My Husband fell out of love with me

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Sirk

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#21
What does a person do when they fall out of love with Jesus? Do they divorce Him? Or do they choose Him when they don't want to choose Him. That is real love anyway. The feeling of love is a fleeting emotion.
 
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iveseenworse

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#22
you've said nothing that makes any of this your fault, it seems his fault. he made a commitment and is trying to leave it. i agree there is not much to do to change his mind once made up. he needs to realize marriages don't bring warm fuzzy feelings every day, week, or month of their existence. marriage isn't a sprint its a marathon. in the future you may question your actions and value, but just pray and talk a lot to God. you will always have a great marriage, Jesus the groom is returning for His bride, the church.
 

tourist

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#23
It sounds as if your husband is disillusion with marriage and perhaps tired of the struggle. I would give him a little more time and some space and hopefully with patience and prayer his love for you will be stronger than ever. Please add my prayer to yours. God Bless You.
 
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iveseenworse

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#24
oh...praying.
 
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Loco

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#25
Interesting how people have come to the conclusion it's not your fault.

Forget about loving your husband, that is not required of you.

Do you RESPECT your husband? Does your tongue remain civil during arguments or do you use it to belittle him? Do you obey him in matters that do not explicitly contradict the Word of God? Would you as Sarah did, call him lord or do you laugh at the mere question?

Men need respect, and women are being inundated with worldly messages to disrespect all men, especially husbands. I suggest you try this website: loveandrespect.com

I am 30 years happily married because I taught my wife who was 18 (when we married I was 22) this fact. It is what the Bible says, and most Christian councilors ignore the Bible. A man's most common defense from the verbal abuse of a wife is to withdraw, else he is temted to become physical and that is NOT acceptable. Read Song ofSongs. When the wife did not wish to get up for her husband's call, what did he do? He left, and then she went looking.

Western culture is as wrong on marriage on one side as Islam is wrong to the opposite side. The Bible should be your guide, and in the Bible BOTH genders are totally corrupt.
 
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Loco

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Pray first that God give you a submissive and humble spirit. Pray that James could be proven wrong and your tongue be kept in control. Change YOURSELF before looking to change your husband.

However, if I am wrong and you are that rare American woman who is submissive and respectful, then I apologize. It could just be him. No one here knows except maybe you.
 
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seekhim_1

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So doesn't want to get any help ir go to counseling and just recently he says he feel if we get back together he is going backwards
 

blue_ladybug

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So doesn't want to get any help ir go to counseling and just recently he says he feel if we get back together he is going backwards


There comes a time when you have to realize that your marriage ended long ago. He wants a divorce, he won't do counseling, he doesn't want to be married anymore. Only God can fix this BUT he has to want to LET God fix this.
 

Tinkerbell725

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Someone told me that there are really times in marriages that love seems to be lost but there are ways to restore that love. I pray that your love for each other be renewed. Hopefully there is no third party. God bless...