He wants a divorce

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adamsmom83

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What do you do when the man you loved for 7 years says he does not love you anymore? We have a son who is not even a year old yet. I left because he was doing some very bad things that made me feel unsafe to live in the same house with him. After I left he tells me he is happy without me and wants a divorce. I know I was not a perfect wife but I tried so hard to love him. Even when he was angry all the time and then I found out he was drinking and hiding it from me. Alot of drinking, not just a beer here and there. My dad is a pastor and I grew up in a strong Christian home, I do not want a divorce. I just want my family back. My heart is broken and I do not know what to do.
 
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naomibelieves

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Adamsmom83,

first, you need to talk to our Lord and ask for his help in making your mind on this matter. Then, if you want your marriage to work, dedicate your life to Him, delight in him,and talk to Him about the reconciliation.No doubt, He is going to answer your prayer. No one knows when it is going to happen, but things according to God's will happen. It is just that He waits for the right time to reward his children.
 
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michelleruedeman

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adamsmom83 said:
What do you do when the man you loved for 7 years says he does not love you anymore? We have a son who is not even a year old yet. I left because he was doing some very bad things that made me feel unsafe to live in the same house with him. After I left he tells me he is happy without me and wants a divorce. I know I was not a perfect wife but I tried so hard to love him. Even when he was angry all the time and then I found out he was drinking and hiding it from me. Alot of drinking, not just a beer here and there. My dad is a pastor and I grew up in a strong Christian home, I do not want a divorce. I just want my family back. My heart is broken and I do not know what to do.
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Honestly , My besy advice is to continue to pray withour ceasing and pleading the Blood of Jesus over your family constantly and claim what is yours rightfully with the power that Christ has given to you when you became bornagain and rebuke any foul spirit that doesn t belong in or around you and your child and husband in thename of Jesus Christ ..the Bible says that if you resist the devil he will have to flee from you..Just plead the blood of Jesus constantly for your family and and get back what is yours ...may my prayers be with you and may your family have salvation that Christ offers...
 
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squidmike

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for starters he has compromised your household and your child as well . you need to be with someone who wants to be with you , to put God first and then you. But he must be a man of integrity.Someone who has gained your trust by what he does ,not by what he says to you. Lots of marriages based on how the man said all of the right things,yet they were the exact opposite of what they first portrayed themselves to be. you didn't found out about who he really was until it was too late.


-may god bless you
 
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adamsmom83

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Thanks everyone for your comments. It is so hard to know what to do. I'm praying that God will show me his will.
 
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Luv4Jesus

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Hi.im new but urs got my attn..sigh..my children were taken away & was given 2 my husband who tells me tat day he put in for divorce already..:(..its hard especially when ur in love..i was told just keep ur eyes on the Lord & trust him 2 replace tat hurt in u w/joy. God is good ovr all things..i feel ur pain..im going thru it too..just focus urself now on God than on man. He will nvr leave u...im here for u & will b praying
 
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bluebutterfly

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Adam's mom I hope you are hanging in there okay my advice to you is just pray pray know that Jesus is with you and God knows the hurt you have pray for him pray for a restore marriage hope everything is okay and God bless
 
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distinctiveministry

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Here's a tidbit about love in general that I think most people don't appreciate. We don't spend time on the things we love, we love the things we spend our time on. The spending time comes first. Infatuation may cause us to spend time, but only after spending our time and investing in something do we learn to love it. In most marriages that I've seen falling apart, things began to go bad when spending time together was no longer a priority or no longer possible. The attention that used to be focused on each other gets turned to hobbies, other friends, or sinful habits and these just eat up a marriage (hobbies and friends are things to share in a marriage).

I think the big question that you'll have to answer is whether he WANTS things to work out. If he doesn't want to "fall" back in love, then there's little one can do other than wait on God's answer (not that waiting is bad, as it obviously isn't, but just waiting when you can be faithfully acting is no good). If he is willing to work at least a little bit, then I think you should talk to him and see if you can commit to giving each other the most of your time that you can, to be spent together, whether just together, or together enjoying things you enjoy like friends and hobbies. If you can agree to spend a lot of quality time together, I'm confident you will again learn to appreciate and then respect and then love each other (I know you still love him, but you will both appreciate, respect and love).

This plan is in addition to the recommended prayer that others have mentioned. I hope it helps, and please be encouraged that each of us who responds is praying for you as well.
 
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choZn

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I have been through the same exact thing that you are going through now when my daughter was close to your sons age. My husband was also physically abusive. A christian and against divorce I held on to my faith and listened to the advice of other christians who said "just pray" and quoted scriptures as if that would make it all better. He chose divorce, drinking, and women. We remarried 3 years later, in which time I became pregnant with our son. He had not changed. If anything, he was worse and sinking deeper. We divorced again, after only 1 yr. of marriage. That was 12 years ago. He has never remarried and has chosen a life of sin. He is unhappy and miserable. It has been difficult to deal with him over the years and I still pray for him and feel a genuine sadness for him. But I came to realize something very important along this journey- God can change him but he has to want to be changed. No matter what happens, God sees your hurt and knows your pain. He knows what you need now and how he intends to bless your faithfulness today and in the future. He is well aware of your situation and loves your family.I will be praying for you and for your husband.Just remember ,Gods answers are not always what we would work out for ourselves but the blessings are there just the same and all things do really work to the god for those who love the Lord.
 
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snugpug240

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how aweful. ill be praying for you adamsmom83. just aweful.
 
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Seriously_Cool_Wife

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I'm so sorry hon!!

I'm sure you know what the bible says about an unbeliever wanting out of the marriage. You are supposed to let them go with grace if that's what they choose. Grace isn't being superwoman, it's choosing to follow God and rely on Him without hard feelings interrupting your life or your child's.

God still has plans for you, they haven't changed regardless of your husband's plans. God's plans are much bigger. Hang in there and pray. We love you.
 
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