Should my husband be upset about this?

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I first asked Karen out when I was 16 years old. We went to elementary school together, and then junior high, but we didn't really know each other. In high school, we finally went on our first date when I invited her to a Three Dog Night concert. That was in 1969.
Back then, I drove an Oldsmobile Dynamic 88. My mother had wrecked it and then gave the car to me. Now, back then, I was the kind of kid people might have called a "hoodlum.” I had long hair. My reputation wasn't great. But I worked at Scrub-a-Dub Car Wash, and I knew how to clean up.
So I knocked myself getting ready for that concert. I even washed my car. When I pulled up to her house, I made sure the nice, unwrecked side of the car was facing her. I literally showed her my best side.
And then I worked hard to be mannerly throughout the evening. I drove as carefully as possible. If we hit a little bump, I'd ask, "Are you okay?"
I was the most attentive date she'd ever had.
It worked, because Karen and I got married three years later, when I was 19. At that point, I knew I had her—we were married, so there was no need to impress her—and that's when my manners declined. My attention waned.
I started taking Karen for granted. That's human nature.
That's also a reason many couples fall "out of love." It's because they stop working so hard to impress each other, listen to each other, take care of each other, and serve each other.
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Marriage operates on what I call the manna principle. When the ancient Israelites were lost and wandering in the wilderness, God provided a food called manna for them to eat. Everyone was free to gather as much manna as they needed, but Moses instructed them not to keep it overnight.
Exodus 16:20 describes what happened next: "Some of them paid no attention to Moses; they kept part of [the manna] until morning, but it was full of maggots and began to smell. So Moses was angry with them."
The manna was given in abundance, but the people of Israel were not to accumulate it. Other than the day prior to the Sabbath, they were only to pick up one day's worth of manna—every day.
God wanted them to learn to depend on Him every day.
Like manna, love is a perishable commodity. Yesterday's love is worthless. It has to be renewed every single day. In our relationship with God, we have to express our love daily—not monthly or annually.
The same is true in marriage. I have to show love to Karen every day. I can't bank on a big trip last year or a romantic gesture last month. We need to love each other every day.
The best way to fall in love all over again with your spouse is to treat them the same way you did when you first began dating. Be attentive to him like you're trying to attract him. Listen to her like you're on a first date. Care for each other like you're in the early stages of a relationship. Don't take each other for granted.
Marriage is an everyday thing. How will you show love to your spouse today?
Blessings,