Struggling mom

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Katiebandbaby

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I'm 27 and in need of some prayers and sopport. 3 weeks ago I gave birth to my gift from God. She was 27 weeks 2.6 lbs. way to early. She is doing well in the NICU but mommy is struggling. On top of her birth I am fighting anxiety and depression from the birth my car broke down I have to move this month and today my dog died. I feel like I'm trapped in a bad country song. I know that God only gives you as much as you can handle but I feel like I'm at my breaking point. The worst part is I'm struggling to keep my relationship with God. I know that there are so many others with bigger problems then me but I'm overwhelmed at this point and feel for some reason that reaching out to gods people is the step I need to take. I could use some people in my life that will give me some good advice.
 
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Hi Katie, welcome to CC.
Sorry to hear about your situation. You may want to think about posting in the Prayer Request forum as this section is more for introducing yourself and you probably won't get many responses.

I'm not sure how much you're feeling is post partum and how much is just being overwhelmed, but have you looked into professional counseling? It may be a good place to start.

If you need to vent and talk to a know it all with more advice than brains :D, then feel free to message me. If you'd rather talk with a woman there are some amazing women on the site you could find as well.
 
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Im praying for u - God will make a WAY ---
 
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Katiebandbaby said:
I'm 27 and in need of some prayers and sopport. 3 weeks ago I gave birth to my gift from God. She was 27 weeks 2.6 lbs. way to early. She is doing well in the NICU but mommy is struggling. On top of her birth I am fighting anxiety and depression from the birth my car broke down I have to move this month and today my dog died. I feel like I'm trapped in a bad country song. I know that God only gives you as much as you can handle but I feel like I'm at my breaking point. The worst part is I'm struggling to keep my relationship with God. I know that there are so many others with bigger problems then me but I'm overwhelmed at this point and feel for some reason that reaching out to gods people is the step I need to take. I could use some people in my life that will give me some good advice.
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I am sorry for all your going through and I understand the feeling of being at the brink of despair and yes God never gives us more than we can handle but at the same time that isn't because we ourselves are suppose to carry the burden alone even Jesus needed help at one point to carry his cross and he was both man and God. If he wanted to he could have asked father for strength to carry it all but he didn't he needed help can you guess why?

Because he was showing an example he was showing that we don't need to carry our cross by ourselves if even he needed help to do so how much more do we need help? Personally for me it wasn't through the easy times that he and I grew the most it was in the harsh times in the painful and sad and lonely times that he and I developed a deeper bond because it was in those times I clung to him with dear life the most it was in those times that I felt his arms wrap around me in my tears and in my bed it was in those times that he spoke to my heart the most and it was in those times that I poured my heart to him the most that I was not hesitant to express my deep pain and sadness my utter loss of hope and my fears and doubts even for him.

If you look at the human body notice how it doesn't build muscle by having it easy it becomes strong through hardships through feeding it the right vitamins and giving it what it needs to make through the hardships. If a person goes to the gym and works out gives it their all yet doesn't give the body what it needs to build from that work out all you get is damage and torn muscles.
It's as if God built the human as an example of this situation, it is through the hard times we grow the most but if we forget to feed ourselves spiritually then the storms over take us.

in these times seek him out however you can listen to Christian music as much as possible read the bible talk to him like he is your best friend and your own personal diary and most of all let him and others help you carry your problems and your fears your cross is not yours to carry. I will always be here as well I will help you carry your cross as much as I can I will encourage you I will give you advice I will even simply be an ear to listen whatever I or anyone else can do for you know that you are not alone
 
