I'm fighting a pack of wolves alone.

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Oris

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Okay I will make it short.

My Mother doesn't act like a Mother she doesn't like talking to me about problems or anything that is important to address.

Just hours ago she was on the phone with me and eventually I asked if it's okay for me to tell her about things that I feel hesitant to talk to her about . All went well until I brought up an example of what I was specifically referring to, I told her that I was noticing we couldn't talk to each other lately because of her not having compassion in talking about situations. This leaves a gut wrenching feeling of sadness and pain in me like a burn in my chest I cry or feel depressed for hours and the Lord cures me afterwards. But obviously I am on Satan's most wanted and it's obvious he's using my mom and soon my Dad to reach me I don't go to church but I read the truth a lot though and it makes me feel better, that soon the pain I feel will be over.
Brothers and sisters thanks for answering and bless you and your families all in the Lords name.

I as a son respect her and love her I always will but I can't respect her or HONOR her as the parent if she constantly emotionally neglects me. But this is getting to the point where a Mother and son relationship is not working as it should.
Any advice? thanks sooooooo much it means a lot to me.
 
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Sirk

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At first read.. what jumped out at me was when you talked about her behavior. This puts anyone on the defensive. In expressing painful things to another, it is important to stick to how you feel, (the internal) and to avoid blaming others or situations for how you feel, (the external). It is of utmost importance to OWN, your own feelings and experiences, without blaming a circumstance or someone else.... for them. As weird as this might sound, I believe that this is the way that Jesus wants us to love and care for ourselves.
 
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BarlyGurl

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You do not say how old you are. I presume you are an adult because I have that impression... and if that is true... the issue by now is not that your mother "emotionally neglects you"... the issue is that you are now a man and it is time to assume that sort of attitude and practice in your proper relationship with your mother. Putting a proper perspective on what the relationship should look like will go far toward inner healing and restoring proper order to those and future relationships.
 
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blueorchidjd

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If you have other people in your life right now and you are old enough to move out or find a place of your own and you have a stable group of friends or a Christian family (maybe not blood relatives) I would recommend moving on. I would leave open a window to communicate with your mom over the future and maybe visit her during the holidays...I kind of have similiar situations in my family...sometimes I think God disconnects us from our families that we can grow more deeper and depend on him so much more. Sometimes the places God wants to take us (after the trials) is a place of higher blessing and the people in the past won't be able to make it with us in the new places because they are pursuing worldly ambitions and are not really in the family of God. I myself find myself a little bit bitter about the situation of not having strong family bounds, but I realize that my faith is more important. If my family makes things more difficult to follow Christ I don't think I would have those people in my life. I would wait for the right ​timing though before cutting off ties.


God will give you the strength to do the right thing.
And it will never contradict his WORD.
 
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NewWine

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You're not being attacked by wolves....a bit dramatic....however...
Welcome to CC!!

Part of the beauty of a relationship with Christ is that He fills the gaps that people leave in us. My best advice is to stop worrying about what you don't have (a healthy relationship with your mama) and focus on your purpose......Ask God what you can do for Him today. Focus your efforts on being Christlike to people, including your mama, and watch your life brighten.

The Father Heart of God by Floyd Mcclung is a great book to explain why we need Christ to fill such voids.
Peace!!
 
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guiltslittlegirl

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Oris said:
Okay I will make it short.

My Mother doesn't act like a Mother she doesn't like talking to me about problems or anything that is important to address.

Just hours ago she was on the phone with me and eventually I asked if it's okay for me to tell her about things that I feel hesitant to talk to her about . All went well until I brought up an example of what I was specifically referring to, I told her that I was noticing we couldn't talk to each other lately because of her not having compassion in talking about situations. This leaves a gut wrenching feeling of sadness and pain in me like a burn in my chest I cry or feel depressed for hours and the Lord cures me afterwards. But obviously I am on Satan's most wanted and it's obvious he's using my mom and soon my Dad to reach me I don't go to church but I read the truth a lot though and it makes me feel better, that soon the pain I feel will be over.
Brothers and sisters thanks for answering and bless you and your families all in the Lords name.

I as a son respect her and love her I always will but I can't respect her or HONOR her as the parent if she constantly emotionally neglects me. But this is getting to the point where a Mother and son relationship is not working as it should.
Any advice? thanks sooooooo much it means a lot to me.
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The only hand Satan has is to accuse the brethren, he accuses us by making us feel bad when we should feel good and to feel good when we should feel bad.

Note: Know your good and bad feelings, they don't attack you.
 
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atwhatcost

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Oris said:
Okay I will make it short.

My Mother doesn't act like a Mother she doesn't like talking to me about problems or anything that is important to address.

Just hours ago she was on the phone with me and eventually I asked if it's okay for me to tell her about things that I feel hesitant to talk to her about . All went well until I brought up an example of what I was specifically referring to, I told her that I was noticing we couldn't talk to each other lately because of her not having compassion in talking about situations. This leaves a gut wrenching feeling of sadness and pain in me like a burn in my chest I cry or feel depressed for hours and the Lord cures me afterwards. But obviously I am on Satan's most wanted and it's obvious he's using my mom and soon my Dad to reach me I don't go to church but I read the truth a lot though and it makes me feel better, that soon the pain I feel will be over.
Brothers and sisters thanks for answering and bless you and your families all in the Lords name.

I as a son respect her and love her I always will but I can't respect her or HONOR her as the parent if she constantly emotionally neglects me. But this is getting to the point where a Mother and son relationship is not working as it should.
Any advice? thanks sooooooo much it means a lot to me.
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You're definitely not on Satan's Most Wanted list. No need for that, since you aren't listening to God anyway. You seem to be missing our purpose in life, (which isn't I deserve what I want.) Here is our purpose in life:
Mark 12:28 And one of the scribes came, and heard them questioning together, and knowing that he had answered them well, asked him, What commandment is the first of all?29 Jesus answered, The first is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God, the Lord is one:
30 and thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.
31 The second is this, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
 
minart_youn

minart_youn

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You'll find this interresting Oris...

"If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple. Luke 14:26

perhaps put this in contrast with the commandment: Honor your father and your mother.. that it migh.......
 
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passing_through

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Otis, you mother sounds like my mother, if something was beyond understanding, she'd put a smirk on her face say something that meant she as blowing it off, there was some disconnect there. :)
 
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Eva1218

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No one likes to be condemned. Share your thoughts with love and compassion. Keep your parents in prayer they too go through much and may not always express themselves as you would like.. just a thought


Blessings!!!!!!!
 
mailmandan

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Matthew 10:16 - "Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves."
 
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