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My baby is going to college this year, and my middle child is going to his second year at college, my eldest just started working. I worked hard raising my kids, I have focused all my energy and time in being a wife and a mother. I lost my husband three years ago and it hasn't been easy. Last year I went back to stuying part-time doing what I always wanted to do but had other priorities. Now last year my other brother, who is not married asked me to take in his teenage daughter so she can stay with me and go to school here. Unfortunately her mother didn't agre to give him the child. Now again new years eve my other brother called me, also not married, asking if I couldn't raise his 9 year old son. Both my brothers reasons for them wanting me to help raise their kids is that they like the way I brought up my own children and they want their kids to grow up with the same values. Not that I don't appreciated the compliments, just that I feel like they using me to avoid their responsibilities as parents, and they using a " good mother " card to corner me into doing their job of raising their kids. With my kids grown up I just started doing something for myself and I don't feel like its fare for them to guilty me into taking their responsibilities. Some advice please how do I handle this?