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If anyone can help me please feel free. I must explain some things before explaining the main issue. So I was kicked out of my parents home due to their controlling behavior and not bowing down to them. I had met my now husband of two years at that time and he opened my eyes on how my parents were treating my siblings and me. They did not like that of course. I moved in with him since my parents kicked me out with nowhere to go and soon after we moved into an apartment together. We also became pregnant and then realized we needed to buy a house. So we did and soon after we had another child and got married. That same year I lost my step brother to gun violence. And it has been two years since his passing. I stay at home with my children with a third on the way and also attend school. My issue is that my mother and father never liked my husband and I nor my husband never understood why because he is a good man. But my parents have dinners at their home and invite my siblings and I over including our family. So we always attend. However this particular time my step father never came out of his room to greet us or anything. I even went into the room that he was lounging in to greet him and he did not look at me at all. Once we left he usually tell us bye and everything if he is lounging in another room from everyone else and this time he did not do that. I told my husband I think it is because his son (my younger step brother) passed away and his other son (my older step brother) was sent to prison that same year for murdering a young woman. So I feel as though he does not like me or does not want to be around my family because of everything that happened that year. Every year on his birthday and the day he passed I try to get my family together for a dinner at my house or at a restaurant. They never show up. But he did not like the fact that I wanted to have a last minute dinner because he wanted to be the one to announce a dinner at his house instead. I recently found out from his daugther (my younger step sister) that she does not want to be around me and my two biological brothers because we are still around while her two brothers away (dead and prison). I was in disbelief because I look at us as if we are a biological family. And so I am not sure if that is why he never came out to see us. Also after we left my parents home my step sister told me that they had a conversation about her. (Basically he waited for my family to leave so he could come out of the room he was lounging in). This definitely hurts because my step dad is to me my biological dad. He has not been the greatest dad but he raised me from a toddler age. I definitely do not know what to do. I was just going to stay away from them for a while because I see the situation as it not being my fault. I chose my path and they chose their path. I did not tell them to go down the road they went down. And as much as they miss him, I do as well. So I'm conflicted because I do not know what to do. If they do not want us around then they shouldn't invite us to dinners. They could also inform us on the way they feel about my family. Any advice is welcomed. Sorry it is long.
