Should I worry about abuse?

[Willie-T]

Put a long play sound activated mini recorder inside a toy your child likes without his knowledge. Send it along with the child and listen to it when it comes back. You can find a lot of spy stuff online, and since you only need audio it should not be too expensive. Be aware of the laws in your state. If something awful comes back you may not be able to disclose it, but at least you can find some legal way to look into it. On the other hand, if it comes back with minor stuff, like appropriate discipline, you will have peace of mind.

Be very CAREFUL! The law is a funny thing. It might be possible to lose custody of your child if you start playing this kind of game.

 

[Loco]

For the rest of the readers, most child abuse is perpetrated by women. When caught, women get lighter sentences, most often they "get help" where a man who abuses is a monster. You should check this out, and I've given you concrete advice, but be careful you do not have this cultural double standard. If you scream and punish your child, do not hold your ex-husband to a higher standard.

 

[Loco]

Be very CAREFUL! The law is a funny thing. It might be possible to lose custody of your child if you start playing this kind of game.

Agreed, be very careful. The law is often idiotic.