Married and lonely

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musiclover69

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Joined the chat room for companionship. I can't handle being married and lonely anymore. It's killing me inside and out
 

PennEd

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Joined the chat room for companionship. I can't handle being married and lonely anymore. It's killing me inside and out
Welcome! I hope you find fellowship and love with your brothers and sisters in the Lord here. I pray He would have His Hand on Your marriage.
 

blue_ladybug

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Welcome to CC. This forum is specifically for introducing yourself. Your OP is more appropriate for the Family forum. I can ask a mod to move this thread there for you. :)
 
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musiclover69

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I hope so too. Thanks for the prayers!
 

tourist

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What is the reason for your loneliness within your marriage? It is obvious tearing you up inside. I have said a prayer for God to alleviate your loneliness. Welcome to CC.
 
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musiclover69

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What is the reason for your loneliness within your marriage? It is obvious tearing you up inside. I have said a prayer for God to alleviate your loneliness. Welcome to CC.
It's what happens when you marry for the wrong reason. Something I did to myself and it's hard to live with
 
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musiclover69

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@blueladybug if it needs to be moved that's fine.
 
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Tinuviel

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You cannot expect your spouse to provide everything you need at all times. People are imperfect. Welcome to CC, and I hope you have some great fellowship! :)
 
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musiclover69

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I do not expect that at all. If you don't fully understand my situation, do not respond like that please.
 
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Church2u2

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Welcome to C.C
 

tourist

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Welcome to CC musiclover. :) I pray that you find support and encouragement here. If you need someone to talk with, feel free to send me a message. God bless you.
I pray the same for everyone that joins our community. Welcome to CC.
 

azlightsout

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DO you pray for your partner or is this something thats beyond repair?
 
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What the brother or sister was saying to you was not judging you. What they said was true, if we expect any persons to fill a hole or void in our lives you will be let down. When we starve our souls of the milk and meat of heaven. We seek to fill our hunger with the things of the world, we all have done this. They never will be able to fill it, only God can do that. Make him the center of your life, for all fail to meet each others needs and expectations because we are human, is what I believe they were trying to convey. That Only God will never fail you. You said you married for the wrong reasons and because of that it has caused your loneliness. If you are in love with God dear brother or sister you are never alone. You cannot stand it anymore you said, correct? You said you joined for companionship. They reached out to you in love and encouragement welcoming you. Do you seek fellowship? Is that what is lacking in your house? We are all here for fellowship and sharing so I too second the welcome. Just because you might have run into "judgemental" people to include those that are sometimes associated or called "Christians" doesn't mean everyone is like that, or out to judge. For the measure you give is the measure you get. A true follower is too busy to judge their brothers and sisters, because they are too busy judging themselves, striving to be more like Christ and be nearer to the Father. God Bless.
 
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I would say you never stop praying for the needs of your brother or sister, or anyone in need, even your "partner". For if you expect Christ to forgive you and have mercy upon you, then you too must pray for others and forgive others. One of the deciphers asked the Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother who sins against me? He said seven times? The Lord replied, I tell you seven times seventy times. Another words as many times as they ask. Since we are also imperfect seek forgiveness, who trespass again and again against God seek his mercy. So too should you pray for those who persecute you, give mercy when none is asked, love without being loved. Give without expecting anything in return.
 
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Joined the chat room for companionship. I can't handle being married and lonely anymore. It's killing me inside and out
Can I ask you what type of music lover you are? I tend to connect with people who share my interest in certain types of music. I find it music the perfect distraction from my troubles.
 

StrongWoman

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musiclover69... I understand what it is to be married and lonely. I married a Christian man who showed some great qualities, but he has since drifted and I am left in a marriage where we have little or no real prayer or fellowship. It wasn't my fault, and I am a strong enough Christian to not seek my wholeness in another person, but it is still lonely.

I was never lonely when single, I enjoyed the "freedom to serve with undivided devotion", was very active in my church, dedicated to ministry, and had some great friends and prayer partners. Now that I'm married with kids, I have less time and more "troubles in this life" as Paul put it. I had hoped that my husband would be friend and prayer partner, but he is not.

Yes, it is very lonely. Looking for a prayer partner.
 
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musiclover69

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Would love to prayer partner with you. I get where you're coming from
 
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Can I ask you what type of music lover you are? I tend to connect with people who share my interest in certain types of music. I find it music the perfect distraction from my troubles.
Sure, I like all kinds of music, Christian, country, some classic rock and even some R&B. Depends on my mood I guess. I lean toward some songs that make me think of God more so, like the song you move me,by Garth Brooks, makes me thing of the Lord Jesus and the Father.