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I have a problem I have put financial burdens on my family ie Wife 3 small children, I was a full time I.T consultant and for 3 years I have been an exotic car builder. I would buy wrecked cars rebuild them and sell them and I would sell the spare parts etc. but never really gaining any ground profit wise so steady my debt has grown. I always make our house rent and my shop rent and I would put parts to repair these cars on our credit cards. I recently had a car that the owner of one of these cars owes me 22K in repairs this would have cleared a large portion of my debt and all would be fine but instead of paying me he took a bond to the clerk of the court and now I have to sue him to get this bond. now he is a lawyer and fighting a lawyer is really pointless they know the law and what he is tring to do is wittle the amount down where I would only get a portion of my owed money. This credit card debt has been building up since I started the shop but I keep trucking because I am no longer doing I.T work. My wife has held her job strong and true, and we were expecting a 5K tax return, it seems that in 2012 we under filed and we owe the IRS 10K, we find out today that they are keeping our 5K return and subtracting it from the 10K. so we still owe 5K in IRS debt including our 28K credit card debt, she is pissed and now with great emotions tells me she cant do this anymore and she says if we didn't have kids she would want a divorce she says she feels empty and alone and she doesn't want to live like this anymore. I love my wife my kids and our life I don't want it to change but she also said that she still loves me but she doesn't love me. She doesn't want to cuddle me because of the stress of being the full time employed spouse while I am home raising the kids and I smell like cigarettes . I was raised that the man pays for everything. I asked if I can pay off the debt will the stress and burden be lifted she says yes, I then ask can I build the love back up she says she doesn't know. I cant see myself without her as she is a good women and makes me a better person in general. I don't want my kids to grow up without 2 parents and not some current BF in the middle of them. I desperately need advise to save my marriage and don't know what to do. I decided to close my shop as to not add anymore debt, I am selling everything in my shop off to try and bring the debt down for good. our son 4 years old will start kindergarden in 3 months but the school he will be forced to attend is not a very good one and I fear he will go down the wrong path. so we decided before all this IRS stuff happened to move to her home state so that all 3 of our kids will go to the best schools and her family is large so they will have plenty of support from all the grandparents and cousins etc. vs here where they have my parents and that's it. I asked her if she would go to marriage counsuling she said yes, she is very Christian and doesn't like the idea of divorce but everyone has their breaking point. I hope my grammar and sentence structure doesn't offend anyone but I am desperate to save my wifes happiness as she said she has not been happy in a while, this tore me up inside to hear that. I have a heart of gold and I think that sometimes this gets me into bad situations as I trust everyone. Like this guy taking his car from me without paying and no I have to pony up money to sue him to get my money or at least part of it. I don't know where else to turn for advise any question about my situation please ask me I will be glad to tell. What should I do? "Help me reddit your my only hope "