How to protect our heart??

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mochi

mochi

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as i said in some thread i'm not looking for any relationship now but i want to focus on my spiritual journey with God.. i still has many other thing to do.. so i'm not ready for that.. lol.. the question for those who still single: how do you protect yourself/be careful with your heart until the time is come and you ready for commitment?? well, lets say that during the "waiting" time you meet with many interesting people, friends, etc.. some of them are close enough to you and you feel comfortable BUT you know that he/she is not the one or i mean not yet/wait or God has something better for you, etc etc.. at that stage we can easily have feeling for that person and rush and slip and forgot our purpose and in the end we can hurt or not having a happy/healthy relationship/marriage etc etc...
so, how to protect our heart?? :D its not possible for us to be "alone" without friends right?? we are not living in the jungle where no one exist.. lol.. but sometimes if we are too close and used to share/talk each other its possible if we develop "feeling"..
i hope i'm not make a strange thread.. lol
 
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zubespatrick

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Proverb 4 Vs 23 says Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. Issues of life can be anything you can ever think of.
How do you guide your heart? by focusing more on the things of God then the thing of the flesh. The flesh can only lead us to eternal condemnation and why our spirit man that is focusing on God will lead us to life. I will advice you study more of Gods word and gain wisdom.
Remain Bless
 
PeterJens

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mochi said:
as i said in some thread i'm not looking for any relationship now but i want to focus on my spiritual journey with God.. i still has many other thing to do..
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I had the same issues at your age. I had not fallen in love with anyone, I liked lots of girls and got on well with many, and many would have easily developed in a different way. The difference was I needed someone who was like me, at a level that spoke deeply to me. I met someone, and it slowly developed. I had to grow a lot, it needed to cost me, I needed to go through much, before I could reach out and connect. To ask her out, was like dying to myself, not because it was difficult but because it really, really mattered. Things slowly developed over time, but what I can say, is it needed to cost me because a few years later, with pressure, no support, a child, work, depression, temptation at every step, without that deep bond and direction, it would not have survived.

What is important is to know if you can share from your heart with anyone, and learn the language of openness. This works with friends as much as partners, because it is an illusion that partners are necessarily closer to you than others, for some this does not become a reality.

I hope this helps you
 
mochi

mochi

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zubespatrick said:
Proverb 4 Vs 23 says Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. Issues of life can be anything you can ever think of.
How do you guide your heart? by focusing more on the things of God then the thing of the flesh. The flesh can only lead us to eternal condemnation and why our spirit man that is focusing on God will lead us to life. I will advice you study more of Gods word and gain wisdom.
Remain Bless
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Thank you :)
I still learning and God still process/mold me in many areas.. i cant always keep my focus.. usually up and down :( when i'm on fire i feel that everything is in God's control.. but when i'm not on fire... ohohohoho :p still need to grow more..
 
mochi

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PeterJens said:
I had the same issues at your age. I had not fallen in love with anyone, I liked lots of girls and got on well with many, and many would have easily developed in a different way. The difference was I needed someone who was like me, at a level that spoke deeply to me. I met someone, and it slowly developed. I had to grow a lot, it needed to cost me, I needed to go through much, before I could reach out and connect. To ask her out, was like dying to myself, not because it was difficult but because it really, really mattered. Things slowly developed over time, but what I can say, is it needed to cost me because a few years later, with pressure, no support, a child, work, depression, temptation at every step, without that deep bond and direction, it would not have survived.

What is important is to know if you can share from your heart with anyone, and learn the language of openness. This works with friends as much as partners, because it is an illusion that partners are necessarily closer to you than others, for some this does not become a reality.

I hope this helps you
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Thank you :)
The problem when we get closer with friends is they could easily think that i gave false hope to them and they get hurt and dissapointed.. OR i am the one who develop that "feeling" lol and each time i must remind myself to remove that unecessary feeling (while i'm still on the process of growing/mature)..
once again thanks a lot for sharing your experience ^_^ i learn something from you :)
 
Jesus4ever

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Let you heart open and trust the Lord. The rest will come by itself.


God bless.
 
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Sirk

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The first step in protecting your heart is examining yourself. What hurts you, what triggers you, what pain you are carrying with you and learn to process it all so that you can set healthy boundaries as to how you will allow people to treat you. Another aspect of protecting your heart is learning to speak truth to yourself so that you can temper your inner critic against the lies that he or she will try to get yo to believe about yourself.
 
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