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My son has been struggling with addiction too. Drug addiction is a symptom-to a spiritual problem. I started praying for my son, that God's grace would move through his life, and that Gods Will would be done, and not mine. Even if that means my son ends up in jail, that would be God's will, and it would be better than him being dead. I pray that your son finds bottom-that he realizes that he is in need of a Savior... (hugs)
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Pray for strength. (Yours and your hubby, because son needs weakness at the moment, not strength.) Contact your local rehab center and ask them what to do. They'll ask more questions of you. Be honest in your answers. When done with that phone call, pray some more for more strength. And then do what they say to do, praying as needed, because this isn't going to be easy. Hard doesn't quite cover it either. Your son knows your buttons and will push everyone multiple times.
Do NOT wait for him to hit bottom, because bottom really really sucks!
Do NOT wait for him to hit bottom, because bottom really really sucks!
How is he paying for the drugs? Does he have a job? Is he dealing drugs? Or prostitution? Start by figuring out how to cut the money off.
Then get him into drug rehab. Drugs are very dangerous, and people die from overdoses all the time. In Canada right now, they are cutting Fentanyl into street drugs, and even recreational drug users are dying.
There is nothing too extreme when it comes to getting a minor child off drugs. Put him in a drug rehab that he cannot escape from. Separate him from his friends.
Praying for you to take the hard steps to pulling him back from this terrible addiction.
Then get him into drug rehab. Drugs are very dangerous, and people die from overdoses all the time. In Canada right now, they are cutting Fentanyl into street drugs, and even recreational drug users are dying.
There is nothing too extreme when it comes to getting a minor child off drugs. Put him in a drug rehab that he cannot escape from. Separate him from his friends.
Praying for you to take the hard steps to pulling him back from this terrible addiction.
Find out what his attention is on (i.e. music, TV, friends, etc.) and if possible, help redirect his focus on God. It's the only thing that will truly help. The world's system is a temporary solution. In life, we all have choices to make and he will ultimately have to make his own choices once he is an adult. God's word is transforming and will direct his steps if he allows it to. I pray that the blindness the devil's placed over his eyes be removed and that God's word is planted in his heart and that it may grow, changing his heart to choose life, in Jesus' name. I also pray for strength and wisdom for you as you help your son 
Make him stop... If you can't or won't, then put him in rehab and leave him there until he's clean. My nephew started using at about the same age, and 2 weeks ago he was found dead in a garage from an over-dose. His mother (my sister) tried talking warning, and praying, but her son is still dead. Being nice and understanding doesn't work, your boy needs discipline. Don't do anything to facilitate his drug abuse ($$), and if he has a father, wake him up and make him pay attention. jmo
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I know this has to be heartbreaking for you. Most people who indulge in drug activity are trying to depress some sort of pain. So in order to even consider stopping the drug usage he needs to dig deep within himself on the issues he is having that caused him to indulge in heavy drugs. Most times people gradually use heavy drugs.
Talk openly with your son. Do not condemn him that will only make things worst. Focus on family first. Most times many want to blame friends but the first look should be within the family structure. Especially when dealing with the youth. Then explore his friends, peers and girls he has been acquainted with.
Pray for and with your son, ask GOD to destroy any and all strongholds your son has. Pray for your son's strength to overcome the demonic force that is tangling him by staying away from the people he does drugs with. Take him to church on the regular and and all activities he can attend..not just Sunday service. Find out if your church has a youth group, if they have a recovery program andif there is an elder of the church who has overcome any drug addiction to walk along side your son to help him successfully overcome. (make sure this elder has some years clean and is truly walking with the LORD- spend time with him first talking with him, ask others regarding his commitment, look for him while attending other activities).
These things will help in the whole process but the main thing is your son must be ready. Ready to do the battle and willing to fight no matter what his body has to go through. Do not give him any money. Purchase any hygiene products for him. make him attend school regularly. Monitor him if that means taking him to school and picking him up. He will hate this but his life is at stake.
Blessings!!!!!!!
Talk openly with your son. Do not condemn him that will only make things worst. Focus on family first. Most times many want to blame friends but the first look should be within the family structure. Especially when dealing with the youth. Then explore his friends, peers and girls he has been acquainted with.
