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Help345

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I am almost divorce. But I keep getting feelings like from Holy Spirit say try harder, say the right thing and you will repair marriage.
But we don't live together, we only see each other when he pick up kid for visits. His neighbors say he dating and living with her, but we're not divorced finalized. He is angry when we meet and wants to argue. Argue about money or time with child. I dint feel safe. Yet still f feeling comes: "fight for him, he is husband, your too be one flesh, one in Christ Jesus. Say the right thing and be united. "
I know I'm not prefect, not perfect wife. I hurt him too. But what would you say or do to help?
 
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Cindy12

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Help345 said:
I am almost divorce. But I keep getting feelings like from Holy Spirit say try harder, say the right thing and you will repair marriage.
But we don't live together, we only see each other when he pick up kid for visits. His neighbors say he dating and living with her, but we're not divorced finalized. He is angry when we meet and wants to argue. Argue about money or time with child. I dint feel safe. Yet still f feeling comes: "fight for him, he is husband, your too be one flesh, one in Christ Jesus. Say the right thing and be united. "
I know I'm not prefect, not perfect wife. I hurt him too. But what would you say or do to help?
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I noticed you had a previous post about a question about dating. If you don't want a divorce, or you question your divorce, why are you thinking about dating? Before you start dating, I would recommend you figure out where your marriage went wrong first, so you know what not to do next time around. I also noticed you were questioning how your child behaves when he is around dad or not wanting to go to his dads? If you and he are arguing when you meet for visits with your child, maybe you should have a third party (your parent, his parent, a sister, etc) take the child to and from so you can avoid confrontation. As long as the both of you are arguing, it is going to give him reason to want to be away from you and not reconcile your marriage. If you truly want to reconcile your marriage, you need to step back and begin to show him love (even if he is living with someone else right now). He may be looking for some support and love, and if he isn't getting that from you, he is going to get it from someone else. Try to change you first. Try to be kind, caring and compassionate when you speak with him. Try to work things out with him for the sake of your child. Maybe the two of you can start over by being friends first and then maybe go to counseling? Sometimes, you just have to sit back and let things happen a bit. Don't pressure him and don't try to force him into anything as it will cause an argument, but I wouldn't be confrontational with him at all if you really want to try and repair your marriage. Has one of you filed for divorce, and if so, who?
 
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deesandpooh

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Maby you should communicate with him and see how he feels.ask for some time alone and see what happens.id pray about it first though.i really like the movie war room.I dont know the whole situation but id pray for him.I had a friend whos hubby had a girlfriend with a baby and theg ended up working it out and now they have another baby together.
 
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Dino246

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Welcome to CC! :)

On YouTube, find the videos from The Dove TV with counselor Patrick Doyle. He is solidly Christian, and offers sound biblical principles for dealing with this kind of situation.

In prayer, invite God's conviction for yourself and pray the same for your husband. Put the marriage in God's hands; let Him work it out. As far as your efforts to interact, do only what you sense God telling you to do.
 
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