How to deal with the pain of going through a divorce.. Advice please?

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Pink24

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My husband and I split a few days ago. I'm having a hard time dealing with it. It's so hard to just take it day by day. I have been praying a lot but im still very hurt with so much pain Any suggestions on how to get passed this pain?
 

blue_ladybug

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​You already have this thread in the new members forum, and I told you I'd ask a mod to move it here. You didn't need to make a new one. :) That being said, did you split up entirely? Or are you just taking a break? Divorce/ separation is never easy. Just pray, read your bible and turn it all over to God. :)
 
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coby

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Forgive him for the hurt and ask God to forgive you, then God can heal you and then you wonder why you split up anyway was my experience when I finally did after years. Unfortunately then it was too late to reconcile.
 
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Ariel82

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Don't try and control your emotions. Its okay to be sad or angry. Recognize what you are feeling and then pray and give it to God. Ask Him for guidance and find out the plans He has for your life.

Dear God our sister is hurting, please surround her with your love and help her through this painful time. In Jesus name we pray, amen
 

Dino246

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Hi Pink24, and welcome to CC!
My ex-wife ended our marriage almost three years ago. In the first few days I was confused, angry, and hurt. When I wasn't working, I was praying and reading. Two good resources I found are a daily devotional from DivorceCare.org and a series of videos with counselor Patrick Doyle from The Dove TV... they're available on YouTube.

For your own healing and peace, ask for God to convict you for any wrongdoing. Deal with your own sins (I'm NOT saying you're to blame, but none of us is sinless). Also, ask the Lord to convict your husband of his. Don't try to define them; let God do that. Trust in the Lord; He is good. Let Him take over... especially with regard to the timetable and the outcome.

And, I'll pray for you. I know it hurts. :)
 
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My husband and I split a few days ago. I'm having a hard time dealing with it. It's so hard to just take it day by day. I have been praying a lot but im still very hurt with so much pain Any suggestions on how to get passed this pain?
If it still hurts this much in a year, then ask. It should be hurting less by then. (Not to be confused with not hurting.)

You don't get "passed" it. You go through it.
 
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My husband and I split a few days ago. I'm having a hard time dealing with it. It's so hard to just take it day by day. I have been praying a lot but im still very hurt with so much pain Any suggestions on how to get passed this pain?
What has been an enormous help to me in situations where loneliness might have gotten the best of me, has been my church. Even more help than that is knowing the Lord loves me and is always with me, and I can always talk with him.
 
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It's a hard road. Lot's of ups and downs. Work hard and it will reward you with growth and maturity and a knowing that you're gonna be alright.