**UPDATE: Marriage in Crisis**

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ShaneC

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So a few weeks ago, I posted about my wayward husband who I have been separated from since last April. We had separated after an incident with our daughter and he was using drugs again and recently acquired a girlfriend.

Well as of January 1, he is in jail from a warrant issued last February for violating probation! PTL?? I think so...I accepted two of his calls before we started fighting and now haven't spoke to him in a week. I still feel God wants me to stand for my marriage, without a doubt. I do KNOW I cannot save him or change him. I thank God he is in jail because it has removed me from it completely. Before, I was praying.... LOOKING for signs and getting discouraged when I did not see what I wanted. Im still discouraged about the OW because I know she is writing him and ....he still hates me but...I don't know. I knew that God wanted me to break contact with my husband but I was having a hard time and frankly I was looking pathetic I think.

God has truly elevated me through every season in my life from....a child to an orphan teenager, young adult drug abuser, single mom, married woman and now....married woman fighting for her family...I have no doubt he has my back. And I know that as I fast and pray.... WHATEVER happens I will be propelled into another level of love and admiration for our God.

I feel moved to say, if you're reading this and standing for your marriage....know that it's not your husband or wife you're waging war against....They will say things and do things and ...make you cry but... At the risk of sounding super religous... The enemy is Satan, who DOES NOT want to see men stepping up being fathers and families thriving and living and loving as one. I am learning that we have to choose to love past the hurt and know God is fighting for us 24/7.
 
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Marriage is two people connected by God and seeking him.

We don't wage war with Satan. Satan is stronger than we are, so that's just foolish to fight that war.

I suspect God has given you all the words, all the signs, and all the events to prove what he wants you to do. Meanwhile, you're still thinking you're supposed to save this marriage and wage war against Satan and for your spouse, who doesn't show any signs of wanting anything but his own way at all cost.

I wouldn't take this as a success story. I also don't think this is super religious.
 
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ShaneC

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Marriage is two people connected by God and seeking him.

We don't wage war with Satan. Satan is stronger than we are, so that's just foolish to fight that war.

I suspect God has given you all the words, all the signs, and all the events to prove what he wants you to do. Meanwhile, you're still thinking you're supposed to save this marriage and wage war against Satan and for your spouse, who doesn't show any signs of wanting anything but his own way at all cost.

I wouldn't take this as a success story. I also don't think this is super religious.
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A few things....

Never called this a success story. I said my husband was incarcerated which yes...is a God thing because it has removed a lot. I said this was an UPDATE....not a happy ending bc its not over.

I also did NOT say we wage war against Satan, I said we DO NOT wage it against our Spouse...Ephesians 6:12. I said the ENEMY is Satan ..because it is, it always is. And yes he's powerful but God...MY God is more powerful. But He has given me authority.

As spouses wevintercede for our family. God is in the restoration business. And yes...I believe because of God's word and through the Holy Spirit He wants me to stand in prayer for my husband IRREGARDLESS of circumstance if nothing but for His Salvation.

Sorry if you read wrong into my post!
 
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I think it is honorable what she is doing. She is standing on God's word for her marriage. We need more of this these day's.
And who know's the Lord may have wanted him in jail to get his attention.
Too many people let there friend's and such easily talk them out of their marriage.
And she is doing what the word say's. Very honorable.
 
Dan58

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ShaneC said:
Well as of January 1, he is in jail from a warrant issued last February for violating probation! PTL?? I think so...I accepted two of his calls before we started fighting and now haven't spoke to him in a week. I still feel God wants me to stand for my marriage, without a doubt. I do KNOW I cannot save him or change him. I thank God he is in jail because it has removed me from it completely. Before, I was praying.... LOOKING for signs and getting discouraged when I did not see what I wanted. Im still discouraged about the OW because I know she is writing him and ....he still hates me but...I don't know. I knew that God wanted me to break contact with my husband but I was having a hard time and frankly I was looking pathetic I think.
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I don't believe in signs per se, but consider that your husband being thrown in jail might have been a clue (sign).

You say he's still fighting with you from jail, you cannot change him, you thank God he's in jail, he's still involved with the other woman, and he hates you! Those all seem like some pretty definitive signs for you to consider. We don't always need a sign from God to exercise some common sense.

I knew of a Christian woman who refused to divorce her abusive husband no matter how bad her marriage got... She's dead now.
 
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