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Well I would definitely pray about this situation, also for him to leave you for another woman is grounds for you to divorce him due to marriage infidelity. Hopefully you have family that can help you out, I will keep you in prayer and pray for wisdom to get through this situation. I know from first hand about this because my first wife left me for another guy. God Bless
There is an even huger problem. He doesn't love YOU. :/ AND he dumped you for another woman, AND you had to leave the country. Essentially you have no marriage left anymore. If he valued you and his marriage, he wouldn't have left either of you. Your marriage ended the first time he cheated on you. Adultery is biblical grounds for divorce. The two of you are in different countries, he has made his choice and all the prayer in the world won't bring him back UNLESS HE wants to be brought back to the marriage, and it sounds fairly obvious that isn't gonna happen.
Exactly. He threw away you and your family and his marriage. You need to accept that he's a different person now, and obviously wants something different out of life that doesn't include a half-century old marriage. The biggest mistake you could make right now, is to sit around hoping he'll come back. You need to cut ties with him and somehow move on. God uses divorce to bring something better into people's lives. He doesn't want you to sit around and wait for this guy. Turn to God and he will give you the strength and wisdom to do what's right in this matter.
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Now is a time like no other to hold onto God, He is now your Husband and will see you through this. He should always be first because when we lose everything, we never lose Him.
My ex molested our daughters, we had been married almost 27 years, and I loved him very much. But he made a very bad choice and he threw away everything he had. I had to do what was best for the children. At first it was one hour at a time, then a day at a time. It has been almost 12 years now and I think about him less and less, but it took nearly 10 years to get through all the grief. The Lord once directed me to look up the 7 stages of grief, and I could follow it through the entire 10 years.
Pray for your husband, he needs it just like my ex needs it. It doesn't feel like it right now but it does get better, less bad days and more good ones.
My ex molested our daughters, we had been married almost 27 years, and I loved him very much. But he made a very bad choice and he threw away everything he had. I had to do what was best for the children. At first it was one hour at a time, then a day at a time. It has been almost 12 years now and I think about him less and less, but it took nearly 10 years to get through all the grief. The Lord once directed me to look up the 7 stages of grief, and I could follow it through the entire 10 years.
Pray for your husband, he needs it just like my ex needs it. It doesn't feel like it right now but it does get better, less bad days and more good ones.
That's a classic move from an adulterer. He's playing your emotions like a fiddle. Most likely he wants his cake and to eat it too. Meaning he wants a wife he doesn't love at home, and have the girlfriend on the side. If you're serious about wanting to get away from this agony, then tell him to leave you alone and let you move on. I was cheated on several times, in 3 separate relationships. Each one told me they loved me, but were only saying that because they were sorry I found out. And each one continued on cheating, so I left. I wasn't willing to be used anymore and made a fool of. YOU shouldn't be willing to be made a fool of, either.
But he's NOT trying. If he were trying, he'd be there with you instead of her. He would be in your bed, and not hers. He would be in the same country with you. You can't change his mind, only God can do that, IF he wants to change. If he doesn't want to change, then God won't do anything. God can't and won't force him into returning to you. The only victory he will have is a new girlfriend who will most likely also get cheated on by him at some point. Don't enable him to hurt you any more. He sent you flowers, more as a birthday gift, rather than a sincere attempt to repair your marriage. If he sincerely wanted you back, he'd be there with you.. The fact that he isn't, speaks for itself..
I'm sure God is pleased with you because you have love in your heart and are willing to forgive your husband.
I have a friend (now in his 60's) who fell in a trap like that - he fell in love with an 18-year-old girl and told his wife about the romance. The church elders intervened and my friend returned to his wife.
For God nothing is impossible -- If He is willing He will bring your husband to repentance and, if He is not, He will prepare something better for you. I'm sorry for your pain! All I can do is to pray and I'm gonna do it right after I send this post.
I have a friend (now in his 60's) who fell in a trap like that - he fell in love with an 18-year-old girl and told his wife about the romance. The church elders intervened and my friend returned to his wife.
For God nothing is impossible -- If He is willing He will bring your husband to repentance and, if He is not, He will prepare something better for you. I'm sorry for your pain! All I can do is to pray and I'm gonna do it right after I send this post.
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Unrequited love is a heart-rending situation.I know how it feels like but the only advice i have for you is to still put him in prayers everytime you pray.Then set your mind free,get busy, do things that make you happy.Find time for your kids and family and other people who find you invaluable because if you spend too much time brooding over your husband's issues you just might end up raising your blood pressure.Sometimes things like these happen so that we can rediscover ourselves and our partners and reexamine our choices while sorting out the loopholes that caused the problem.God never sleeps...whatsoever belongs to you will always come back to you!