Hello,
I am on the brink of asking for a separation/divorce... I have been married 23 years and have two sons, 18 and 21.
From the beginning of our marriage we started to become estranged. I made mistakes and so did he. Then things continued down hill. I then tried to be a good wife, felt I could change him. I know, I know, only God can change people and only if their free will wants it, right?
Anyway at this stage we haven't said I love you for over 12 years. He has pushed me down once during an argument, Gets angry when I try to talk to him and either walks away, drives away or starts becoming extremely irritated and if I continue to try to talk to him he will curse or use Christ's name in vain to get me to be quiet. No he isn't a Christian and I wasn't the type of Christian I should have been when we married.
If I cry he doesn't comfort me when I have had surgery or am sick I feel like I am an inconvenience to him. When my kids are hurt or sick he is good to them so I know he knows how. My dilemma is how long do I live in this situation. I have already been hospitalized for depression that I feel was brought on by the anxiety over feeling I am stuck in this relationship. I have prayed for us yet it seems that maybe God is showing me that my husband will never change and giving me a reason to leave. Even when I was sitting at our kitchen table, talking to a friend on the phone, telling her I didn't want to live anymore and sobbing, he was sitting in front of the TV. He didn't come out until a local help/intervention group sent someone to my home to screen me for admit to hospital. Then he just said "I hope you can help her because I don't know what to do". I just feel so unloved and uncherished. I am afraid to stay and feel I will eventually end up in the hospital again. Since he won't talk with me about problems we don't discuss it. I just live day to day like a roommate with him. I'm at the point that I don't want to go to counseling my heart doesn't trust him with my feelings... Now I have to decide.
I am on the brink of asking for a separation/divorce... I have been married 23 years and have two sons, 18 and 21.
From the beginning of our marriage we started to become estranged. I made mistakes and so did he. Then things continued down hill. I then tried to be a good wife, felt I could change him. I know, I know, only God can change people and only if their free will wants it, right?
Anyway at this stage we haven't said I love you for over 12 years. He has pushed me down once during an argument, Gets angry when I try to talk to him and either walks away, drives away or starts becoming extremely irritated and if I continue to try to talk to him he will curse or use Christ's name in vain to get me to be quiet. No he isn't a Christian and I wasn't the type of Christian I should have been when we married.
If I cry he doesn't comfort me when I have had surgery or am sick I feel like I am an inconvenience to him. When my kids are hurt or sick he is good to them so I know he knows how. My dilemma is how long do I live in this situation. I have already been hospitalized for depression that I feel was brought on by the anxiety over feeling I am stuck in this relationship. I have prayed for us yet it seems that maybe God is showing me that my husband will never change and giving me a reason to leave. Even when I was sitting at our kitchen table, talking to a friend on the phone, telling her I didn't want to live anymore and sobbing, he was sitting in front of the TV. He didn't come out until a local help/intervention group sent someone to my home to screen me for admit to hospital. Then he just said "I hope you can help her because I don't know what to do". I just feel so unloved and uncherished. I am afraid to stay and feel I will eventually end up in the hospital again. Since he won't talk with me about problems we don't discuss it. I just live day to day like a roommate with him. I'm at the point that I don't want to go to counseling my heart doesn't trust him with my feelings... Now I have to decide.