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Katiebandbaby said:
I'm 27 and in need of some prayers and sopport. 3 weeks ago I gave birth to my gift from God. She was 27 weeks 2.6 lbs. way to early. She is doing well in the NICU but mommy is struggling. On top of her birth I am fighting anxiety and depression from the birth my car broke down I have to move this month and today my dog died. I feel like I'm trapped in a bad country song. I know that God only gives you as much as you can handle but I feel like I'm at my breaking point. The worst part is I'm struggling to keep my relationship with God. I know that there are so many others with bigger problems then me but I'm overwhelmed at this point and feel for some reason that reaching out to gods people is the step I need to take. I could use some people in my life that will give me some good advice.
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Hi katie... Welcome.... The great thing is how precious your baby is... Congratulations... Is she your first?... I'm sure she is going to be fine... God takes good care of things like that... Things can pile up on us real fast at times... Things we never even see coming... But God saw them coming... He always does... Believe it or not your already on the right track... You've got God in the middle of it... Sometimes right in the middle of things is the hardest place to be because we keep trying to trying to makes sense of things with our own human mind, and the truth is it just dont... The more things pile up the more we have to give them to God... It ain't easy.... I know... But we have to get past all those voices in our head trying to make sense of things and just realize, God's got this.... Somehow... Some way...inside you have got to let Him in....
Lord, thank you for bringing Katie here... Thank you for that precious life you have her... It is indeed a true blessing... Thank you Lord, that you were with her during the birth... Thank you Lord, you have her in a really good hospital and she's well taken care of... Cause we know, you take care of all your children... We thank you for all the ways you surprise us when things are taken care of... And I pray we always give you the praise for it.... Katie needs a hug Lord, and there ain't nobody better at giving hugs than you... Thank you for our new friend, and thank you that you got this all worked out already..... In your Holy precious name we pray.... Amen
 
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Thank you all so much for responding. She is in fact my first and when I hold her is when I feel god the most. I know he's watching and caring for her. I will do my best to turn it all over to him. I feel like in the end all this will make me stronger and even a better mother I just look forward to when that day comes.
 
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Welcome to CC. There is a prayer requests forum here, and if you care to share more of your story, the Family forum is the best place to do it. :) I will refer you to Pres19, she has a baby who really struggled after his birth and is doing very good today. I'll message her and get her in contact with you. :) Meanwhile, please ready my depression thread below in my signature, and check out my CC faith book in the Miscellaneous forum. It's stickied at the top of page 1.
 
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You most certainly are overwhelmed. I went through something similar a few years ago. On the day that my late wife got hospitalized my car broke down. A couple months later, because of the problems caused by her son and family I got evicted from my apartment and lost my dog. This happened in winter. It seems to me that your problems are huge.

I do hope that you have some support from your family and possibly friends. I have said a prayer for God to be with you and deliver you from the bad situation that you are in. Hopefully, this site will become a safe and restful place for you to come to.

Welcome to CC.
 
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Katiebandbaby said:
Thank you all so much for responding. She is in fact my first and when I hold her is when I feel god the most. I know he's watching and caring for her. I will do my best to turn it all over to him. I feel like in the end all this will make me stronger and even a better mother I just look forward to when that day comes.
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Your gonna be just fine darlin.... Cause your speakin faith knowing what's coming... And its coming... God bless
 
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I hope she comes back soon I want to know how she is doing
 
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Bad things often happen in clusters, don't be overwhelmed, just take it one day at a time and tackle each problem. The bible says that no temptation is allowed that we can't overcome (1 Corinthians 10:13), but that doesn't necessarily mean that God will put a cap on problems. Sometimes we tackle more than we can handle at once and our predicament is a result of our own decisions and over-estimating ourselves. Think about it, you needed to move, have an unreliable car, a sick dog, and you decided to have a baby. Its kind of like someone who is 3 house payments behind on his mortgage, the bank is about to foreclose on him, but yet he's busy putting an Olympic size swimming pool in his back yard. Some potential problems can't be foreseen, but we can load too much on our plate at once and fail to anticipate set-backs. Pray for the strength to get through, but also learn from the experience. It might be wise to buy your own house, a new car, and a new puppy prior to having another baby. Your difficulties aren't anything that a ton of money can't fix :)
 
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Welcome to CC. I hope you can find the support you need here, as you struggle with so many things.

I've had 4, and post partum depression is no joke, especially with the first one. To say nothing of all the other things. Also the Bible doesn't say you won't be given more than you can handle. It says you won't be tempted more than you can handle. Although sometimes those are almost the same, aren't they?

So have you reached out to any mother's groups in your area, or post partum groups? Having support in real life can be a big help. I didn't with my first, so I reached out with my second, and that helped me get through the worst days. How often do you get to see your daughter? Or are you basically living at the hospital? I am going to keep you in prayer. Please let us know how you are doing.


