My marriage

[BarlyGurl]

Barly, clarify, girl! Clarify..lol.. An angry smiley tells me you're mad at me.. but putting "lol" instead of the angry smiley tells me you're joking.. lol.. see how easy that was?

That particular lil add-on was misread by several and has got to be about the MOST EPICALLY ill-timed "pun" E-V-E-R... but thank you.

 

[secularhermit]

sad as that is!

Every a person lunched out of their home, the supper wan´t ready (or poorly served)...

or the Freezer was too cold or empty.

 

[Jenizona]

True, but even Jesus, while being loving and honest, was ALSO stern. He made sure whoever he talked to knew that He meant what He said, and wasn't sugar coating it.

True, Ladybug, but Jesus was perfect, and God, and... all those things that we, as humans, aren't lol! He had the benefit of ALWAYS knowing the heart of the person he was addressing, and how His words would be received. Since we don't have that ability, I've always found it better to err on the side of gentleness, whenever possible.

 

[Lynn68]

What I have to ask is, have you accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? He came to this world to save the world, not condemn it. Jesus can cleans you of your sins, do you believe that? Do you believe that He is the Son of God? Do you believe that He died on the cross and rose again? This is the first step in this process. Having Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior you will then be able to have strength and courage to get through anything-even telling your husband about your affair. God is either everything, or else He is nothing.
I will pray for you. ...

 

[jonl]

True, but even Jesus, while being loving and honest, was ALSO stern. He made sure whoever he talked to knew that He meant what He said, and wasn't sugar coating it.

Ultimately there’s a lot at stake. Also God’s great love for his creation of man on earth was the reason he sent his only begotten Son to die for man’s sins and to rise again for the hope of eternal life.

There’s an article about how poorer couples given government sponsored marriage counseling have been unsuccessful. Families with enough money to provide for their children’s welfare and education have a better chance of staying together. The Methodist John Wesley once said, (paraphrased) “when money flies out the window, love flies out the door.”

With my luck, the wife (hypothetical) might leave anyway, and take the money with her. “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” Matt. 5:8

 

[kaylagrl]

By the same token, we shouldn't pussyfoot around and sugar coat this issue, either. Sometimes we have to be gentle and caring, but other times, being bluntly and blatantly honest and harsh sometimes works just as well. It forces the person to take a good look at what they have done, and why. And hopefully it makes them realize the severity of the consequences of what they did. I do honestly hope that this couple DOES pursue counseling, because they definitely need help.

Yes as I said I agree with straight talk most of the time but OP seems in distress.I think she's hit rock bottom.She needs professional help.She knows shes wrong,I dont think we need to point that out.I just wouldnt want her to do something to harm herself.She seems too close to the edge IMO

 

[HoneyDew]

Matthew 26:41 Watch and pray, that you enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh, weak.

1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.


2 Corinthians 12:9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Repent means to turn away from sin and turn to God. It is a change of heart and mind. You are human you will make mistakes and fall. The thing is to get back up dust yourself, keep pressing and try not to go that way again. Talk to God and be honest with yourself and with Him and tell Him your struggle and ask for help and forgiveness.

You will be tested in this area again but stand on Gods word. I was taught to read in Gods word about the thing you are struggling in and let God minister to your heart.

Psalm 119:11 Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.

God loves you and there is nothing impossible or to hard for him if you believe.

Romans 8:38-39 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Grace and Peace

 

[blue_ladybug]

Yes as I said I agree with straight talk most of the time but OP seems in distress.I think she's hit rock bottom.She needs professional help.She knows shes wrong,I dont think we need to point that out.I just wouldnt want her to do something to harm herself.She seems too close to the edge IMO

Yeah they definitely BOTH need help..

 

[Utah]

I hope the OP is a troll just fishing for reactions from Christians, using a made up story as bait. I hope this because that means there's one less screwed up family in complete and total turmoil.

The downside is, if this person is a troll, it means they don't know the Lord.

Prayer for this individual is needed, regardless.

 

[Utah]

Why does Barly appear so angry?!

Happy people share happiness while misery loves company.

There is righteous indignation that happy people share when needed. We need to use our discernment to ascertain who is sharing what when they come out with guns blazing.

 

[secularhermit]

You´ve seen those baits and thoughts being harvested by "new comers"?

Good!

 

[secularhermit]

Those issues always come with one single version and, the other ppl "witnessing" their fight, is somewhere else.

 

[Utah]

Those issues always come with one single version and, the other ppl "witnessing" their fight, is somewhere else.

Sadly, and amen to this.

 

[secularhermit]

Sadly, and amen to this.

If that bed was "cold" several times...

Would a "newcomer" visit a place like this? (when those decision were previously DONE)

Dudes!

PS

I´m sorry for being NIHILISTIC.

"Anonimity" counts for me.

 

[secularhermit]

Thanks!

I´m going back to Fakebook.

 

[WoundedWarrior]

Why does Barly appear so angry?!

Furthermore, why does she turn her anger towards so many here?
Is it impossible to disagree with this woman, without venom spewing from her mouth?!

For Pete's sake!

(Who's Pete, anyway -- St. Peter?) Gonna have to google this.....squirrel!

I have no hard feelings. Sorry if I blew this out of proportion.

-WW

 

[Angela53510]

To MacKenzie the OP.

If you really are experiencing this, I suggest you go to a doctor, and find out if you have bipolar disorder. Hypersexuality can be a symptom. I know a number of Christian woman, who ran off and committed adultery during their manic states. In fact, those marriages did not turn out well, and the women lost their children.

Medication can help this condition. Then you have to commit in your heart to follow Jesus, instead of your hormones. And that is an entire journey in itself, which quite a few people have pointed out here.

 

[jsr1221]

McKenzie, that is such a tough situation... my heart goes out to you. The very first thing you need to do is start getting in the Word and praying. I would proceed with caution if you do decide to tell your husband. Blurting everything out is not necessarily the best way to proceed. First you have to take it up with God, pour your heart out before Him, and let your heart regain its tenderness. The way ahead is tough, but you can do this. Maybe confessing to a female friend would be helpful, someone who can be with you and support you as you strive to make things right.

One thing that you must do is stop seeking companionship outside your marriage. As long as you do that, you will be asking for trouble time and time again. Everyone needs friends (and friends of the opposite sex can be particularly tempting) but you must really inspect the ways that you're going about it, and take a totally different path, perhaps Bible Study or church groups. Maybe coming to a Christian Chat site like this is a good start.

Get your life back on track! It's hard but I know you can do it!

I'm sorry, but what do you mean "if you decide." A marriage is supposed to be built on trust. If she can't be honest what she did to the man she made a vow under God to be with.. Why even be married in the first place? I agree that she needs to get it right with God, but it starts with telling her husband everything. Or else she will just be living in a lie.

 

[kaylagrl]

I'm sorry, but what do you mean "if you decide." A marriage is supposed to be built on trust. If she can't be honest what she did to the man she made a vow under God to be with.. Why even be married in the first place? I agree that she needs to get it right with God, but it starts with telling her husband everything. Or else she will just be living in a lie.

She needs to go to a counselor.I wouldnt advise blurting this out at the supper table.She has issues she needs to deal with,then she needs to deal with her marriage. JMO

 

[Mckenzie84]

She needs to go to a counselor.I wouldnt advise blurting this out at the supper table.She has issues she needs to deal with,then she needs to deal with her marriage. JMO

Your right I do need council I need help I am a mess I can't do this on my own. I wake up every day crying I'm due for work tomo and I don't wanna go. I just want to be alone crying.