Last Saturday at work one of the guys I work with used the horribly "gd" word. So I instantly told him not to say that word. He looks at me and says " sorry for saying that I know you are a Christian. " As horrible as this sounds I became embarrassed, and I can't even remember my reply I just looked at him like oh no here comes the ridicule. So he continues on and makes the remake that he knew I was a Christian because of the first time a while back I called him out on using that word. He said "only Christians will call you out on that stuff, and this how he knew I was one." I replied back, " that's right". Right there is where my memory gets fuzzy,because i cant remember if i replied " that' s right" there or after his very first comment of saying " sorry i know your a Christian." So after all that of him saying only Christians will call you out and he knew I was one I finally got enough courage to reply " well I'm glad you know that." I know all this sounds like I'm bringing over dramatic, but did I deny God by not saying commenting back the first time that yes I am a Christian? It bothers me that I became afraid when he said I was a Christian. That fact that I even had to take a moment to think of how he is gonna make fun of me is really bothering me.
i am so afraid
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I never call them out. They know I'm a christian. When my collegue is frustrated and curses what I first did was walk to the toilet so I didn't have to hear it, but now I say: hey what's wrong? Need some help? She curses because she needs help. Oh well. Just pray for them. I always say not after it if I hear someone say it.
God damn me not. And then I pray for their salvation.
They don't curse much and they have said: oh sorry, you're a christian.
God damn me not. And then I pray for their salvation.
They don't curse much and they have said: oh sorry, you're a christian.
Hi ,
some times we need to learn to not be so insecure in ourselfs to the point of telling others what they can and cant say,
Did this person hit you over the head with a hammer or spade or something , from what you said ...NO... and was this person talking to him self seems so so why would you tell him off ,
Lets see the other side what if you said something that went against his belief or background what then would you care ?? or just carry on as though nothing had happened ,
Sometimes we need ....TO...THINK...before we go off at some one else just because you don't like what ever,
So going in to the male world of the Armed Forces , okay youd set your self up for a big down fall , I was in the Navy ,and I had men work for me from the Army in the building section, later I had more men work for myself and I worked along side them , yes as a female so trust me I know what its like , you shut your ear,s do your Job and try the best you can to get along with others .
Your a Guy right , had I opened my mouth I would have been done over or worse, over the years I,v been given respect from men who I would have thought no way because I was in their world as a women, in most counts should not have been there,
I was given a priviledge that many women would not have had and I keeped my mouth shut wether being a Christian or not was not the issue doing my Job was ,
You know what (( we don't )) The Lord takes care of us when we allow if you like .
Not by words are we known , by our... LIFE ... is ,
...noeleena...
some times we need to learn to not be so insecure in ourselfs to the point of telling others what they can and cant say,
Did this person hit you over the head with a hammer or spade or something , from what you said ...NO... and was this person talking to him self seems so so why would you tell him off ,
Lets see the other side what if you said something that went against his belief or background what then would you care ?? or just carry on as though nothing had happened ,
Sometimes we need ....TO...THINK...before we go off at some one else just because you don't like what ever,
So going in to the male world of the Armed Forces , okay youd set your self up for a big down fall , I was in the Navy ,and I had men work for me from the Army in the building section, later I had more men work for myself and I worked along side them , yes as a female so trust me I know what its like , you shut your ear,s do your Job and try the best you can to get along with others .
Your a Guy right , had I opened my mouth I would have been done over or worse, over the years I,v been given respect from men who I would have thought no way because I was in their world as a women, in most counts should not have been there,
I was given a priviledge that many women would not have had and I keeped my mouth shut wether being a Christian or not was not the issue doing my Job was ,
You know what (( we don't )) The Lord takes care of us when we allow if you like .
Not by words are we known , by our... LIFE ... is ,
...noeleena...
I agree with Tintin. If you're flustered over hearing the gd word, you'll never survive the military where the F word is prevalent in every sentence they utter. You'll hear much worse language in the military than you will at work. Stop stressing over what your response was, it's over and done with now..
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I'm beginning to think you trust in guilt, not God. As long as you feel guilty about something -- anything -- your world isn't tilted. (Except it is, because you live on guilt.) And just because you say something isn't "over dramatic" doesn't mean it isn't overly dramatic. Really? "I am so afraid" over something you aren't even sure you said? Yeah. That's melodramatic.
And I agree with Tintin, a sure sign you're not made to go in the military.
And I agree with Tintin, a sure sign you're not made to go in the military.
