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Hello, and welcome to CC! 
I say this respectfully, but firmly: walk away from this girl. Liking someone is one thing, but it sounds to me like you are blind to her faults, and by what you have shared, they are significant enough to warrant looking elsewhere. Even if this girl were a Christian, and had the issues you describe above, I would encourage you to move on. This kind of issue does not simply go away; it gets worse, until and unless the person is convicted by the Holy Spirit and repents of their sin... deeply. Of that there is no guarantee, even if she did become a Christian.
If you walk away, you will pine for her, wish things were different, be tempted to call, text, or spend time with her. You'll feel lonely, and second-guess the decision... for a few weeks.
If you marry her, you will live with the torment, the heartache, the spiritual and moral tension, probably a fair bit of fighting and bickering, and a profound sense of loneliness within your marriage, and it will go on for years.
Do the wise thing, while you still can. The world is a big place, and God is a really good God. He has better plans for you.
I say this respectfully, but firmly: walk away from this girl. Liking someone is one thing, but it sounds to me like you are blind to her faults, and by what you have shared, they are significant enough to warrant looking elsewhere. Even if this girl were a Christian, and had the issues you describe above, I would encourage you to move on. This kind of issue does not simply go away; it gets worse, until and unless the person is convicted by the Holy Spirit and repents of their sin... deeply. Of that there is no guarantee, even if she did become a Christian.
If you walk away, you will pine for her, wish things were different, be tempted to call, text, or spend time with her. You'll feel lonely, and second-guess the decision... for a few weeks.
If you marry her, you will live with the torment, the heartache, the spiritual and moral tension, probably a fair bit of fighting and bickering, and a profound sense of loneliness within your marriage, and it will go on for years.
Do the wise thing, while you still can. The world is a big place, and God is a really good God. He has better plans for you.
Hi IssacLovesGod,
I understand what you're saying. Having a crush is quite an experience. You wanna tell her how you feel, but at the same time, you're afraid she won't feel the same...its difficult, isn't it? And its more difficult when you have a crush on your friend.
But here's the thing: You know God doesn't want you to be romantic with a non-Christian. As good as she may seem to you, her core values are greatly different from yours.
I've had my share of crushes on non-Christians in the past. But I knew it was wrong to hold on to them. And I managed to let go of them. And now I'm blessed with a sweet godly Christian girlfriend. Back then I didn't know when God would bring her to me, but I said no to others in faith, and now I see how God has blessed me with her.
Which means, if you do the right thing, if you follow God in this and not pursue your friend (or any other future non-Christian girl), then one day you will receive your reward from God. And then you'll look back to now and you'll be glad you took a step of faith.
Another thing is, you've got a major exam coming up in 3 weeks. And you don't wanna risk messing it up, right? Being a student is your commitment right now, and just as we are called to be faithful workers in our jobs, you are called to be a faithful student at this stage in your life. So direct your focus on preparing for your exam.
Here's what you can do: Pray to God, pour out your feelings about your friend to Him, then acknowledge His disapproval in this matter, and submit to His will. After you've made this decision to submit to His will in this matter, you will feel relieved. Because indicision about such things keeps the heart restless.
So give this a shot. Consider the wise warnings and advice of the fellow Christians you've read here in this thread, and know that your love for God will (and must) be greater than this crush. Keep your eyes on God and wait on Him. And years from now when you're married to a godly Christian girl, you'll be glad you didn't go after any other.
Submit your feelings to God, focus on your studies, and do well in your exam!
I understand what you're saying. Having a crush is quite an experience. You wanna tell her how you feel, but at the same time, you're afraid she won't feel the same...its difficult, isn't it? And its more difficult when you have a crush on your friend.
But here's the thing: You know God doesn't want you to be romantic with a non-Christian. As good as she may seem to you, her core values are greatly different from yours.
I've had my share of crushes on non-Christians in the past. But I knew it was wrong to hold on to them. And I managed to let go of them. And now I'm blessed with a sweet godly Christian girlfriend. Back then I didn't know when God would bring her to me, but I said no to others in faith, and now I see how God has blessed me with her.
Which means, if you do the right thing, if you follow God in this and not pursue your friend (or any other future non-Christian girl), then one day you will receive your reward from God. And then you'll look back to now and you'll be glad you took a step of faith.
Another thing is, you've got a major exam coming up in 3 weeks. And you don't wanna risk messing it up, right? Being a student is your commitment right now, and just as we are called to be faithful workers in our jobs, you are called to be a faithful student at this stage in your life. So direct your focus on preparing for your exam.
Here's what you can do: Pray to God, pour out your feelings about your friend to Him, then acknowledge His disapproval in this matter, and submit to His will. After you've made this decision to submit to His will in this matter, you will feel relieved. Because indicision about such things keeps the heart restless.
So give this a shot. Consider the wise warnings and advice of the fellow Christians you've read here in this thread, and know that your love for God will (and must) be greater than this crush. Keep your eyes on God and wait on Him. And years from now when you're married to a godly Christian girl, you'll be glad you didn't go after any other.
Submit your feelings to God, focus on your studies, and do well in your exam!