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For some reason I feel led start off saying that I have been saved since I can remember. I have backslidden of course, but I have always came back. I received the baptism of the Holy Spirit when I was like...8? So...backslidden or not, I have always believed that God has had His hand in everything in my life.
I have been with my husband for about 3.5 years...our two year wedding anniversary is 1/9. He....has been saved, but is currently full out backsliding...This is a really long story, I will try to cut to the chase.
We foolishly brought trust issues into our marriage. He...cried and begged me not to leave him when I thought(knew) he was lying to me. I vowed that we would work on things and I would stay with him, but we were not married until a few months later.
A side note about how we met* I was best friends with his sister for 6 years. I met him years ago but it wasn't until 2012 I took note of him. He had come to stay with us on furlough from rehab(yes, I know). He had just committed his life to Jesus and when I saw him that night he had this glow...like if you have ever heard the term "oily"...he had that just saved in love with Jesus look...and after knowing him years, I was like...hooked. We fell in love hard and fast and about 2 months later he was kicked out of rehab for failing a drug test. I think he thought I was going to turn my back on him but I stayed by his side. And a few months later he went to jail, because rehab was a condition of his probation(whole other story). When he got out his family had turned their back on him so I moved out of the apt I shared with his sister to live with him. My husband has spent a lot of years on the street, homeless.
So there we were living in sin. We weren't going to church, but I attended Celebrate Recovery meetings with him every week. I got pregnant that second year with twins and had them last year in 2014...this is where it gets extra tricky.
Basically something happened to one of our kids that was detrimental in his care....twice. I don't want to go in to details, but it was bad. Though he said he didn't know what happened, because I didn't trust him...it was like we didn't stand a chance. This happened in October and I don't know if I was being selfish or selfless, but all I could think about was how I could not be with him if I did not believe him. I BEGGED him to move out for months and April he finally did. We were supposed to keep fighting for our marriage but soon he was smoking weed...not wanting to spend time with me. He hasn't seen our girls since May.
We just started speaking again two weeks ago after not seeing one another for about 2 months? He missed the birth of our son. I was met with " I wanna work things out"...and three days later it was "I lied so I could see the kids"...he also has a gf who looks...worst for wear...I wont lose my religion talking down on her.
I feel in my spirit that I need to fight for my marriage. Pray for my husbands salvation...stand and FIGHT. He wants a divorce...I don't. We have ...so many things to work on, but I know how God feels about marriage. I have repented for separating to begin with because I know now that was wrong.
I just love him. No matter how much he has hurt me...I love him. I know God will not affect free will, but he can change his heart. I know that he loves me. He told me before he totally shut down on me. Anyone out there standing for their marriage? Any advice? It has only been two weeks and I feel mentally and emotionally sometimes even physically drained. I need to focus on my self and children, but I shouldn't forget about him, right?
So much for being brief...
I have been with my husband for about 3.5 years...our two year wedding anniversary is 1/9. He....has been saved, but is currently full out backsliding...This is a really long story, I will try to cut to the chase.
We foolishly brought trust issues into our marriage. He...cried and begged me not to leave him when I thought(knew) he was lying to me. I vowed that we would work on things and I would stay with him, but we were not married until a few months later.
A side note about how we met* I was best friends with his sister for 6 years. I met him years ago but it wasn't until 2012 I took note of him. He had come to stay with us on furlough from rehab(yes, I know). He had just committed his life to Jesus and when I saw him that night he had this glow...like if you have ever heard the term "oily"...he had that just saved in love with Jesus look...and after knowing him years, I was like...hooked. We fell in love hard and fast and about 2 months later he was kicked out of rehab for failing a drug test. I think he thought I was going to turn my back on him but I stayed by his side. And a few months later he went to jail, because rehab was a condition of his probation(whole other story). When he got out his family had turned their back on him so I moved out of the apt I shared with his sister to live with him. My husband has spent a lot of years on the street, homeless.
So there we were living in sin. We weren't going to church, but I attended Celebrate Recovery meetings with him every week. I got pregnant that second year with twins and had them last year in 2014...this is where it gets extra tricky.
Basically something happened to one of our kids that was detrimental in his care....twice. I don't want to go in to details, but it was bad. Though he said he didn't know what happened, because I didn't trust him...it was like we didn't stand a chance. This happened in October and I don't know if I was being selfish or selfless, but all I could think about was how I could not be with him if I did not believe him. I BEGGED him to move out for months and April he finally did. We were supposed to keep fighting for our marriage but soon he was smoking weed...not wanting to spend time with me. He hasn't seen our girls since May.
We just started speaking again two weeks ago after not seeing one another for about 2 months? He missed the birth of our son. I was met with " I wanna work things out"...and three days later it was "I lied so I could see the kids"...he also has a gf who looks...worst for wear...I wont lose my religion talking down on her.
I feel in my spirit that I need to fight for my marriage. Pray for my husbands salvation...stand and FIGHT. He wants a divorce...I don't. We have ...so many things to work on, but I know how God feels about marriage. I have repented for separating to begin with because I know now that was wrong.
I just love him. No matter how much he has hurt me...I love him. I know God will not affect free will, but he can change his heart. I know that he loves me. He told me before he totally shut down on me. Anyone out there standing for their marriage? Any advice? It has only been two weeks and I feel mentally and emotionally sometimes even physically drained. I need to focus on my self and children, but I shouldn't forget about him, right?
So much for being brief...