Porn addiction

[ohiomann]

This is my first time doing something like this. I need help badly. I went through a bad relationship recently and I use porn to replace what I once had, and to replace the pain and the void that I have in my heart. I want to stop please help

 

[blue_ladybug]

This is my first time doing something like this. I need help badly. I went through a bad relationship recently and I use porn to replace what I once had, and to replace the pain and the void that I have in my heart. I want to stop please help

First of all, hello and welcome to CC. Secondly, you can post this in the Family forum, because new members forum is only for introducing yourself and not many people come in here. You will get alot more help and replies in the other forums.

 

[Willie-T]

First of all, hello and welcome to CC. Secondly, you can post this in the Family forum, because new members forum is only for introducing yourself and not many people come in here. You will get alot more help and replies in the other forums.

Well phrased. And so very true. I know that some days I don't even look in this particular room of the forum.

 

[Willie-T]

OP,
I have an answer for you that honestly does work. But I have some things to do here before I post that. Hang in there.

 

[secularhermit]

Think about this:

Just imagine that, if you find another person (who probably accepts you, as you are) after having get addicted to porn site and those "stars"...

How could you accept her, for the woman she is?

Keep in mind "those" you might see "there" are too good to be the real one you want for you (unless you are another star shining in her life)

If "that" is an addiction, like if you like to eat honey: Have you seen you would like more and more?

By the way, porn is a lie!

Here some tip you can read, by yourself:

3 Ways to Avoid Pornography - wikiHow

How to Overcome Porn Addiction and Get Your Life Back

How to Stop Porn Addiction - One Powerful Technique to Help You Stop Watching Porn

 

[Willie-T]

I took a look at #3. Although a couple of points aren't bad, overall this method has proven to be mostly a failure.

 

[shotgunner]

First, you need to cleanse your mind by the washing of the water of the Word. Spend time in your Bible. Second, try not to allow yourself the opportunity to sin. Don't spend time where it is available. Go to a friends house or somewhere away from the computer or TV or whatever. Get rid of both if you need to. It would be better to cast your computer into hell that have your whole body burn.

The third and final thing is that it comes down to one simple question. Do you love porn more than Jesus? If you love Jesus more, you can stop.

 

[secularhermit]

I don´t know what is the best, particularly for him but, the saddest thing I know (after watching FIREPROOF)
it is the way a woman might feel after witnessing HER HUSBAND´s words.

What if I had a wife and she always compared me with someone she liked better?

I would feel offended, hurt (and despised).

He can find his way, making his decisions and, as I have seen, the computer do not call ppl to "get" what they see and, if I was on the streets, seeing what I normally see, life is passing by, while I´m learning to wave life good-bye.

He knows his long, his age, his needs and God is ALWAYS there, to talk, to help us breathe.

The most wonderful thing He gave humankind is the PREVILEGE of loving (and porn is not love).

@ OhioMan

I hope you find your way out!

Marrying is a good possible solution but (get rid of that problem, 1st)

 

[pwrnJC]

Yes...our basic sexual nature, esp. males, is based on pure 'feelings', "emotions" and instant gratification..and old satan has it before our eyes in all the free internet porn out there, which lures and hooks us. THis 'curse" is hard to break..but "Greater is HE that is in us (the Holy Spirit) than he (satan and his horde of demons) that is in the world." IT can be broken...it takes diligence...and tons of communication between Father and his children (YOU)!!!!!! Willie -T has put a certain biblically based book online about dealing with and becoming victorious over this form of addiction..if you would like to contact him. He is always in this forum and you could also privately catch him. I forgot the author and name of the publication. Basically, being addicted to porno is like being addicted to anything else..it is habitual, never ending and always seems to come at ya from all angles..because us humans are weak and satan knows our weak spots....but we do have VICTORY in CHRIST only. NO other program can be as successful as a full holy spirit filled walking, living daily life as a true CHRIST follower.

 

[Willie-T]

First, you need to cleanse your mind by the washing of the water of the Word. Spend time in your Bible. Second, try not to allow yourself the opportunity to sin. Don't spend time where it is available. Go to a friends house or somewhere away from the computer or TV or whatever. Get rid of both if you need to. It would be better to cast your computer into hell that have your whole body burn.

The third and final thing is that it comes down to one simple question. Do you love porn more than Jesus? If you love Jesus more, you can stop.

This DOES sound good. But if it was quite that easy, none of us would ever do anything wrong.

Besides, this often lays a guilt trip on people, telling them, essentially, "Well, obviously you don't love Jesus."

 

[Willie-T]

Yes...our basic sexual nature, esp. males, is based on pure 'feelings', "emotions" and instant gratification..and old satan has it before our eyes in all the free internet porn out there, which lures and hooks us. THis 'curse" is hard to break..but "Greater is HE that is in us (the Holy Spirit) than he (satan and his horde of demons) that is in the world." IT can be broken...it takes diligence...and tons of communication between Father and his children (YOU)!!!!!! Willie -T has put a certain biblically based book online about dealing with and becoming victorious over this form of addiction..if you would like to contact him. He is always in this forum and you could also privately catch him. I forgot the author and name of the publication. Basically, being addicted to porno is like being addicted to anything else..it is habitual, never ending and always seems to come at ya from all angles..because us humans are weak and satan knows our weak spots....but we do have VICTORY in CHRIST only. NO other program can be as successful as a full holy spirit filled walking, living daily life as a true CHRIST follower.

