Thank you so much for all your comments, they are so appreciated.
Let me just take this opportunity to express my gratitude that there is a place here privately away from my family to discuss this, there has been so many times I felt I was drowning in pain, overwhelming sadness and frustration, "Thank you CC"
I'm 62, and love The LORD with all my heart and soul, and if it weren't for him I seriously don't know what I would have done.
My sons are 39 & 37, my oldest has been married for 8 yrs and my youngest they have been together for 18 yrs.
When they were growing up, up until the time they Were 8 & 10 I was a single parent.
They were the best kids, loving, funny, helpful, you name it, they were amazing!
Being a single parent as anyone would know does have its challenges, but I come from a big loving family with lots of support.
I never in a million years saw this coming!!
My kids got married and slowly everything started to change, my one daughter in law (DIL) literally came up to my face in my personal space and said, quote " your son doesn't love you doesn't want to have anything to do with you and doesn't want you to come here". At that moment I felt a nice piercing through my heart, I couldn't believe what my ears had just heard a white anyone could be so cruel, and my only reply was "you lying you're just jealous because you don't want me to be a part of my sons life" what else I said after that I don't remember because I was in so much shock and hurt, but what I do remember is that she picked up the phone call my son at work and told him that I was being disrespectful to her in her own home.
When my son came home I tried to explain to him what had happened and he didn't believe me, that's been over 10 years ago, since then they have a beautiful baby during the time that she was pregnant they didn't even tell me until after she was born, broke my heart!!! And from the time that she was born I've probably only seen her at the most four times. That's just a small part of what I've gone through with my younger son.
My older Son's favorite hobby is to throw me under the bus, contradicts me in public, cuts me off in conversation, when I have ask for help with computer or other simple things, it's always " I don't have time" NEVER helps me with anything, I could be caring a big bag of groceries, and he'll just walk right pass me, and more hurtful than anything he laugh about it.
I asked God to please forgive them, to soften their hearts, to lighten their path, and to give them godly wisdom.
It has gotten to the point that I really don't even like to be around them anymore, the joy of my life is my oldest son's daughter which they allow me to be with her whenever I want, And for that I am most grateful for but I pay a big price of having to allow both their disrespects, she is the joy of my life, and I think God for that one bright light.
I asked God to give me strength to endure this journey because there's times I don't think that I can't see it through it is just too painful and I never saw this coming.