Ya didn't go well. Hard to reconcile the concept of getting ripped off. I guess now I have to see if there is a way to minimize the damage. No sense in just rolling over. I realize there are a lot of people struggling here with different things and as I sit here in the midst of the result of the choices that I have made, I know that I am here because I put myself here. So....I guess God has to show up somehow. Not sure how that looks but I hope that He does in whatever way He see's fit I suppose. I reckon that if this is ill gotten gain for her in God's eyes she will pay a price for that too.
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Man...I feel for you...HARD. That really sucks and it's so easy to get sucked into a leech relationship it's not even funny. As someone who has worked with A LOT of kids with autism, I'm terrified to imagine the Hell you were in, knowing that you had one armed and ready to go off.
Go in there with your chin up and don't take any crap. God's got ya through whatever happens.
Go in there with your chin up and don't take any crap. God's got ya through whatever happens.
I just got away from one of those --- Was with her almost 10 years --- Best advice i can give u is put it in god's hands , move on , get your divorce papers and text her only (for your own safety and records) . Just keep doing the right thing (god is watching) . I bet nothing is her fault either i could go on about that but --anyway - People like that never change - they just go from victim to victim looking for trouble .
WOW! I'm sorry that you've gone through all of that. I wouldn't even wish that upon my worst enemy. ...Well, I'd pray for my worst enemy... Anyways, I do pray that one day you'll be able to find your laughter again. "A merry heart does good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones." Prov 17:22 
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I'm sorry it didn't go well. Maybe things will change, yet?
When my oldest son got divorced last year, his ex took him for a lot, because he wis an electrical engineer. He told me how upset he was that she was smarter than him, but never got a degree or career, and always worked at low paying jobs cause she was too lazy to better herself. And then, got half of everything that he bought and paid for, plus alimony while she went to school, even though she could have done school during the 14 years they were married.
He finally came to a sort of acceptance that she basically robbed him blind, but it was his mistake. Funny, I remembered her chasing and pursuing him for 2 years, even when he was working out of town in the summer. Ok, she was weird and said and did a lot of mean things to me, although I totally acted nice to her, and only confronted her once, when she was totally off the wall.
Anyway, sorry to talk about me. I just hope you get to a place of "sort of" acceptance in the next while, like my son did!
When my oldest son got divorced last year, his ex took him for a lot, because he wis an electrical engineer. He told me how upset he was that she was smarter than him, but never got a degree or career, and always worked at low paying jobs cause she was too lazy to better herself. And then, got half of everything that he bought and paid for, plus alimony while she went to school, even though she could have done school during the 14 years they were married.
He finally came to a sort of acceptance that she basically robbed him blind, but it was his mistake. Funny, I remembered her chasing and pursuing him for 2 years, even when he was working out of town in the summer. Ok, she was weird and said and did a lot of mean things to me, although I totally acted nice to her, and only confronted her once, when she was totally off the wall.
Anyway, sorry to talk about me. I just hope you get to a place of "sort of" acceptance in the next while, like my son did!
the hard part is the people who are mad on my behalf. I'm finding that I have to be careful because they can escalate my emotions. Trying to set boundaries with people who go negative is hard because I don't want to alienate friends. I'm doing pretty good today. Not gonna talk about it or think about it anymore. We choose our thoughts and therefore have control over our emotional well being.
Well Sirk what doesn't kill us makes us Stronger -God put her in your life for a reason -- I did just like u did and Ignored the signs .... My life would be 10 times better if i would have never met my ex-wife --- but it is what it is -- it did however make me a Stronger,smarter,wiser person . Now as far as women go (which for the mean time im not even looking but) if i see any thing that even looks like a sign I turn and RUN no smiles, no hi's no NOTHING -- RUN .
I'm with you man. I'm pretty sure that I have ptsd from that experience. Lol. Not only from the soon be ex but her kids. The thing is that I really wanted to be their dad...and I am a good one. All one has to do is meet my son to see the evidence of that.
And as far as the women thing this whole experience has changed me in that regard. Not exactly sure how yet but one thing is for sure......I have absolutely zero interest in liking one, trying to impress one or getting closer that 2 feet to one. Lol
And as far as the women thing this whole experience has changed me in that regard. Not exactly sure how yet but one thing is for sure......I have absolutely zero interest in liking one, trying to impress one or getting closer that 2 feet to one. Lol
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Wow...I pray for you brother to have boldness and courage to do Gods Will...Go to that secret place where you can hear God...and then do what Gods says..not well intentioned people ..even "Christians" can make folks think something is Gods will, when its really not... If I had listened to "folks" other Christians ...I would be in a mess right now ..sometimes God will tell you to do something other Christians or family wont understand.
Pretty sure I'm in the acceptance phase. I wasn't heartbroken when my wife decided to pull the plug but I was disappointed that I failed at marriage again. So...I guess I'm doing ok. Gonna work on getting my weight room set up and start running again. Not gonna go in gang busters like I normally do. Gonna ease into, get eating healthier again. Our worship leaders last weekend is this weekend and he asked me if I would play one last time with him. I didn't realize how guarded I've become. Only one way to go from here....up.