The need to always be 'right'
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In some cases, it is a brain disorder, such as Borderline Personality Disorder. I don't understand (I doubt science understands) why something wrong in the brain causes someone to be so "stubborn" they can't admit any error on their part, but such is the case.
One can speculate that this might be the gray area between spiritual deception/oppression and neurological brain dysfunction. But how can that be measured?
One can speculate that this might be the gray area between spiritual deception/oppression and neurological brain dysfunction. But how can that be measured?
This was me, and it was one of several factors in the destruction of my marriage. As a kid, I did well in school, without much effort. However, I did not do well socially or athletically, so I got my affirmation for having the right answer. Although I slipped academically in university, I regained the success in later years, but still struggled in other areas. I was not affirmed for simply being'.
When I started dealing seriously with my shortcomings, I had to admit that I had been seriously wrong about some things. This, combined with a right understanding of God's love for me, helped break the 'need' to be right. Now I freely admit being wrong, or possibly wrong, for although I still strive to be right I won't always be.
Of course, that's just my story. Others may have different explanations for theirs.
When I started dealing seriously with my shortcomings, I had to admit that I had been seriously wrong about some things. This, combined with a right understanding of God's love for me, helped break the 'need' to be right. Now I freely admit being wrong, or possibly wrong, for although I still strive to be right I won't always be.
Of course, that's just my story. Others may have different explanations for theirs.
J
Some people just love problem solving, figuring out why and going from there because their nature is to analyze things.
Me, I have difficulty shutting the process off sometimes, but then again I get pushed a lot by ignorant people (gives me work to do, drives me forward. I can be somewhat of a perfectionist in this regard). Just trying to get to a place where I have peace... which can be like wading through a river of manure uphill. That's my life ^^
Me, I have difficulty shutting the process off sometimes, but then again I get pushed a lot by ignorant people (gives me work to do, drives me forward. I can be somewhat of a perfectionist in this regard). Just trying to get to a place where I have peace... which can be like wading through a river of manure uphill. That's my life ^^
See? I'm always right LOL. They just need a hug.
The "I Need To Be Right" Way of Thinking - article by Dr. Lynne Namka
The "I Need To Be Right" Way of Thinking - article by Dr. Lynne Namka