"Heavenly Father, I pray for Katie and baby. Give Katie strength, hope and joy. Help her to find a new apartment and let her have a few moments to grieve the death of her dog. As for all those hormones, give her stability of heart and mind in spite of the changes, and then help her to recover from that difficult part of after child birth. Let her daughter continue to grow and in fact, help this baby to thrive. And if possible, let her car be fixed with a minimum amount of time and money. We know you are a prayer answering God, and I praise you for what you have done and what you are going to do in the life of Katie and her precious new baby. In Jesus name I pray, Amen."
 
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You must be one special lady. I've read a lot of good responses to your unfortunate story so I'll be brief. Mainly, DO NOT LEAVE YOUR PLACE IN CHRIST. There is no problem he can't bring you out of. He is right there with you! But if you move from under his glory, his strength, his grace, his mercy, you will be dealing with these problems alone! He loves you soooooo dearly! Each trial and tribulation will grow you stronger. You can make it through this!! Just stay in Christ. Glad you are here on CC :)
 
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Be thankful for your little one. I'll pray for you.
 
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Katiebandbaby said:
I'm 27 and in need of some prayers and sopport. 3 weeks ago I gave birth to my gift from God. She was 27 weeks 2.6 lbs. way to early. She is doing well in the NICU but mommy is struggling. On top of her birth I am fighting anxiety and depression from the birth my car broke down I have to move this month and today my dog died. I feel like I'm trapped in a bad country song. I know that God only gives you as much as you can handle but I feel like I'm at my breaking point. The worst part is I'm struggling to keep my relationship with God. I know that there are so many others with bigger problems then me but I'm overwhelmed at this point and feel for some reason that reaching out to gods people is the step I need to take. I could use some people in my life that will give me some good advice.
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You may well know God only gives what you can handle, but it's not the truth. If we can handle it all, why would we need him? We came to him in despair, he gave us what we needed, and then we say, "Okay, God! I'll take it from here."

Doh! You can't handle it! Superwoman is the figment of an overactive imagination. Now get back to who you needed in the first place -- God. And let him help you handle it. That's why he brought you to him.

And, no, that doesn't mean your country-song life goes in reverse. Keep asking when you need help until you notice you need help all the time. (And, you have a baby, so you'll be needing help for the rest of your life on that one alone.) And then notice the unusual ways he does help you. I don't know what they'll be, but experience has taught me he never gives help in the expected ways. Appreciate it, and him, and at the end of the day be thankful he got you through yet another day. Sometimes in life making it through a day is a miracle in itself.

I'm really sorry about the dog. I know that wasn't as glib as the country-song relationship suggested. Pets become family.

But I'm very glad your daughter has survived. She is still in ICU, but every day she survives makes it more and more likely she stays with you on earth.

Cars break down. If you think about it, exactly when IS a good time for a car to break down? I never have had a convenient moment yet. (And yes, that was to make you chuckle a little. My car has been to the mechanics three times in the last seven months -- last time for just an inspection and it passed -- but I too have been spending most of my time visiting someone I love in the ICU and then slowly he's gotten better, so it seemed super inconvenient until I tried to remember when it was ever convenient.)

And, most importantly -- YOU need to see your doctor soon. Yes. By all rights you should be anxious and depressed. BUT, you also just had a baby, so it may be compounded by postpartum depression, which can be medically treated. You're supposed to be a cauldron of emotions now, but what if some of that is just a physiological reaction that could be treated, so it doesn't feel quite as bad as it does feel? It's a lot worse if you break down than your car breaking down. Take care of yourself, because their is a very little girl in the hospital waiting to come home to mommy, so she needs Mommy to take care of Mommy.

And let God take care of you too. That was always his plan -- to take care of you because he loves you.
 
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Welcome to CC!
I'm a bit late seeing your post since I haven't been online in a bit.
Anyway, if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me. My son was born at 25 weeks and 4 days into my pregnancy. 2 lbs 2 oz and 14 1/2". He was in the NICU for 87 days. We went through a few surgeries and it was a very stressful time but a true blessing. :)

I'll be praying for you and your little one.
 
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