Almost divorced

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mokie22yrold

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In a couple more weeks divorce will be final. I never wanted this. ...I was forced to file for my own sake. I've been so very lonely. I try to keep busy. working 2 jobs to get out of this credit card dept he left me with. I been going to church when I can now that I found one I like and getting fed at. its just the idea divorce will be officially legal and I don't know how to go on. I'm thinking it's more psychological cause I have been going on but now it's like. ..I don't know how to go on. Thanks for reading.
 
Angela53510

Angela53510

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Of course you are going to be sad. All your hopes and dreams for your marriage have come crashing down.

But you are doing the right things, keeping busy, going to a good church.

What about some counseling? Someone you can share your pain with, and they can give you feedback about how to move on.
 
Dino246

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I feel your pain; my divorce will soon be final too, and it wasn't my choice either. However I have leaned heavily on the Lord and have found Him steadfast and certain. He is my Rock; may He be yours too.

Father, please bless Your daughter with the comfort, encouragement and strength to keep going. Let Your word be a lamp for her feet and a light for her path, let her know the presence of Your Spirit, and know in her heart that You will not leave her. Give her direction when she feels lost, love when she feels lonely, and peace when she feels turmoil. Please provide for her needs, and be her place of rest. In Jesus' Name.
 
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Does it matter if it's psychological compared to any other choice? It is sadness and confusion. It is loneliness. I suspect defeat has crept in too. Truly you're allowed to feel however you feel.

But give yourself some credit too. Aren't you making godly choices? You're seeking God. You're unloading the debt piled on you. You're being fed by God. You're making it. Maybe not all rainbows and puppies, but you are making it. God is with you and you are with him. Pretty amazing stuff considering how horrible you feel.
 
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mokie22yrold

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thanks for the prayers and encouragement. I thought about counseling, but I don't know. tried a divorce care group...found that kind of boring. so I don't know. ...I. thought we'd be married for life. but he had affair and dumped me. perhaps I can write more on here how I feel..I don't know.
 
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mokie22yrold

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thank you for praying. :)
 
Dan58

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Loneliness is just feeling a void of someone who's no longer there, but it can turn out to be a good void when that someone was good for nothing :). Sometimes its better to be alone than live with a problem that's detrimental to you. Your now moving forward from something that didn't work, try to be happy about that and don't focus on the past. There are worse things than being alone, and living with your soon to be ex was probably one of them. jmo
 
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MollyConnor

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Have the faith to know that the Lord will take care of you. If the guy didn't want to be with you, you don't want to be with him, right?

It's why God gave us free will. He didn't want robots saying "I love you Lord." He wanted humans to come to him with sincerity and authentic love, not artificial love. What you had was artificial. If your husband wants a divorce, obviously he didn't love you.

Keep going to church, keep praying and know that authentic love wins through Jesus Christ.
 
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mokie22yrold

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I want to give up. I'm tired of trying. tired of crying. tired of being lonely. everything everywhere I go I go alone. I know the Lord Jesus is with me. I'm talking about human contact. I think my husband wanted to divorce cause he's a COWARD and took the coward way out of our marriage. he's a lot of other things I don't want to say on here to cause they not nice.
 
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Stand_Strong

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mokie-

That's exactly what he did. He took the easy way out and he is a coward. His decisions will cost him down the road, but you'll never convince him of that now. My wife did the same thing to me. Look to Christ and try to accept this as a gift He has given you - an opportunity to learn and grow closer to Him.
 
Utah

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mokie22yrold said:
I want to give up. I'm tired of trying. tired of crying. tired of being lonely. everything everywhere I go I go alone. I know the Lord Jesus is with me. I'm talking about human contact. I think my husband wanted to divorce cause he's a COWARD and took the coward way out of our marriage. he's a lot of other things I don't want to say on here to cause they not nice.
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You want to give up on life over a person who was dumb enough to walk away from you? Many people will walk towards you and with you when the time is right, and the right time will be when you're ready for that commitment once again, and not one day sooner.
 
Utah

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Besides, Mokie, you have my favorite Scripture written in your profile. That means you're awesome! :cool:
 
Dino246

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Feeling your pain... it took me several months to get past the agony of loneliness, and over two years later I still feel it sometimes. I know well the longing for human contact. I'm not a highly social person at the best of times, so the sudden absence of family was really hard, and "friends" disappeared like fog on a sunny day. I couldn't even hang out at the bar... my town doesn't have one. Some days all I could do was sit alone and cry.

Healing is a process which we like to schedule, but God's timing will prevail. Hang in there, trusting that He is at work in the midst of the pain... that's probably when He is performing heart surgery. Ask Him for grace, peace and contentment, and that He will not allow the pain to overwhelm you. You might want to ask Him for some safe friends too. :)
 
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mokie22yrold

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thanks for the encouragement everyone. I'm trying to take one day at a time. that's all Jesus said to do. I'm hoping to be getting a new job. waiting for background check. trying to stay busy.
 
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mokie22yrold said:
In a couple more weeks divorce will be final. I never wanted this. ...I was forced to file for my own sake. I've been so very lonely. I try to keep busy. working 2 jobs to get out of this credit card dept he left me with. I been going to church when I can now that I found one I like and getting fed at. its just the idea divorce will be officially legal and I don't know how to go on. I'm thinking it's more psychological cause I have been going on but now it's like. ..I don't know how to go on. Thanks for reading.
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I panic with you.
 
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Gateway

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Life isn't easy,
I know it can be difficult
to deal with but continue
to seek for God.
 
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pieman

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Gateway said:
Life isn't easy,
I know it can be difficult
to deal with but continue
to seek for God.
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Yes to know the lord is the first step to finding the part we miss in all of us.
 
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