separated.

[microscoped]

I have left my wife who is physically abusive. She has cheated many times and has spoken of her desires to kill me. She has stabbed me in the past so her words are not just threats. Please pray for me. I have no friends she has made sure of that over the years and what friends we both had they are afraid of making her mad and feel isolated. Over the years we have argued over the children having video games which all they do is sit and play and fight over it all day. I have made the decision to stand by what I have always said and not allow them in my home. Because of that my kids don't want to cone over since its no fun without there games. I'm so alone

 

[Angela53510]

First, with God you are never truly alone. You do not speak of your relationship with Christ. If you do not have one, that has to be the starting point of moving forward.

Then you need to find a church, and support from other Christians. It sounds like your ex-wife is not going to change, unless God steps in. In the meantime, you need to build your own life, and take some steps to do things with your children that do not involve video games. They need to learn how to live, create, play and have fun without this artificial stimulation. Google some age appropriate options to do with them when they visit you.

My advice is to pick up a Bible, and start reading the New Testament. If you want to know how to be saved, send me a PM and we can talk about it.

Praying for you to move past this abusive marriage, and make some changes that include God.

 

[microscoped]

I am saved. I'm a pk and was a deliverance minister for years. I'm in church now and feel alone still. I have Jesus I know but I miss my kids. Thank you for the advice. I will Google it.

 

[secularhermit]

I´m sorry you feeel that way!

I identify myself in part of what you said and I did almost the same (it took me time to be divorced)

Friends and friendship... It takes time to understand that and what it is, but loneliness can be bore: Please, don´t feel selfcompassion.



PS

Yes! I miss my children too. That was the hardest part of it, but I see them whenever I get them in her house.

 

[Olerica]

Oh Microscoped, I am so sorry that you are lonely and grieving. As a Sister in Christ, I will just sit with you awhile. I just want you to know that you are not alone in your heartache and loneliness. I've never gone through a marriage ending the way yours is ending, but I have known profound grief.
I pray that hearing that you are not alone in the depth of this place (and not only because God is with you... which sometimes doesn't feel that way to us, or to me) but because there are so many of us in the midst of heartache. I know you KNOW all the God stuff, you KNOW what the Bible says, you KNOW the comfort that is available... so I will just take your hand in a friendly fashion and pass to you the comfort that you already know and remind you that you are not alone. God bless you, Dear One.
(A sister in Christ, and a complete stranger)

 

[microscoped]

Oh Microscoped, I am so sorry that you are lonely and grieving. As a Sister in Christ, I will just sit with you awhile. I just want you to know that you are not alone in your heartache and loneliness. I've never gone through a marriage ending the way yours is ending, but I have known profound grief.
I pray that hearing that you are not alone in the depth of this place (and not only because God is with you... which sometimes doesn't feel that way to us, or to me) but because there are so many of us in the midst of heartache. I know you KNOW all the God stuff, you KNOW what the Bible says, you KNOW the comfort that is available... so I will just take your hand in a friendly fashion and pass to you the comfort that you already know and remind you that you are not alone. God bless you, Dear One.
(A sister in Christ, and a complete stranger)

Thank you all for your prayers and support.

 

[atwhatcost]

I have left my wife who is physically abusive. She has cheated many times and has spoken of her desires to kill me. She has stabbed me in the past so her words are not just threats. Please pray for me. I have no friends she has made sure of that over the years and what friends we both had they are afraid of making her mad and feel isolated. Over the years we have argued over the children having video games which all they do is sit and play and fight over it all day. I have made the decision to stand by what I have always said and not allow them in my home. Because of that my kids don't want to cone over since its no fun without there games. I'm so alone

How has this marriage even worked this long without you having at least one friend -- your pastor? Where are the Christians in your life? Go to them. If there are none, I can only imagine you're disabled or not a Christian. If disabled, find a disabled support ministry to help you with the logistics. If you're not a Christians, this is a good place to start.

You need to get those children away from her, but to do that you need a place for them to stay. I recommend you kick her out of your house. (If she threatens or attacks, you can get cops to arrest her. Slight chance you can put her in psychiatrist lock-up, but those laws have gone so eschew, that's unlikely, unless she's willing.) Your kids don't get to choose where they live, especially given she's been training them to be on her side since before they can remember. (Also, this is so much bigger than video games, I have no idea how video games even got into the conversation.)

And, yes, I speak from a different kind of experience. I'm downright tempted to ask you if you married my husband's ex, because you're telling his story, before he walked away. I do, completely, understand what it is to have the wife ask you if you enjoyed sleeping the night before, as she shows you the razor blade she considered using on your neck during the night. They really are whacked wives. My husband was beaten emotionally enough that she got everything but the bills, by the time it was over. He regrets that to this day, because he has two completely messed up kids who wouldn't want to visit him, because he was the evil one. (Mother training is as strong as it gets.) Worse yet, they have kids who are now ready to start the next generation of totally-messed-up.

Save the kids. Save yourself. Find a pastor willing to help you fight the long fight. And it will be a very long fight, so pace. Gain God's comfort. You're not just in a battle against her. You're in a battle for future generation, and it has nothing to do with video games.

 

[atwhatcost]

I am saved. I'm a pk and was a deliverance minister for years. I'm in church now and feel alone still. I have Jesus I know but I miss my kids. Thank you for the advice. I will Google it.

​Whew! Then you didn't marry my hubby's ex. (Part of what will get you through this is keeping a sense of humor. That was an effort to make you smile -- if not at the joke, at least knowing you aren't the only one who has gone through something like this.)

 

[mystikmind]

i will not make any excuses for her behavior, however, it is often the case that ministers can have very forceful and unyielding personalities, and i hate to say it, but honestly, sometimes i feel sorry for their partners, sigh.