This poem helped me a lot. I keep it in my email.
How To Forgive
One day a while back, a man, his heart heavy with grief, was walking in the woods. As he thought about his life this day, he knew many things were not right.
He thought about those who had lied about him back when he had a job.
His thoughts turned to those who had stolen his things and cheated him.
He remembered family that had passed on. His mind turned to the Illness he had that no one could cure.
His very soul was filled with anger, resentment and frustration.
Standing there this day, searching for answers he could not find,
knowing all else had failed him, he knelt at the base of an old oak tree to seek the one he knew would always be there. And with tears in his eyes, he prayed:
"Lord- You have done wonderful things for me in this life. You have
told me to do many things for you, and I happily obeyed.
Today, you have told me to forgive. I am sad, Lord, because I cannot.
I don't know how. It is not fair
Lord. I didn't deserve these wrongs that were done against me and I
shouldn't have to forgive. As perfect as your way is Lord, this one
thing I cannot do, for I don't know how to forgive.
My anger is so deep Lord, I fear I may not hear you, but I pray that
You teach me to do this one thing I cannot do - "Teach me To Forgive."
As he knelt there in the quiet shade of that old oak tree, he felt
something fall onto his shoulder. He opened his eyes. Out of the
corner of one eye, he saw something red on his shirt.
He could not turn to see what it was because where the oak tree had been was a large square piece of wood in the ground. He raised his head and saw two feet held to the wood with a large spike through them.
He raised his head more, and tears came to his eyes as he saw Jesus
hanging on a cross. He saw spikes in His hands, a gash in His side, a
torn and battered body, deep thorns sunk into His head. Finally he
Saw the suffering and pain on His precious face. As their eyes met, the
man's tears turned to sobbing, and Jesus began to speak.
Have you ever told a lie?" He asked?
The man answered - "yes, Lord."
Have you ever been given too much change and kept it?"
The man answered," yes, Lord." And the man sobbed more and more.
Have you ever taken something from work that wasn't yours?" Jesus asked?
And the man answered, "yes, Lord."
"Have you ever sworn, using my Father's name in vain?"
The man, crying now, answered, "yes, Lord."
As Jesus asked many more times, "Have you ever"?
The man's crying became uncontrollable, for he could only answer,
Then Jesus turned His head from one side to the other, and the man
Felt something fall on his other shoulder. He looked and saw that it was the blood of Jesus. When he looked back up, his eyes met those of Jesus, and here was a look of love the man had never seen or known before.
Jesus said, "I didn't deserve this either, but I forgive you."
It may be hard to see how you're going to forgive someone for the pain they have caused you, but when you look back in life, you realize how important it is to make the decision to forgive, even if you do not feel like forgiving. Ask God for his help, he has forgiven much more.