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Hubby has been recovering from a massive heart attack -- including two surgeries, one for stents and one to replace a valve -- since November 21. He's still in the ICU, but he's slated to go to rehab next week. He's just to the point of asking, "What happened to me?"
Sooo, financially speaking we make it month to month if nothing goes wrong. God has been gracious enough to have the VA Hospital pick up the tab for all this up to this point. And he was gracious enough to give us the money needed to give hubby new dentures when he gets out of rehab. (Gift from my dad.) So, the only thing we're worried about -- until today -- is which rehab? If hubby goes to the VA rehab, it will still cost us nothing. If he goes to any other rehab, after 21 days, (and no way is hubby going to be fit enough to come home in such a short time), Medicare kicks in and we have a copay of 20%.
The VA rehab is really a nursing home with one wing for short-term rehab, so the only way hubby ends up in there is by God's abilities.
Hubby knows all this. He doesn't know the rest, because the rest just landed on me about half an hour ago when I opened the mail. Two envelopes and all this just landed on my lap. I'm asking if I should tell him.
1. Just got a bill for $3750 for the oral surgery that removed all his teeth in the last hospital. After momentarily freaking, I called them up. They wouldn't let hubby go back to VA unless they had this done, because that's what the VA said. So, to me, that's between the two hospitals to dicker over. Not us. After I corrected the guy on the phone -- hubby's first health insurance plan is the VA, the second is Medicare -- he told me he'd fix that and ignore that bill. Happy to, except I've learned from other health problems that just because the first person says "ignore it," it doesn't always stay "ignored."
2. Trip and Fall lawsuit. Undisclosed how much the person wants, but, apparently she tripped in front of our house. Don't even know how bad it was other then I was home, no knock on the door, no noise, and no ambulance. (I can keep up with where I was 18 days ago, because I've been giving updates on hubby in Prayer Request all this time. lol) Her lawyer wants me to fill in paperwork and send it to him. I'm not that kind of fool. I'm not rich enough to get my own lawyer either. I don't know where I land on the culpable part though. So, I called our insurance company, who, of course, isn't at work on weekends.
I have always been in charge of bills. If we buy something over $25 for ourselves, it's a group decision. Hubby gets nervous over filing taxes and paying large bills, so I do it. (And, "large bills" to us, is anything over $150. lol) After I pay bills, I tell him how much money we have to last us to the end of the month. So, I don't hold back on telling him financial stuff. Only in the last couple of months have I held back on telling him anything. (Dad went south with his dementia during this time and it was horrible. Hubby now knows it happened, but he still doesn't know how bad it got.)
What would you want from your spouse, if you were hubby?
Sooo, financially speaking we make it month to month if nothing goes wrong. God has been gracious enough to have the VA Hospital pick up the tab for all this up to this point. And he was gracious enough to give us the money needed to give hubby new dentures when he gets out of rehab. (Gift from my dad.) So, the only thing we're worried about -- until today -- is which rehab? If hubby goes to the VA rehab, it will still cost us nothing. If he goes to any other rehab, after 21 days, (and no way is hubby going to be fit enough to come home in such a short time), Medicare kicks in and we have a copay of 20%.
The VA rehab is really a nursing home with one wing for short-term rehab, so the only way hubby ends up in there is by God's abilities.
Hubby knows all this. He doesn't know the rest, because the rest just landed on me about half an hour ago when I opened the mail. Two envelopes and all this just landed on my lap. I'm asking if I should tell him.
1. Just got a bill for $3750 for the oral surgery that removed all his teeth in the last hospital. After momentarily freaking, I called them up. They wouldn't let hubby go back to VA unless they had this done, because that's what the VA said. So, to me, that's between the two hospitals to dicker over. Not us. After I corrected the guy on the phone -- hubby's first health insurance plan is the VA, the second is Medicare -- he told me he'd fix that and ignore that bill. Happy to, except I've learned from other health problems that just because the first person says "ignore it," it doesn't always stay "ignored."
2. Trip and Fall lawsuit. Undisclosed how much the person wants, but, apparently she tripped in front of our house. Don't even know how bad it was other then I was home, no knock on the door, no noise, and no ambulance. (I can keep up with where I was 18 days ago, because I've been giving updates on hubby in Prayer Request all this time. lol) Her lawyer wants me to fill in paperwork and send it to him. I'm not that kind of fool. I'm not rich enough to get my own lawyer either. I don't know where I land on the culpable part though. So, I called our insurance company, who, of course, isn't at work on weekends.
I have always been in charge of bills. If we buy something over $25 for ourselves, it's a group decision. Hubby gets nervous over filing taxes and paying large bills, so I do it. (And, "large bills" to us, is anything over $150. lol) After I pay bills, I tell him how much money we have to last us to the end of the month. So, I don't hold back on telling him financial stuff. Only in the last couple of months have I held back on telling him anything. (Dad went south with his dementia during this time and it was horrible. Hubby now knows it happened, but he still doesn't know how bad it got.)
What would you want from your spouse, if you were hubby?