Pray for and with your son, ask GOD to destroy any and all strongholds your son has. Pray for your son's strength to overcome the demonic force that is tangling him by staying away from the people he does drugs with. Take him to church on the regular and and all activities he can attend..not just Sunday service. Find out if your church has a youth group, if they have a recovery program andif there is an elder of the church who has overcome any drug addiction to walk along side your son to help him successfully overcome. (make sure this elder has some years clean and is truly walking with the LORD- spend time with him first talking with him, ask others regarding his commitment, look for him while attending other activities).
These things will help in the whole process but the main thing is your son must be ready. Ready to do the battle and willing to fight no matter what his body has to go through. Do not give him any money. Purchase any hygiene products for him. make him attend school regularly. Monitor him if that means taking him to school and picking him up. He will hate this but his life is at stake.
Blessings!!!!!!!
I picked up at fifteen and didn't put down until I was thirty nine. My family did nothing to intervene, but I hid it from them as best I could, also, and I left home pretty much as soon as I turned eighteen, and then moved across the country four years later. The point being, they did not, for the most part, know what I was doing, or how bad it really got. I must add the caveat, that I know of. Certainly by the time I left the province, none of them really knew what I was doing, or that I had overdosed and been hospitalized three times, or any of the others things I faced alone without their support, or knowledge of their love for me. By then I don't think their intervention would have mattered to me. I did not believe they cared, and I did not want them interfering in my life.
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Yikes.
Every time that I come to the prayer section, I seem to find people describing the same problems that I had at one stage of my life and I pretty much had them all. I started doing drugs when I was 16 years old and I did them until I almost died of a drug overdose shortly before I turned 27. I still recall being strapped to a gurney and carried out of my friend's basement and being rushed to the hospital in the back of an ambulance. I never thought that I'd make it there alive and I couldn't help but think of how my nieces and nephews and other family members were going to hear how I had died of an overdose. At that time, I wore a gold cross earring and I clung to it tenaciously on the ride in that it was the closest thing to "God" that I knew. It took the doctors 5 hours just to get my heartbeat regulated and even that required nitroglycerine. Anyhow, in my case, I pretty much didn't have any answers for the questions which constantly plagued me (Why am I here? What is life all about? What happens when I die? etc., etc.) and I did drugs to try to suppress the questions...which they never really did. Ultimately, your son needs Jesus Christ and Whom the Son sets free is free indeed. I haven't even thought about drugs for the last 27 years. Is your son open at all to the things of God?
Every time that I come to the prayer section, I seem to find people describing the same problems that I had at one stage of my life and I pretty much had them all. I started doing drugs when I was 16 years old and I did them until I almost died of a drug overdose shortly before I turned 27. I still recall being strapped to a gurney and carried out of my friend's basement and being rushed to the hospital in the back of an ambulance. I never thought that I'd make it there alive and I couldn't help but think of how my nieces and nephews and other family members were going to hear how I had died of an overdose. At that time, I wore a gold cross earring and I clung to it tenaciously on the ride in that it was the closest thing to "God" that I knew. It took the doctors 5 hours just to get my heartbeat regulated and even that required nitroglycerine. Anyhow, in my case, I pretty much didn't have any answers for the questions which constantly plagued me (Why am I here? What is life all about? What happens when I die? etc., etc.) and I did drugs to try to suppress the questions...which they never really did. Ultimately, your son needs Jesus Christ and Whom the Son sets free is free indeed. I haven't even thought about drugs for the last 27 years. Is your son open at all to the things of God?
I work in an IRTS - Intensive Rehabilitative Treatment Services. We address mental health as well as addictions. I also have personal history on both sides of the page. 1. Don't enable him. If he asks for cash, make him work for it. 2. Set rules - I'm assuming he's at home being he is only 16. If he won't abide by the rules, show him consequences. 3. Pray...that's really first. 4. Have faith and practice it by abiding in the Lord. Stand on the rock and do not waver. 5. Reach for support. Alanon, overcomers, other organizations within the community, in the church. Reach out. You need it now more than ever. You don't have to go through this alone. There is a vast network of support if you look. My prayers are with you.
Getting high isn't really about getting high, it's about escapism. It could just as easily have been escapism by promiscuous sex, escapism by alcohol, escapism by going out and fighting, escapism by shutting himself in his room or going out all night. The first question you need to ask yourself is, what is he trying to escape from? If he won't tell you, then you're probably a part of what he's trying to escape. If that's the case, you need to figure out what you can do differently.
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