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Majp

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Hi,

i joined because i feel that i need to open up with all my problems and frustrations in life. I am Maj, and I'm handicap since i was young but my situation didnt give me any reason to self pity or even feel unable. I'd say ive had a wonderful and supportive family hence i ddnt have the feel of being inadequate. They sent me to good school up to college, have normal friends, go out with them, lived my life like any normal person would do. Right now, I am currently working and earning quite a good salary. It should make me happy, yes, only sometimes I feel that because I was able to prove to everyone that I can, most of my family now depends on me. My eldest sibling has children but she's unable to support them by herself. Being the one who earns a lot, i obliged myself of helping her but I feel that she's not pushing herself anymore to provide for her children knowing that i'm here, always ready to help. ive always believe that whatever ive attained and reached in life was God's gift therefore it is just right that i share it with others. but sometimes i feel its kinda unfair because when its me who needs help, they cant do anything for me. I just end up carrying all the burdens myself. Rght now, i just feel so down..
 
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Sounds as if you feel that others are using you. Of course, you should help if you are able but it will break your back if carry someone. It appears that you are enabling your sister to just relax and allow you to carry her burden all by yourself. I have been in a similar situation and in the end it cost me more than I could afford to lose. Pray that God allows you to ease your way out of the situation that you are in. In any case, it is good to have you as a member of our community. Welcome to CC.
 
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GraceRevelation

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Sounds like your a very blessed person in a lot of ways. Your feeling used and also feeling like when your down no one is there to help you. You did say you have had supportive parents and people that have helped you along the way. Helping your sister is a good thing to do but if she's abusing your help or just deciding to rely on you for money instead of trying to better herself that's no good. This is something you should explain to her and leave it at that. Pray for her :)
 
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Having the compassion to help others is a good thing, but there's a fine line between lending a helpful hand and being taken advantage of.. Your probably beginning to feel unappreciated, as your sister has become completely reliant on you. Sometimes in our efforts to come to a persons aid, we inadvertently enable them to become dependent on us. Sounds like its time to help your sister become independent. I'd start cutting the financial aid each month, and tell her in 90 days the money train stops. Hopefully this will inspire her to become self-reliant, she needs to begin carrying her own burden and lighten yours... jmo
 
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Hi majp, welcome to cc. There are many friendly and helpful people here, so may you find the help and encourgament you so need now. Back to the Bible and the Lord Himself, who alone will answer you. But you can get the advice and prayers of the many faithful here who also go thru what is 'common to man.' May God truly lift you up in ur struggles right now.
 
Violet24

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Majp... Be encouraged to keep your eyes on Jesus & He will be faithful to walk you through these things that you are dealing with. I know that the Lord see's the cry of our hearts & He hears every prayer. Life can be difficult at times, where we are facing obstacles & unfair circumstances, but the Lord promise to build strength into your life & peace. It so important to spend time with the Lord & in His word daily or as often as you can, because this is where our strength comes from, the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. He Loves You & He will give you the wisdom & integrity to walk through anything that may come your way. Psalms 138:8 The LORD will complete what his purpose is for me. LORD, your gracious love is eternal; do not abandon your personal work in me.
 
BJS199

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U r blessed ,thank God. And help ur family if u r able to!
 
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Majp

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BJS199 said:
U r blessed ,thank God. And help ur family if u r able to!
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Hi,

I know I am and i thank God everyday for that. It's just sometimes it feels like just because I am able to help, they depend on me so much that they forgot they need to do something for their own families. Thanks for taking the time to respond.
 
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Majp

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Hi, thanks I am as well happy that finally i am able to express my feelings and feels great to know that there are people like you guys who listen. :)
 
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Majp

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I never stopped praying that someday everything will fall into places. I just couldnt show them that there are days that I feel weak, down because I've always wanted to prove to them that despite of my situation I can do evrything and anything. Could be wrong?
 
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Majp

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I have talked to her in all ways possible but she never changed. I'm just concerned with her children as i was the one who raised both of them while she was still working abroad 3 years ago. I really want to stop helping her but her children would suffer much if i do.
 
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Majp

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Thank you. know that despite all my struggles, i never stopped holding on to Him. Ive always had faith in Him and never cease to pray :)
 
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Majp

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Thank you Violet. I know that this is just a phase. And all these will struggles will end. Actually, it felt much better the day after I wrote the blog. Weird as it may sound, i got this thinking that right after I hit the send button it will go straight to heaven and God will read it. :) Its just what I needed. To be heard. And I thank you guys for your responses.
 
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