I've spent half my abult life working in this field. I have seen all sorts of "cures" come and go. Some work for a short time, some only to a certain extent, And others actually are effective, but leave you living with shame and guilt for the rest of your life.

There are only two methods I have found in 25 years that truly work. One is expensive, $170, and one is very inexpensive, $10. Frankly, I think the less expensive way is honestly better. It's simply a book. BUT it is a book that requires that you DO the things the author outlines. It is entitled, Eyes of Honor.

http://www.amazon.com/Eyes-Honor-Training-Purity-Righteousness/dp/0768441323

 

[shotgunner]

This DOES sound good. But if it was quite that easy, none of us would ever do anything wrong.

Besides, this often lays a guilt trip on people, telling them, essentially, "Well, obviously you don't love Jesus."

Yes, I wouldn't use it in that manner and didn't mean it as a condemnation. It was meant to be a different way to look at your own sin.

 

[Willie-T]

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Yes, I wouldn't use it in that manner and didn't mean it as a condemnation. It was meant to be a different way to look at your own sin.

I know that, you aren't like that. (and I really appreciate that about you) But you would be surprised at the way some guys take a lot of our well-meaning advice and comments because they have been so beaten-down and defeated by their inability to conquer this awful thing.

 

[shotgunner]

I know that, you aren't like that. (and I really appreciate that about you) But you would be surprised at the way some guys take a lot of our well-meaning advice and comments because they have been so beaten-down and defeated by their inability to conquer this awful thing.

I know, and I appreciate how you helped to clarify exactly what I meant. That's what brothers should be doing here all the time.

 

[Willie-T]

Yeah, frankly a lot of the posting here falls under the category of entertainment to me. But this particular subject, in fact a lot that pertains to sexual problems, has been the primary focus of most of my life, and is of paramount importance to me.

 

[WoundedWarrior]

Welcome to the forum, Ohio!

You're in good hands here.

Good stuff, guys! Makes my heart leap with joy to see people communicating well, understanding each other, and building each other up! Keep on, keepin' on!

 

[Willie-T]

Welcome to the forum, Ohio!

You're in good hands here.

Good stuff, guys! Makes my heart leap with joy to see people communicating well, understanding each other, and building each other up! Keep on, keepin' on!

It's amazing how much good, effective communication can flow when we don't pursue negative personal agendas.

 

[minty]

Hi ohiomann, my best advice to avoid spending too much time online when you are feeling like this. Spend time with friends not online but in the real world do stuff like go see a movie or bowling or have a meal somewhere. Also now here comes the hard part be honest with your friends about your addiction. I would suggest that these friends be Christians. Hopefully they wont judge you and support you through this. Secondly talk about how you are feeling about this relationship that went wrong/bad. It is in some sense a kind of loss and so needs to be dealt with in such a way.

God bless - minty X

 

[shotgunner]

Hi ohiomann, my best advice to avoid spending too much time online when you are feeling like this. Spend time with friends not online but in the real world do stuff like go see a movie or bowling or have a meal somewhere. Also now here comes the hard part be honest with your friends about your addiction. I would suggest that these friends be Christians. Hopefully they wont judge you and support you through this. Secondly talk about how you are feeling about this relationship that went wrong/bad. It is in some sense a kind of loss and so needs to be dealt with in such a way.

God bless - minty X

Yes, yes! Our church has developed a Wed night class where we can feel safe to talk about real life changing problems without fear of condemnation, or gossip. It took a while to lay down the strict guidelines and develop trust, but we are seeing lives set free because of it.

 

[secularhermit]

Yes...our basic sexual nature, esp. males, is based on pure 'feelings', "emotions" and instant gratification..and old satan has it before our eyes in all the free internet porn out there, which lures and hooks us. THis 'curse" is hard to break..but "Greater is HE that is in us (the Holy Spirit) than he (satan and his horde of demons) that is in the world." IT can be broken...it takes diligence...and tons of communication between Father and his children (YOU)!!!!!! Willie -T has put a certain biblically based book online about dealing with and becoming victorious over this form of addiction..if you would like to contact him. He is always in this forum and you could also privately catch him. I forgot the author and name of the publication. Basically, being addicted to porno is like being addicted to anything else..it is habitual, never ending and always seems to come at ya from all angles..because us humans are weak and satan knows our weak spots....but we do have VICTORY in CHRIST only. NO other program can be as successful as a full holy spirit filled walking, living daily life as a true CHRIST follower.

One thing I know, by experience...

My eyes got me in troubles, more than once.

These eyes I love are a made-believe...



The Gestalt Effect | Regents English 10

Those that really loved me, those who had shown pure love, were ignored when I set my eyes in the wrong place...

I know there are ladies who also had believed their eyes (they´re NOT blind)

But, I´m assured we men believe our eyes and, if I had found a woman who was blind (literally) I would have loved to serve her, by these two reasons:

1) I would love to be her sight.

2) Beside one single person I was, I needed nothing else to see.

But all gender are dealing with their fights.