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Not really. When I was dating one of the things I had to have, if I were to ever get a husband, (and I didn't want one back then), was he had to be a man of God. He had to be willing to lead the household -- aka me and children, if we have any.
Marriage is a partnership. God is the CEO. Husband is the President, and the wife is the advisor to the President with equal access to the CEO. If the dude were afraid or refused to take the reins, I'm not trusting him with my reins either.
I'm married now. We are equal partners. We talk everything out (when given the chance) until we reach agreement. If we cannot and we have to make some kind of decision, he gets final vote. That is leadership.
Add advantage: Because we keep talking everything out, when he lost all ability to make decisions, (medical problems that had him sedated for close to two months), I still went with his decisions on the subject. I became his Living Will and based all my decisions on things we talked about over the years. And the second he was back to making his own decision again, he did. And since then, sometimes his decision is to let me make that decision, because we are partners.
Give me someone afraid of doing that, and I'd be a fool to marry him. It really does matter. I have more peace because he leads us with that very love of the Church Christ has.
Marriage is a partnership. God is the CEO. Husband is the President, and the wife is the advisor to the President with equal access to the CEO. If the dude were afraid or refused to take the reins, I'm not trusting him with my reins either.
I'm married now. We are equal partners. We talk everything out (when given the chance) until we reach agreement. If we cannot and we have to make some kind of decision, he gets final vote. That is leadership.
Add advantage: Because we keep talking everything out, when he lost all ability to make decisions, (medical problems that had him sedated for close to two months), I still went with his decisions on the subject. I became his Living Will and based all my decisions on things we talked about over the years. And the second he was back to making his own decision again, he did. And since then, sometimes his decision is to let me make that decision, because we are partners.
Give me someone afraid of doing that, and I'd be a fool to marry him. It really does matter. I have more peace because he leads us with that very love of the Church Christ has.
