I want counseling but we can't afford it

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TristessaAislinnVisola

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Sometimes I feel guilty for feeling the way I do because I have it easy compared to most people. Sometimes I wonder if I should even want professional counseling when others have issues much worse than ours. I told my husband that I thought we should look into counseling. I could tell it really hurt him but he said that he would be willing to work overtime and even put off his schooling if necessary in order to afford it. But we honestly can't afford counseling. It has been one thing after another as far as our finances go and I don't want to give our family that extra burden.
I have come to hate sex. I feel like our relationship has not grown in the past 2 or 3 years (we have been married 4 years) We start things that would be good for or marriage like a new habit or a book but we don't finish them. Even though I know he is the one for me even if for the simple fact that we are married an God hates divorce, I still catch myself wondering what it would be like if I had married someone else and feeling like I made the wrong choice.
There is so much more that I want to talk about but it is late and I need to go to bed so this will have to suffice for now. If anyone knows of a good christian counseling service via email let me know. Or other ways to get counseling cheep.
 
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Well there is a free Christian counseling service- it's all the brothers and sisters here in cc:D Many wounded and hurt and troubled ppl have come here and have been saved from their troubles and have grown in Christ, you are cared for here and many here will go to great lengths to help you in your troubles:D
 
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I typed something here but it was the wrong thread ignore this post here, not the one above just this one
 
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TristessaAislinnVisola said:
Sometimes I feel guilty for feeling the way I do because I have it easy compared to most people. Sometimes I wonder if I should even want professional counseling when others have issues much worse than ours. I told my husband that I thought we should look into counseling. I could tell it really hurt him but he said that he would be willing to work overtime and even put off his schooling if necessary in order to afford it. But we honestly can't afford counseling. It has been one thing after another as far as our finances go and I don't want to give our family that extra burden.
I have come to hate sex. I feel like our relationship has not grown in the past 2 or 3 years (we have been married 4 years) We start things that would be good for or marriage like a new habit or a book but we don't finish them. Even though I know he is the one for me even if for the simple fact that we are married an God hates divorce, I still catch myself wondering what it would be like if I had married someone else and feeling like I made the wrong choice.
There is so much more that I want to talk about but it is late and I need to go to bed so this will have to suffice for now. If anyone knows of a good christian counseling service via email let me know. Or other ways to get counseling cheep.
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Most therapists have a sliding scale. What that means is that they will adjust their rates based on the financial situation of the clients. So, I would do some investigating into some family counselors in your area. It wouldn't be hard to make a few phone calls to find out if they had a sliding scale.

Additionally, if you're involved with a local church your pastor may be a good resource. Some pastors are well-versed in counseling husbands and wives. Or your pastor might be able to refer you to a good counselor who could work with you both.
 
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One other possibility - get the name of someone from your pastor, or Christian friend. And then speak to that counselor, tell him/her of the recommendation and exactly what you think you an afford. Also, if there is something in exchange you could offer such as homemade soups, pies, include that.

We have so neglected the bartering system that was the backbone of our country.

Pray about the Lord bringing someone in your life - and I believe He will. This site isn't quite the place because your husband's voice is not heard along with yours, and you need eye contact when speaking. If a Christian counselor, prayers can be said on the spot.
 
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You have a Counselor and HIS Services are always free. Too many times we run towards mankind when we need to lay prostrate before GOD HIMSELF. Seek HIS FACE, Repent and be delivered. As I read this I just felt that forgiveness is needed. Pride, doubt, frustration and no respect are on both parts in order to have a marriage work honesty must be upfront. True Love must be valued. Never allow outside negative influences to enter. Ask your husband to Anoint the home as he is the head. Study the Bible together and Pray for one another as a whole not individually. Be kind and make time for each other to grow and move forward together as one. Defeat the enemy in the Name of JESUS.

Blessings! !!!!!!
 
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Just a simple thought!

If I see a person doing (more than saying) something like this ("...he said that he would be willing to work overtime and even put off his schooling if necessary in order to afford it...") I would be re-assured he has some degree of commitment.
 
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Are you totally aware of what you´ve said?

"...I still catch myself wondering what it would be like if I had married someone else and feeling like I made the wrong choice..."

In what ways YOU THOUGHT or expected your marriage should evolve "to grow"? Financially solely?

"...I feel like our relationship has not grown in the past 2 or 3 years ..." Perhaps you´re "feeling" too much, while someone else looked more "commited", but I know nothing about you.
 
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TristessaAislinnVisola

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Thank you :) this is one of the most helpful comments. I will talk to my husband about it.
 
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Thank you for understanding and your practical advice :)
 
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Dear secularhermit (and anyone else who might be confused about my post),
I understand how it would be easy for you to get the wrong message from my post but you are right, you don't know anything about me. So let me help you out. I have never once in my life considered divorce as a possibility. I know in this day and age that might be hard to believe but it is the truth. More than anything besides my own personal relationship with Christ I want my relationship with my husband to be strong and healthy. I want it to thrive in glorifying God and not just survive. In answer to your question, no not financially. I don't care if we live on the streets as long as our marriage is growing spiritually. Also, I wrote about my feelings not because I believe them. Not because I follow them. But simply because I was frustrated and needed a place to vent. It was too late to bother anyone with a phone call. I thought this would be a good place for venting but maybe I was wrong. Please, don't make an assessment of someone's character until you have all your information. I'm nowhere near perfect but I long to grow in Christ and in our marriage!
 
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Our pastor does marriage counseling. He has all the degrees and has a license to do so. We are blessed to have this resource in our church
 
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