which is a rarity and that's only because a new Christian movie is playing in a theatre nearby ("Do you believe?"). Hopefully, it will be at least halfway decent and I'll be able to build upon it with scripture.
Anyhow, I'm glad to hear about your recent regeneration and your own devotion towards your own children. God bless you and yours and you continue to seek Him and His ways.
Anyhow, I'm glad to hear about your recent regeneration and your own devotion towards your own children. God bless you and yours and you continue to seek Him and His ways.
Man I honestly hope I didn't come off like I was saying they weren't, or like I was trying to judge your situation at all. I was really just trying to share my personal testimony concerning this issue. That was in NO way a dig at you, or even me trying to tell you how to "do it right", or anything like that.
Also that's awesome and I agree. The TV's came out of my house as well, and for me after 33 years of loving video games that too is a miracle in itself. That was another proof of His changing power in my life. After 33 years of Games and porn, and never feeling they were even a "bad" thing at all, overnight I lost my "love" of them. It's now been almost 2 years since I touched either. Also thank you for the kind words, and may God bless you and them with a way to make it all work.
Also that's awesome and I agree. The TV's came out of my house as well, and for me after 33 years of loving video games that too is a miracle in itself. That was another proof of His changing power in my life. After 33 years of Games and porn, and never feeling they were even a "bad" thing at all, overnight I lost my "love" of them. It's now been almost 2 years since I touched either. Also thank you for the kind words, and may God bless you and them with a way to make it all work.
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No, you've got it wrong. I spend time with my son. He even curls up and falls asleep in my arms at.nite before bed. I just meen how do I tell him that dad can't play catch every time, because like sometimes I do have work, as well as his mother. He is a very sensitive lil boy, but we are family orientated.
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I would just explain to him the Biblical necessity for a man to work so that he might provide for his own household and how that, too, is a manifestation of your love towards him in that you're laying down your own life to provide for him and his mother. I've done the same with my own children and they seem to understand.
To answer your question is difficult for me because you never said how old the boy is.......my aprroachwould be different at different ages.......the thing is....everyone in the family has a role.....a duty to the family .....and this needs to be explained to him.....he needs to know what each must do to keep the familytogether at peace.....explain to him how there is a time for everything......and even though you much ratherbe playing baseball with him....you have to do the other stuff to be able to play.....he must do his job whileyour away......helping his mom....watching out for the pet ...or younger sibling......chores that he needs to get done...so when dad does get done .....he will be done and both will have time to play........he needs a purpose ......And believe me...I'm a mom and now a grandmother.....even though the tears may fall....even though their feelingsseem to get hurt.....5 minutes after you go .....they have forgotten all about it and have moved on to some fun.....sometime your the bad guy and sometimes the good one....but your always daddy and he will accept anything you say....And love you regardless......
He is only learning that life is not about him getting what he wants when he wants it. Your own face and demeanor when you are telling him that you need to do other things are also what he is picking up. Never display guilt. Let him know that there will be time just for him (and name a time, even if it the next day). Let him look forward to something. But this will teach him that we don't have "instant gratification" and will teach him patience (patience is only learned when we have to wait for something).
Allow for his responses without it making you feel guilty. They will soon change as he begins to get the picture and you will not let him manipulate you.
I admire you for caring how he feels and for writing us about this.
From a mother of 5
Allow for his responses without it making you feel guilty. They will soon change as he begins to get the picture and you will not let him manipulate you.
I admire you for caring how he feels and for writing us about this.
From a mother of 5
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I can think of no better advice than from a mother and grandmother. My son just turned 7 and is a wonderful lil happy boy, just a lil sensitive at times. He is my adopted son, but I totally think of him as my own. His mother and i recently gave him a lil sister, and a lil brother on the way now again. That is great advice and I will act on it. My wife says she wants atleast one more child together after her current pregnancy.
okay...go online to www.youtube.com. Play "Cat's in the cradle" by Harry Chaplin. Then, make up your own mind.
When i was 7 yrs old i started playing little league. My dad not only bought a "tee" but he came to all my games and we played catch very often almost daily for 5 more years. Then my dad took on a second job and did not have the time to play catch with me. Being aware that he could not spend time playing catch with me regularly anymore he purchased a "pitch back" for me. My suggestion as far as baseball goes is to buy him a "pitch back" and a "tee" for batting and pitching (you can put the "pitch back" in front of the "tee") he will appreciate it but only if you don't have at least 10 minutes a day to spare?........ As far as basketball goes they sell portable basketball hoops for like $99.00 at walmart new and you can probably find one even cheaper on craigslist or the like, or just get a backboard and hoop. Me and a couple of children down the street made one out of a piece of wood and a old bicycle rim and we had fun dunking lol. Best wishes to you and your lil guy
