I can't seem to forgive my mom and my brother

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Fleurdelise

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I am definite i will sound like an entitled child. I get you

my brother is younger than me. My mom worked everyday and dad was an overseas worker so we grew up almost on our own.
somehow even as a kid i took it upon me to be the head of the house since i was the eldest person around.
i have been strict and maybe even cruel but i dnt blame myself for that coz i was a kid too.
We both grew up and he was determined to get his own way with things, even when it was wrong.
he was determined not to follow me anymore. To show that hes stronger now and nobody can stop him from his stupidity that he obviously didnt see. He failed his subjects, he lied, he lied to get more money from our parents, slept until 2pm, stayed on the laptop all day, or drink everyday and come home early in the morning, the list goes on. I hated him.

i, as far as i know, was the good kid. I never asked them for stuff. I got scholarships, i got honors, i didnt enage in romantic relationships, i cleaned the house, etc. to make it short i tried to do everything right. For my parents.
i know my mom's job and how hard she works to earn so even though i grew up deprived of the things i wanted,
it was okay. I mean i didnt like it to be that way but i accepted it.
 
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Tinuviel

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So...the title says you cannot forgive them and the body of the text says you were ok with it all and and accepted it. Which is it? It cannot be both, you know. And if this is just a thread to vent, that's ok, but if you want people to give advice, you might want to be specific in what you want. It's hard when you feel like you're overworked and underpaid. I know. God knows. Jesus LIVED it. He is with you, sister :)
 
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Fleurdelise

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Sorry i wasnt done yet but i accidentally posted the thread! Sorry guys! Admin is yet to approve the changes. I wud continue but gtg for now..
 
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Tinuviel

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Ok, that makes more sense! No worries :)
 
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sassylady

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Even if your mom wasn't around much because she worked you were not in charge of your brother and he knew it. I had to do everything when we were growing up because both my parents worked full time and my brother and I were home after school and during the summer by ourselves. I'm 3 years older and he never listened to me, and I was the one that got in trouble for not watching after him. He never got in serious trouble however. Now I look at us, in our 50's and thank God I learned responsibility when I did. My brother has a hard time facing problems and taking care of things around the house because he never had to do any of it. Being the one who was responsible makes you a stronger person in the long run.
 
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