Don't worry about what other people do or say. Just do the right thing yourself. It's not your job to call people out unless they give you that authority or if they ask you to hold them accountable. Your job is to set a good example in how you act and talk. Trying to change others is a fruitless endeavor. If someone cursing in front of you offends your sensibilities then there is a problem in you that needs to be addressed. The world is tough...get used to it.
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Gods name is sacred. The Jews will not even utter it out of profound respect for it.
When someone says GD around me, I tell them don't say that around me. If society can tell us not to say anything bad about Mohammad, and to respect other peoples religion, I figure I can at least state my mind. And actually, that is not even the main reason, I just cringe and find it insulting to my Lord.
After that though, I usually don't push the issue any further. I look at it like, when Jesus said said the dust off your feet. So I proclaimed the truth to them, if they continue to use Gods name like that, let it be on their head.
I let it go at that. They know how I feel, they see how I try to conduct myself. If they want to be adverse, well, I can't control peoples thoughts and speech.
So be it.
When someone says GD around me, I tell them don't say that around me. If society can tell us not to say anything bad about Mohammad, and to respect other peoples religion, I figure I can at least state my mind. And actually, that is not even the main reason, I just cringe and find it insulting to my Lord.
After that though, I usually don't push the issue any further. I look at it like, when Jesus said said the dust off your feet. So I proclaimed the truth to them, if they continue to use Gods name like that, let it be on their head.
I let it go at that. They know how I feel, they see how I try to conduct myself. If they want to be adverse, well, I can't control peoples thoughts and speech.
So be it.
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I have to remind myself a lot regarding that pesky chain called "offense"... it sits on the ground just waiting for "me"to choose any offense in its link ,so it can take me captive ... I also laugh at myself when I do get offended.. because the truth really is... I had to first give permission to that which I am offended by.. I get a REALLY GOOD laugh when I take a closer look .. because it's really me that chooses what offends me... I get to see my own ridiculousness when I look at all the things I "could have chosen "to be offended by.. what I actually chose was really way way down on the "nothing line" ... I could have chosen something really major to get that worked up about..but no I chose the lesser to get offended by... you will get to a place where you will laugh at yourself more and more... you're really okay pal...
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You sound normal to me Acr96. I used to worry about such things before I was secure in God's love for me. What was God going to think of me now for not saying the exact right thing? or for not being brave at the right time? Would He be disappointed? Did it mean I was double minded? Would He reject me because I sounded like I didn't stand up for Him? Did I miss an opportunity to be a good testimony for a lost person? Was I so selfish that I couldn't stand to be ridiculed for Christ sake? Why am I this way? and why would I do that?
It's times like that now I look to Jesus who is the Author and finisher of my faith. Don't look at your weaknesses look at Jesus and His righteousness because that is what God is looking at too. What we do does not make us righteous, it's what Jesus did for us that makes us righteous. And as we learn to walk IN Christ, we will be able to walk out that righteousness in our daily lives because we are secure in Him.
Because of Jesus, God is not disappointed in us but He loves us and gave His Holy Spirit to teach us by reminding us of His steadfast love for us. And that in turn makes me love Him. We love Him because He first loved us.
It takes time to find out what that kind of love means to us. And In Christ we have that time to learn to be sons. There is more to our salvation than we first knew. There is no condemnation on the believer In Christ. We can't allow the enemy to take false guilt and cause us to condemn and question our relationship with God. Our relationship with God is secure because of Jesus and what He did.
If you have not gone to the military you will find it to be very different than not being in the military... but right now you just don't know and how can you? If you are planning on going into the military., you have the Holy Spirit in you as a believer and He will teach you how to deal with the ups and downs of the military. My son was in the military and it was a time of learning. Like everything in life.
Don't worry about correcting unbelievers about their language to 'show' you are a Christian. They cannot help doing what they do because they are - after all.,unsaved people.,(and such were some of us). Jesus has to perform the change in them through salvation.
lol i know that feeling. I really dont think it was the person talking I think it was a blasphemy spirit. Once my mom went to a place and a person looked at her from the stairs and said Hi Jesus to her. That person had no idea and never met my mom. You will have to learn to deal with it. You will also see the deeper you go in the Lord the less it will happen because your authority grows and they dont want to face any wrath.
Next time someone comes at you like that simply ask them if they have a problem with it. Then they will say no or start this ''no BUT''. then you say God bless you or nothing at all. whatever he says after that ignore and go.
Thats the best way to go for now
Next time someone comes at you like that simply ask them if they have a problem with it. Then they will say no or start this ''no BUT''. then you say God bless you or nothing at all. whatever he says after that ignore and go.
Thats the best way to go for now